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Morals question, help needed PLEASE
Smokeeater 38
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I am wondering what everyone's feelings are about when a couple is getting a divorce and at what point the marriage "is over" and the persons involved are ok to date others.
I have always believed that if a person was married then they where off limits. I would not date a girl that was still married, no exceptions. If two people decide that they no longer want to be married to each other, for whatever reason, that is fine and they should not feel ashamed, I know some here will not agree with that.
I am wondering however, what about if they are living in separate houses and the papers have been filled.
Be kind but be honest please.
Thanks
I have always believed that if a person was married then they where off limits. I would not date a girl that was still married, no exceptions. If two people decide that they no longer want to be married to each other, for whatever reason, that is fine and they should not feel ashamed, I know some here will not agree with that.
I am wondering however, what about if they are living in separate houses and the papers have been filled.
Be kind but be honest please.
Thanks
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seriously, if they live in different houses and papers are filed ,i wouldn't worry about it much, they aren't married anymore, they are just going through state's bureaucracy.
If they are living apart, then in "society's eyes" the marriage would be over ....
A marriage can be over, and the persons living apart BUT in the same house, so again its up to the individual person..
My own opinion?...Living separate lives, in separate homes, then fine...date whoever/whatever you want...I have known ppl living in the same house who are completely divorced but for monetary reasons, or cant sell the house, they both live in it...
In all honesty, its up to you and the kids(if you have any) and your feelings on the matter...
What, ya mean you can't date other people when your married. No wonder I'm alway's in trouble, and wore out.[:D]
Date no, but have "fun" sure as long as you don't want any kind of serious relashionship.
Remember "Guns don't kill people, husbands that come home early kill people" [:o)] [}:)] [:p]
--[:D][:D]--JIMBO
if it is over, it is over, a marriage licence does not make it any less or more at this point{not a from legal standpoint of course}, if a man and woman has lived together for say ten years would it be ok to date her?, well no should be the answer, in some cases as in your the marriage license has become a mere piece of paper
Once, when I was married I slept with (accidentally - very long story) a woman whose divorce was not final, although they were living apart. I wound up divorced, broke, and remarried to the woman I had been sleeping with.
Biggest mistake of my life.
Morally - wrong
Ethically - wrong
Religiously - wrong
Practically - wrong
Socially - wrong.
Don't do it, my friend.
Doug
man did you come to the wrong place for morals
I'm hoping that out of 40139 members here that 5-10 will have some morals. [:p]
quote:Originally posted by 1911a1fan
man did you come to the wrong place for morals
I'm hoping that out of 40139 members here that 5-10 will have some morals. [:p]
we all have dreams{lol}
this thread reminds me of one of them movies where the guy has a devil on one side of his shoulder, and an angel on the other[:D]
DO her!
NO
YES
I'm hoping that out of 40139 members here that 5-10 will have some morals. [:p]
I have em, just don't use em. Don
1) She is not divorced yet
2) your nothing but a rebound guy
3) stay away if she has kids, it's bad for the kids to see Mom with a new guy so soon after her divorce
Separate homes + paperwork already filed = fair game.
I don't think there's anything immoral about dating someone who has recently divorced. And if the whole "rebound" issues is a concern, just take it slow.
So that helps quite a bit.
Sorry guy. Cant help you. Been married (and faithfull) for over 58 years. So maybe im a dinasour from the dark ages.
What is your secret. You must be doing something right.
Still, it's not a good idea. If the not-quite-divorced person is not quite divorced then they may still have second thoughts. More important, they're damaged goods. Not forever, but for a while. It takes time to get over a divorce. In that case, sport sex is morally questionable on the part of the non-divorcee and a lasting relationship is unlikely for either.
On the other hand, my ex-wife was dating her new husband before she even bothered to file the papers and they're still together, 13 years later.
I don't think this question comes with easy answers.
Her ex was a tool.
Nice anecdote to share...if I'm not mistaken you have other family members who post on GB.
I was not sure if this would get much interest or not.
Update:
We have known each other for years. Even before she meet her husband. Tonight we went out for dinner and then went and saw the movie Wild Hogs, Starring: Tim Allen, John Travolta, Martin Lawrence, William H. Macy. This is a great movie if you like the guys in it.
I was good and dropped her off at her place and went home by myself. I keep telling myself only public places. I don't know if this is going to keep happening this way much longer. [;)]
I'm glad for all of the responses I've gotten. I think I knew before I posted what I wanted to do, OK I KNEW what I wanted to do. [}:)] I just needed to get others ideas on it.