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My dad passed away
scottm21166
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My brother had the Sheriff call me after he died. He said he had been looking for me as dad was sick in the hospital several days before he passed.
Well I have face book, a google search quickly finds me, I have the same phone number I have always had.
My brother lives in my dads house. He has lived there his whole life.
My guess is, he didn't contact me because he didn't want dad to tell me where the treasures are buried and who is to get what. (I am the oldest of 4)
I don't think I can say how I feel about a guy who denies his brother last words with his father in order to protect his claim to the leftovers.
I don't know if I can forgive this insult.
What he doesn't know is dad told me, when he passed I was to sell his possesions and divide the proceeds among the other three of us. He said my David had gotten his share of the inheritance while he was alive ...How do I go about that without a will?
Well I have face book, a google search quickly finds me, I have the same phone number I have always had.
My brother lives in my dads house. He has lived there his whole life.
My guess is, he didn't contact me because he didn't want dad to tell me where the treasures are buried and who is to get what. (I am the oldest of 4)
I don't think I can say how I feel about a guy who denies his brother last words with his father in order to protect his claim to the leftovers.
I don't know if I can forgive this insult.
What he doesn't know is dad told me, when he passed I was to sell his possesions and divide the proceeds among the other three of us. He said my David had gotten his share of the inheritance while he was alive ...How do I go about that without a will?
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Get yourself a good attorney.
find out what your brothers ideas are and espicially the one living there.
subtract the time he was there for the rent free living
if you 4 do not agree , well a judge will do it for you[xx(]
sorry for your loss
Sorry about your lost. But the road ahead is going to be much worst. It is too late now but without a will each Brother will have a different story.I promise you each and every one of you will feel cheated. If you can Walk Away NOW.
I don't need anything from my father. I have not lived with him since I was 5 and put up for adoption (as were my other brother and sister) If I do not follow up with this I deny my father his wish to have david finally take care of himself. Then again, how do I do what he never could?
I do feel cheated. Not out of my dads legacy but out of the chance to spend those last few days with him
The loss of a parent is the closing of a chapter in your life that can never be replaced nor re created. Every man or woman who lives long enough must suffer this loss and I'm truly sorry.
To worry about your father's possessions in the same post causes me some concern. I don't discount the actions (or inactions) of your brother, but what does it really matter? And with no will the estate will go to the courts. Your duty to family and yourself is to take an accurate inventory of the estate. Make sure that nothing is stolen and that nothing comes up missing. Past verbal agreements usually hold little sway in these matters.
Woody & Dori'
Seen same thing with my sister.. talking about the money and the person isn't even in the ground yet. Sad.
the money isn't the issue...there isn't any that I know of. I am pissed at my brother for not even calling me before he died and trying to figure out why anyone would do that.
It figures that YOU would go there...[xx(]
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
Seen same thing with my sister.. talking about the money and the person isn't even in the ground yet. Sad.
the money isn't the issue...there isn't any that I know of. I am pissed at my brother for not even calling me before he died and trying to figure out why anyone would do that.
It figures that YOU would go there...[xx(]
I am sorry that your Dad passed, but you had better reread what you posted. Treasures in the backyard... It is about money in your posting. Bury your Father and then move on. Sounds like alot of hatred in the posting. Speaking of an inheritance and a Father's death in the same posting is wrong. Real wrong.
The loss of a parent is the closing of a chapter in your life that can never be replaced nor re created. Every man or woman who lives long enough must suffer this loss and I'm truly sorry.
To worry about your father's possessions in the same post causes me some concern. I don't discount the actions (or inactions) of your brother, but what does it really matter? And with no will the estate will go to the courts. Your duty to family and yourself is to take an accurate inventory of the estate. Make sure that nothing is stolen and that nothing comes up missing. Past verbal agreements usually hold little sway in these matters.
Wise words from Nord. I can add no more. but I can send a prayer for you, which I did.
Tom
I don't know if I can forgive this insult.
What he doesn't know is dad told me, when he passed I was to sell his possesions and divide the proceeds among the other three of us. He said my David had gotten his share of the inheritance while he was alive ...How do I go about that without a will?
are you certain there is no will ? what your Dad told you isn't worth a damn, when my Dad was alive, in good health and sound mind, he told me and my wife that if there is anything in this house you want, put your name on some masking tape, date it, i'll sign it and put the tape under the object, we did this with several chairs my Grandfather made, dresser i had as a kid, a cedar chest i made for my Mother in school shop class, gave it to her on Mothers day 1955ad, after Dad died, buried, an auction was held, i told his lawyer about the tape thing, he said, "sorry, if the items were not in your possession prior to his death, you will have to buy them", i did. his oldest son (i will NEVER call him bruther (sic) and his wife raided Dads home when he first went into the hospital,took his tractor, riding lawn mower, his only two guns, Moms silver set etc.)
as stated by others you need a good probate lawyer
As to your troubling matter.
Sit down and have a heart to heart with your other siblings, the ones mature enough to live their own lives, and come to terms with what you should do. It may well be in the best interest of all to wash your hands of the problem.
I seriousely doubt your father would want this issue with his last wishes to cause you such greif and anxiety. He would likely advise you as I and others before have.
My best wishes to You
R.I.P.
The other stuff is going to be tricky. That kind of bad blood between brothers can last a life time........and then it's to late!
Try not to let that happen.
On stuff ... lossing out can hurt a bit, but what you do now ... that will set the pace from here on out.
I just let it all be when my folks died. Some siblings wanted to fight or tell their versions of reality. For me I did not want to be the fool fighting for leftovers. It was probably easier for me, my folks had nothing worth fighting or sweating over in my opinion.
You and your sibs don't socialize or converse much?
Folks tend to play it the way they please. Good luck to you which ever way you decide to go.
Again, condolences to you and your family and firends. Take care.
I'll face the same thing. The rumor among my family is that my dad has a lot of money. He doesn't. Other family members know that my dad made $75 to $100 million in business, but I'm the only one who has worked in the business wiht him for the last 32 years. I know the sad truth is that my dad has an easy-come-easy-go attitude about money - it's always been easy for him to make, so he always spent it as fast as he made it.
I'll likely be left with nothing but bills. But again, my nephews and neices think he has millions and thus they've plotted to work their way into my dad's good graces now that he's 78 in hopes of getting the loot. That aggravates the hell out of me - one because I know there is nothing to get, and two because if there were loot, I'm the one who has put up with crap for 32 years.
I am fully aware that upon my dad's and stepmom's passing, I may have to hire security to guard the physical possessions he has in order that it not be looted while I'm away burying my dad.
quote:Originally posted by scottm21166
My brother had the Sheriff call me after he died. He said he had been looking for me as dad was sick in the hospital several days before he passed.
Well I have face book, a google search quickly finds me, I have the same phone number I have always had.
My brother lives in my dads house. He has lived there his whole life.
My guess is, he didn't contact me because he didn't want dad to tell me where the treasures are buried and who is to get what. (I am the oldest of 4)
I don't think I can say how I feel about a guy who denies his brother last words with his father in order to protect his claim to the leftovers.
I don't know if I can forgive this insult.
What he doesn't know is dad told me, when he passed I was to sell his possesions and divide the proceeds among the other three of us. He said my David had gotten his share of the inheritance while he was alive ...How do I go about that without a will?
In regards to inheritance...if your brother is in the house you gotta assume its all gonna be taken prior to you inventorying anything. If you truly don't care about the stuff, then cut it loose. I can appreciate you being pissed off at your bro, it's a shame your father didn't take the time to have a Will. My wife's father, a 30+ year owner/operator of a Funeral Home..didn't bother with a Will either and he left a mess for his family, a mess that continues 6 years after his death.
I am sorry that you lost your Dad. I'll be coping with that someday too assuming I don't beat him to it.
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
Originally posted by select-fire
talking about the money and the person isn't even in the ground yet. Sad.
I am sorry that your Dad passed, but you had better reread what you posted. Treasures in the backyard... It is about money in your posting. Bury your Father and then move on. Sounds like alot of hatred in the posting. Speaking of an inheritance and a Father's death in the same posting is wrong. Real wrong.
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+1
My Dad is 73 and I talk to him almost every day. Plus if i havent talked to him that day he calls every night at 9PM to let me know that he is OK.
Sounds like you did not keep in touch with your dad and are more concerned that your brother will get more than you.
I feel for your lose but you never once said anything about missing your dad or anything just that you brother would end up with his treasures instead of you.
To Scott's Dad: RIP
Paul
KC