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Son in law pursuing mother in law, advice needed
v35
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My brother's son in law has been trying to put the make on my brother's wife for up to ten years. She is flattered by his "harmless" attentions. He's had a snoot full and now there's a family feud. Brother's on fire and wants to talk to the son in law
who wont return his calls to discuss. The issue is disruptive to the extended family and needs resolution.
I'd like to help and ask your best thoughts on the subject.
Please, serious replies only.
who wont return his calls to discuss. The issue is disruptive to the extended family and needs resolution.
I'd like to help and ask your best thoughts on the subject.
Please, serious replies only.
Comments
he should be no.1 !!
10 years!!!
1. Your brother doesn't need to talk to the kid. He need to kick
is a**.
2. Your brother and his wife needs to talk to a marriage consoller
or a lawyer.
Good luck
Me thinks the brother's wife has the power to STOP the borish behaviour of the young man.
I would also think that your neice would have a problem with her hubby putting the make on her mom.
In any event he has a problem, the females need to address his actions.
My .02
Visits with the grandchildren will be a problem.
Brother saw a counseller who was not in favor of him telling his daughter all he knows and has witnessed as it would be injurious to their marriage. I felt father and daughter need to have a meeting.
His wife is treating this business as paranoia which needs professional help.
This business needs resolution before the cement hardens.
being resourceful, took to kissing her on the neck and on the third visit, the neck kiss was interrupted by my brother who said "No kissing on the neck, please". After that visit, brother had a knock down drag out fight with his wife about this behavior and her acceptance of it. She spoke to her daughter about my brother's paranoia and got first licks in.
This triggered the family feud.
Too little too late, sweetheart![:D]
bad son in law, bad husband
This individual likes to sequester other women in my family in the kitchen. I overheard him using surprising obscene language to another sister in law and wonder what he did to develop such a relationship. He also followed that womans'daughter into her kitchen and closed the door. I told that brother and he broke it up and forgot the incident. He was unaware the subject individual spent a lot of time at their house to see the mother,her daughters or all three. Junior spreads himself around. He's about 6'4" and 250+ pounds.
This was reported to me by a neighbor who inquired how Junior's marriage was going.
I want to help with this problem if I can since we're all involved and family gatherings are coming up very soon.
Constructive advice is welcome.
I think we've agreed on where blame lies.
If I were you I'd stay out of it.
Best to stay out of it.
Junior has shown inappropriate behavior with wives and young daughters of two of my brothers. Junior is the son in law of one of the brothers. The extent of involvement is not established. He's apparently a charmer to the ladies coming from a family with a certifiable mother,an alcholic father, two possibly sane sisters and one nutty sister. He himself is is an odd duck, not good in an extended discussion; sort of a one liner with men but likes to get in closer than appropriate with the women.
It's very disruptive to at least seven people in my family.
Disintegration of family ties of the many people involved is not a desirable outcome. Some accommodations will have to be made.
Since my brother is too affected to think clearly, he asked my help.
I'm thinking of proposing he confront Junior to cease and desist from anything but formal contact with Brothers' wife to include prolonged staring and loving looks, the past will be set aside and the family can resume as a family. If not, serious consequences will result.
What do you think.
Do ALL the womenfolk enjoy the attention? If the men are so insecure in their relationships, perhaps something should be said as a group. I have a hard time comprehending how this has gone on for ten years with nothing being said until now.
Bring it up at the Fourth of July shindig. It's hard to fight when your covered in barbeque sauce.
and would not get physical. He either tries not to see or not to believe. I don't know which but wants to make some kind of negotiated
settlement to make it go away.
I could joke at this too if I weren't so close to it but the onus is on me to help come up with a real world answers.
Thanks to those who treated this problem seriously.
Its already been said! "the women can stop it" anytime they want. Seems like she don't want. (it to stop)
Only advice I might give you is to stay out of it. You will end up with everybody mad at you. (And dont let him near your wife, galfriend, or daughters!) A C-hound like that isn't worth going to jail over. Remember an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!
Allen
ill bet its in the western part, huh!?
dang...come down off them thar mountains and join society.
feudin' this and that over mary lou....
dang abner. go back to church and learn em all the right way, reckon?
Former Member U.S. Navy Shooting Team
Former NSSA All American
Navy Distinguished Pistol Shot
MO, CT, VA.
There are sore feelings all around and the culprit who was shot was the messinger, not the perpetrator.
Some think if Junior's wife is apprised of the extent of her trusted husband's behavior, the result would be a divorce.
So, it seems to be a lose-lose situation because Junior isn't returning telephone calls to take his medicine.
An adage recalled from German class stated: No answer is in itself an answer.
Junior is of Swedish-American parentage, from New Jersey who departed that state to avoid prosecution for 80ksworth of tax evasion.
Of course the tax people could be put on his case but that would also punish his family.
My opinion?
There ain't no fix'n this mess. Everyone involved (even you, perhaps) has got some sort of stake in the continuing drama, and so it will continue.
My advice?
Stay as far away as you can comfortably. These are the choices that people make. Not your fault, dude. Not you problem.
Remember you CAN pick your friends, though.
Sounds like you and your brother(s) need to give this jerk an old fashion military "blanket party".
Please explain why HE'S the jerk. He and the women (from everything I read) seem to get along just fine. There is something wrong here I can't quite put my finger on.
Are all the men bib wearing, tobacco spitting louts who don't know how to keep their women?
v35, perhaps you should steer clear of the whole mess. You have no nuts in the fire and unless you are going to have to service these women in the bedroom too, it's their husbands place to say something.
Tell him...."knock yourself out! just assume the payments!"[:D]
Amen!
PJ