Had (what used to be) A Good Friend Screw Me -
KenK/84Bravo
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About 4-5 years ago, (at a different Job) I ate lunch with the same guys everyday, we were pretty close.
I had a set of 5 Goodyear Wrangler SRA tires (275/17) with low mileage I had taken off my Jeep, when I went with different mags/Tires. I had them for sale at $600 for the set. ($120/per mag w/tire.) An excellent deal. My friend wanted to "borrow one," to see if it would fit his Girlfriend's Jeep. ( Not a Wrangler.) He came to my house and picked it up, the same time I cut him a Killer deal on my old Riding mower. ($250) The new rims/tires I had just put on it were $200.) They were too big, like I told him they would be.
After repeated requests to get the Mag/tire back (all he had to do was bring it in to work.) He left that job. I stopped by his place a few times on the way home from work and could never catch him there. Left repeated phone messages/texts.
Turns out he had changed his #. 🤔
I finally ran in to him (small town) where I work about a mo. Ago. 1st thing I said when I saw him, "Dude, tell me you still have my Mag/Tire?" Conversation from there.
I communicated with him at his new # a few times, finally flat out telling him to bring my mag/tire to my house and drop it off so I could sell the set. (Like I wanted to, 4-5 years ago.)
Finally dropped it off yesterday, and took a picture of it, inside my garage to "prove," he returned it. 🤔
I communicated w/him via text just now. "I know it is waste of time for me to say this, but I have to. It was too much to expect you to return my Mag/tire in the same condition you got it from me 4-5 years ago. (Looking like new.) Not sun bleached/UV damaged with the Mag filthy because it's been riding in the back of your truck for 4-5 years."
Pissed me off.
(I'd never do that to a friend.)
*I had to let him know I was PO'd.
Rant Over....................................................................
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
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I'm sure we've all been there 😡. Hope you feel better getting it off of your chest.
"Never do wrong to make a friend----or to keep one".....Robert E. Lee
That's not a friend.
Nope. "Not a Friend."
He has sent me a few Snarky replies to my text. (Further pissing me off.)
Told him - "Dude, You Screwed me. You know you did, If you feel fine about it, that's on You. I've never done a friend like that, in my Life."
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
Surprised he didn't sell it/pawn it.
I'm seriously PO'd now.
His BS comments back to me, will have me looking for him.
We'll run in to each other sooner or later.
(How do you like me now?)
I figured he might've @Horse Plains Drifter.
*If so, I'da filed "Theft," charges on him. (Explaining the Situation to LEO/Judge.)
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
I remember many years a friend of mine asked to borrow my cinch off my saddle. We didn't have a horse at the time and I lent it.... By the time I got a horse and she returned it... It was ruined. It really hurt my feelings.
"Independence Now, Independence Forever."
John Adams
My dad often said, “don’t lend stuff (money, cars, tools) to friends…you might lose both”. I often did and considered it a cheap way to find out who was worth keeping as a friend.
sorry but I will wager way more common than you realize.
I will wager we all have had "friends " that turned out not to be as good as we thought . money has done in a lot of friendships.
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Never loan anything with a motor. Never loan a female. Never loan money to a friend, give it to them and if they repay it they are a true friend.
File it under lesson learned. I had, who I thought was a friend for many years. He came over once so drunk he could hardly walk, tripped and broke his lower leg. Asp hole tried to sue me because he didn’t have medical insurance. I know it’s hard but try not to let him keep you angry. Anymore this world seems to reward the dead beats and bums.
For get it Kent, even if you see him again. Just go about your life and don't waste another minute of life on it. Write it off, I wish that's the only thing that has happened to me with such.
40 plus years ago your friends thought with their middle head, can't blame them and you were not married so it's fair chase. imo
I think we have probably all been there and had this happen. Sometimes I put down their actions to just plain stupidity. Other times I think it might be caused by a lack of common sense. It also may be caused by an over inflated sense of self-importance and a feeling of superiority on their part.
Regardless of what the reason may be, I can only control my actions. I no longer dwell on these things more than about 5 minutes. They have already inconvenienced me with their thoughtless action, so why let it keep causing me problems by dwelling on it. They get one chance and then I forget about both them and the problem and don't give them another chance.
So, I guess my advice is that you learned a relatively inexpensive lesson, so take a deep breath and live your own life not influenced by someone else's thoughtlessness. Bob
Frustrating for sure, for ~$250 it was a worthwhile lesson about who he really was.
Thank you all. I appreciate your comments and I fully agree.
It only took me 4-5 years to get my Mag/Tire back, so I can sell it as a set. Gonna have to wash, scrub it and armor-all it, to even remotely look like my other 4.
I've deleted all his contact info. I will be fine with everything, unless he wants to start running his mouth if/when we meet again. All bets are off, at that point.
I fully let him know that he was a little Piss-Ant in the grand scheme of Life, and that he had shown me all I ever needed to know about him.
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
I guess it's safe to say it wasn't as good for you as it was for him? 😉
I had a knot bumper always wanting to borrow a "chew". I finally bought a can of cherry flavor and he stopped bumming.
Ken, your ex-friend is a head case. Think the old saying applies "With friends like him who needs enemies". Bet you are a few years older and a lot wiser now. Maybe next time you loan out a tire/wheel put a one week return time on it. Stay away from that guy.--------Ray
You got out cheap.
It could have been a lot worse.
Chalk it up as a lesson learned and you WILL HAVE more of a heads up the next time you smell some thing amiss. (and you will sense something about same again and be more ready for such)
(and start feeling that bad taste he left in your mouth again)
Them types are not really friends. You will have VERY FEW real friends in life.
Also ask yourself every once in awhile, "if you were someone else, would you have yourself as a friend"
and answer it honestly when talking to yourself.
That guy would lie to himself and say Yes.
He’s a dirtbag, but
My neighbor was building his house. As I was a much more experienced carpenter, I went over on Day One to help build the subfloor. I brought over a brand new, 6 foot stepladder. I had just bought it at Lowes for $63. We used the ladder all day. I left the ladder there when I left at 5 pm, Matthew was still working.
I went over there two days later to get the ladder back, and he said he didn't have it, he said that he had put the ladder in my pickup just before I left.
I said "No you didn't. You were climbing my ladder with a 2x10 on your shoulder when I drove off." He stuck to his story.
This POS, after I put in 9 hours of construction work, for free, stole my ladder! My fist was clinching, and I came real close to rearranging his face and I was just the man to do it. Instead, I walked off without another word.
For a mere $63, I found out exactly what kind of criminal scum my new neighbor was. Bonus! How many more days of free, skilled carpentry do you suppose Matthew got from me? That would be zero.
Now you know why I don't loan anything to anybody anymore, regardless of friendship status. The last two times I loaned out a tool or two, I either didn't get them back, or got them back broken. If by some miracle you talk me into loaning you something like that, I'll be standing right there to take it back when you're done with it.
Don't lend tools. Also, don't lend a $600 Thompson/Center Hawken to your best friend. He might not clean it after he shoots the deer, and when you get it back a year later, the barrel will be ruined.
Then, he won't be your best friend any more.
Same here….. and that goes double for vehicles. Helped a neighbor once to haul a couch with my pickup. Wouldn’t you know he then came to me every week asking to borrow my truck or have me haul something else. Took multiple rounds of “NO” before he quit, and he was angry every time I didn’t just hand over the keys.
Anybody asks these days, I just start with, “Sorry, I have a personal policy, and there are no exceptions…..”
Friends are overrated. Don
There is a major difference between friends and acquaintances. I have a ton of acquaintances but my true friends I can count on two hands. Those friends can borrow any of my stuff and will loan me any of theirs. Acquaintances - nope, nadda, no way. Very few friends have transitioned back to acquaintances and even fewer acquaintances have transitioned to friend status. That keeps life much more simple and peaceful. Bob
When I worked at a mining equipment factory we had a Pakistani engineer. He would come out of the office to check something and want to borrow a tape measure.
Him:" Do you have a rule?"
Me: "Yeah. 'Don't loan tools.'"
He would get a puzzled look and walk away.
Could you fellows loan me some money LOL
Sorry could not resist
I have been raked over and under the coals by so called friends
Even after all the bad events I will still try and help anyone who truly needs help oi have loaned out many tools even my car however no guns
As far as being shafted Some a lot worse than others some I can never forget or forgive most are just water under the bridge
it's sad to think of the peope who take advantage of friendships not to mention loyalty
Bit such is life as we all have experienced
About 30 some years ago we moved into our house 1st thing I did was put up a nice pole barn/garage
There was younger fellows from the small town about a mile or two away stop by and ask for help on their cars or trucks I would help them or just open the shop and let them use it
My wife ask me once if I trusted them
I said when I was young I had no place or tools to work on my car so I felt their frustration and taking advantage of me they knew would be the end of it
Not sure how may actually used my place over the first several years Or my help no one ever stole or broke any thing lucky maybe, but I felt it was a good thing and all were apricative
Now if I just find than darn 10mm socket lol
His reply to my initial text in the OP?
"Take Ur Bitchin' Somewhere Else. It was filthy when I got it."
Me - "Nope, it was in like new cond. And you know it. Why don't you come over and I'll roll the other 4 out beside it for you to have a look at."
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
This type of continued interaction only leads to bad places, and we don’t want to see you on an episode of “COPS.” Time to move along and forget about the idiot friend.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^That^^^^^^^^^^^
Was my initial interaction with this individual. I have since removed all Contact info. and have moved on.
I am simply sharing here, what happened, in order to vent.
I do apprecciate your advice though Sir.
Extreme NE TN/W NC ya'll. 😁
Amen to that. When I'm done with someone, as far as I'm concerned, they no longer exist, and act accordingly. A weight off your chest is better than a pain in it.
You guys are correct, and if you do lend something get collateral.
Just before the corona-vid started a few years ago, a good friend that lives a thousand miles away just about begged me to loan him four grand because he was in a jam.
The guy is a professional musician and not so great at managing money and I know that.
I wanted to help him out, so I told him to send me his burst Fender Telecaster (I would cover the shipping and insurance) and I would send him a check.
He agreed to my terms but did not ever send me the guitar, found the money elsewhere....amazing.
Somehow I think we both knew that I was not going to see the money again and he loves that guitar.
That happened to me once. Wasn't bad. Unfortunately I lost track of her😘
When my then new SIL (Now X-SiL) began tiling their floor I offered to loan him my tile cutter but being old and having been bit before I laid out how I expected to get it back, clean, new bladed properly kept wet blah blah.
He smiled and said "no"
My daughter then said, he does not take care of things he borrows and you would be lucky to get them back at all and if you do it is because he destroyed it.
Maybe I am old fashion but when I borrow something (rare) they get it back cleaned in every way and if it was a vehicle a full tank of gas. Its not because I am a Christian it is because I am not a jerk
WE are teaching the younger generation to be proud of being a jerk and they are entitled to be one
"Fools learn from their own mistakes. I learn from the mistakes of others"
Otto von Bismarck