I'm a frazzled mess.....taking this weekend off, but putting up my CHRISTMAS TREE!!!!
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With the loss of my father in law last Thursday this past entire week was all I could take. Its a running thing with me that anything important or devastating will happen on Thursday. So, of course, my husband's father passed away on a Thursday. He was an angel of a man....and Larry's mother is the type of woman that could make Princess Grace look like a bar hag. So, of course, everything came to a standstill when this happened. We all gathered to be with them.....desperately trying to hold it together.
A lot of my auctions that weren't completely ready to go got pushed back to this week. I spent a lot of time going to check on my mother in law, taking her to lunch and visiting with the people bringing food to her home. She has enough meals in her fridge and freezer right now to feed a pro football team with leftovers to spare.
The visitation was Sunday.....the chapel was filled to the brim. The entire county (and then some) showed up....people from every aspect of life that you never see hanging out in a room together. The top politicians of our area....people in greasy work clothes....all of my high school friends that remember him being such a great father figure and example of how to be a true gift to everyone around him. It really was a truly impressive thing to see.
I've cried so many times this past week that my nose is raw. I did all I could to get the shipping done, this week's auctions up and keep it together. My own father's passing didn't hit me as hard as this has. My father wasn't abusive, not a bad person at all, but he was distant and not very involved in my life....so when I lost him it was sad, but I was able to function pretty normally. I think seeing how many people were affected by my father in law's passing after seeing my father just fade away without fanfare made it even harder to deal with.
I hope this week will be more back to normal. I don't plan on going anywhere or overdoing it in any way if I can. I WOULD like to go ahead and get my Christmas tree up! I think having my decorations up will put a shift in things and lift everyone's spirits a bit.
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Sometimes one needs to embrace the frivolous. Put that tree up before Thanksgiving and celebrate life. 🍾
Sadly dying is a part of living. After the death of a close family member or friend mourning is natural but getting back to a normal routine can help. It sounds as though he left you with many great memories and when the sadness fades you will be able to call on those memories and celebrate the life he had. I have always been a fan of wakes that concentrate on the positive memories instead of the loss. Prayers sent that your family heals from this loss quickly. Bob
Sending big 'ol hugs
Frazzled now, wait until you get the tree up!
Sorry about your Dad. I lost mine last year.
Now, let's be truthful. Your Christmas tree, like your outside Christmas lights are still up from last year. I'm right, aren't I??
Prayers asked for you and your family Kasey. Take all the time you need as we can all wait another week to get the deals of our life from you. Gary
Some......not all of them, so I get a partial credit there.
Putting up a tree is a lot of work, but I'm sure it will lighten your family's spirits.
I did get the tree down from the storage closet and its "up" with the buckets of lights and decorations next to it. Hopefully I'll get it complete tomorrow. I had to take a break and go watch Alabama nearly get beat by LSU.....what a game!
Kasey, here is a hug from me to you. I hope it helps.-------------------Ray
Sorry for your loss Kasey. It's something that most of us have to endure. All of my elders have passed now. I never wanted to be the patriarch of the family but here I am.