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beneteau
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  10:47:25 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote

She's been with this company 10 months as a Material Planner. She has not been a Material Planner since the day she started. Does nothing but expedite incoming materials. This company changes production schedules on a daily basis. There is no way to obtain needed materials with the daily production schedule changes. Very hostile working environment.

Every day she wants to "throw up" knowing she's going back to that hell-hole. In 10 months, she has had 3 different supervisors. Constant pressure to accomplish impossible tasks.

She received a rant from a supervisor because he couldn't understand why one of her vendors couldn't get a part from China in 3 days.

Last week she was written up for part shortage and the part was the responsibility of another Material Planner.

No end to upper management's stupidity.

We talked it over last night so Monday morning they will get her resignation.

We should be OK until she can land another job. The house is "paid off" so we'll have a roof over our heads.

Heavy Chevy
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  10:50:02 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Good for her! When the job starts to make her sick, it's time to go!
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84Bravo1
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  10:50:34 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Life is too short to be miserable in the Job you have. Especially with the situation you describe.

Best of luck to your Wife on landing a new Gig.

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hillbille
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  10:50:47 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
think I would file harrassment charges before leaving, or threat of such for an apology before going...
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84Bravo1
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  10:53:02 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by hillbille

think I would file harrassment charges before leaving, or threat of such for an apology before going...



Negative. "Hostile Work Environment." Get it on record when you file your resignation.
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mrmike08075
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:00:14 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Not good and not healthy.

Being forced to deal with such a situation is stressful and a heavy burden

For what it's worth I hope that better days are ahead for you and yours.

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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:04:33 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
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buddyb
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:05:30 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Good for her and good for you.It is hell living with a woman that hates her job.
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asphalt cowboy
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:24:02 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Good for her.
Ain't no paycheck worth sacrificing her own dignity and self respect over.

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Barzillia
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:27:34 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
And no reason to make money for anyone who treats you like crap.

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Old-Colts
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  11:43:53 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Given the circumstances and work environment that you describe; you and your wife came to the right decision. Best of luck to both of you!
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4205raymond
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  12:03:53 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
She sounds like a smart cookie. I am sure her next employer will appreciate her talent.
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us55840
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  12:12:32 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
She COULD make them suffer ... stick around and let them fire her. Then she can collect unemployment on their dime.

However, being in a hostile work enviornment is not good; been there a few times & resigned from a few positions.

Last time in such a situation, I just bought the business and ran it successfully until retirement.

The old saying; "Nothing is impossible for those who do NOT have to do it" is so true.

My employees were always treated respectfully...the way I expected to be treated & never fired anyone.
When some departed for other jobs, I always wished them well.


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JamesRK
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  3:49:49 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
She didn't ask for my advice but I'll give it anyway.

If at all possible she should leave on friendly terms; at least on paper. It is hard to resist the temptation to slam them but it's usually best.

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abrickrock
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  3:58:39 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Sounds exactly like where I used to work. Material planner is probably the toughest job these days, every company lies about delivery time. I wasn’t in that department but I felt for those people.
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wpageabc
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  4:12:44 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Time to move on...

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Wrangler
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  4:18:12 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Life is too short to be stressed out all of the time. I wish her well. Plenty of other jobs out there.
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fordsix
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  5:41:10 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
eat a can o beans night before HR visit
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grumpygy
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  5:45:55 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Glad she caught it early and you are in a place that gives her time to find a new job. Stress is a killer.
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Idahobound
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  5:54:57 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Any thought on keeping that job until she finds a new one. Employed people are more employable.
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andrewsw16
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  5:57:05 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by JamesRK

She didn't ask for my advice but I'll give it anyway.

If at all possible she should leave on friendly terms; at least on paper. It is hard to resist the temptation to slam them but it's usually best.



Agree. Leave on friendly terms. Just grit your teeth and do it. These are the people who will be contacted by her next prospective employer. Don't want comments about "disgruntled employee" or "troublemaker" being mentioned to the new job interviewer. Just leave for "personal reasons" and "wanting to explore new career opportunities".
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asop
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  6:46:06 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Sometimes you have to walk away sometimes you have to run.
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hillbille
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  9:19:50 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by andrewsw16

quote:
Originally posted by JamesRK

She didn't ask for my advice but I'll give it anyway.

If at all possible she should leave on friendly terms; at least on paper. It is hard to resist the temptation to slam them but it's usually best.



Agree. Leave on friendly terms. Just grit your teeth and do it. These are the people who will be contacted by her next prospective employer. Don't want comments about "disgruntled employee" or "troublemaker" being mentioned to the new job interviewer. Just leave for "personal reasons" and "wanting to explore new career opportunities".



while I agree totally, most companies like the one mentioned, will get mad when she quits, and I doubt they would give a good reference no matter what she says when she leaves. sounds like the management is just wanting to push blame on anyone they can to keep themselves looking good, much as I hate to say it, but that seems to be the norm with most companies today, all upper management wants are yes men, and they will blame anyone under them to keep themselves looking as good as possible. best of luck to her and you, as others have said piece of mind is way better than living with the daily stress.
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remingtonoaks
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USA
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Posted - 02/10/2018 :  9:30:28 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
If she hates it there that much, it's time for change. but she's not to make sure she leaves on good terms. As JamesRK said...

Even if they don't give a good recommendation because they feel jilted, if she leave on bad terms, they can give a horrible recommendation
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Flying Clay Disk
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USA
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Posted - 02/11/2018 :  09:09:57 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by remingtonoaks

If she hates it there that much, it's time for change. but she's not to make sure she leaves on good terms. As JamesRK said...

Even if they don't give a good recommendation because they feel jilted, if she leave on bad terms, they can give a horrible recommendation



AND...get a great big fat lawsuit on their asses in return too!!!

Most companies anymore won't even let supervisors talk to companies looking for references, they have their HR departments do it. All they'll say is the person worked for the company, and 'click'. In the firm I work for taking a reference call without referring it to HR is grounds for termination (even as a senior program level engineer/manager).

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Warbirds
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USA
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Posted - 02/11/2018 :  09:23:16 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Flying Clay Disk

quote:
Originally posted by remingtonoaks

If she hates it there that much, it's time for change. but she's not to make sure she leaves on good terms. As JamesRK said...

Even if they don't give a good recommendation because they feel jilted, if she leave on bad terms, they can give a horrible recommendation



AND...get a great big fat lawsuit on their asses in return too!!!

Most companies anymore won't even let supervisors talk to companies looking for references, they have their HR departments do it. All they'll say is the person worked for the company, and 'click'. In the firm I work for taking a reference call without referring it to HR is grounds for termination (even as a senior program level engineer/manager).



Well the HR folks can phrase it differently

Yes I can verify Ms. Jones was a material planner here from August -2004 until February of 218.

OR

Ms. Jones was employed with Global Corp from August 2004 until February of 2018 but our legal department will not allow me to provide any other details.

Both of which are accurate but they send very different messages to prospective employers.

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nmyers
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Posted - 02/11/2018 :  11:32:44 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
They may be setting her up for "termination with cause", so that she won't get workmans compensation that would be charged against the company. I would suggest that she try to document every unreasonable action that they take against her. Even record conversations & interviews on her cellphone (if legally permitted by the state).

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asphalt cowboy
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Posted - 02/11/2018 :  12:53:26 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Resigning this soon after a written reprimand they're going to know why and will be scrambling to cover their collective asses. There's no way she's going to be able to sugar Toxic Environment as a reason for resigning.

Given the toxic environment they created and the bogus write up there's no reason to believe they won't scheme some bogus means of getting unemployment benefits denied.

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grumpygy
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USA
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Posted - 02/11/2018 :  12:58:03 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Flying Clay Disk

quote:
Originally posted by remingtonoaks

If she hates it there that much, it's time for change. but she's not to make sure she leaves on good terms. As JamesRK said...

Even if they don't give a good recommendation because they feel jilted, if she leave on bad terms, they can give a horrible recommendation



AND...get a great big fat lawsuit on their asses in return too!!!

Most companies anymore won't even let supervisors talk to companies looking for references, they have their HR departments do it. All they'll say is the person worked for the company, and 'click'. In the firm I work for taking a reference call without referring it to HR is grounds for termination (even as a senior program level engineer/manager).



Yep all they will say is if the person did work there. Nothing else.
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yoshmyster
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  05:57:42 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm not there (YET) but I can't wait to QUIT!!!
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44pinshooter
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USA
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  06:38:49 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Good for her.
Any job that make you sick, just fills you with stress and stress can and does lead to health issues. You and her, don't need that.
Just me, but becareful on how she leaves. Better to leave on "frendly" terms. The management can and will say all kinds of things about her to any inquiries from a new employer.
Last year, my day job, fired a manager. I worked next to him for 11 years and other than he had a habbit of being late, a lot, some times a bit moody, but seemed to always get his work done. I do not know why he was fired, but the company line is, "He was terminated in October 2017 and is barred from coming on company property." Maybe he did something that I don't know about or maybe he stepped on the wrong toes?
If you were looking at hiring him, would that line make you step back?
Have her put in her 2 week notice, then take her for a nice weekend some where and treat her like a queen.

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Cubslover
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USA
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  08:27:36 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
My wife hated her job when she quit 8 years ago. I've not asked her to go back yet, a stay-at-home mom is more beneficial for me/us.

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Mr. Perfect
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  12:41:06 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
No one is allowed to treat me like that. Glad she is leaving. I wouldn't give them the courtesy of any notice. Just leave.

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mogley98
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  2:18:36 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I was with my previous employer for 20 years. Loyal all day every day.

They kept adding responsibility, and extra departments even after I said it was too much. They added money too, but I told them I didn't want the money or the added stress.

Finally I quit, best move I ever made. Started my own business and now I get to charge them every time they need something :)
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shilowar
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USA
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Posted - 02/13/2018 :  6:54:26 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
My wife hates her job, but she likes to spend money and she can't have both. We all gotta make choices.
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Horse Plains Drifter
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Botswana
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Posted - 02/14/2018 :  08:29:17 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Mr. Perfect

No one is allowed to treat me like that. Glad she is leaving. I wouldn't give them the courtesy of any notice. Just leave.

Yep, that's me. Nobody gets even close to treating me like that.


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penguin
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Posted - 02/14/2018 :  10:07:54 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
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