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A not so hypothetical hypothetical...

Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,404 ******
edited November 2016 in General Discussion
Ok, I'd like some input on this. First of all, it's not about what this scenario presents, but there is an analogy that will correlate (to my mind) quite well.

Say you are a person that can't stand beets. The smell of them cooking simply bothers you. It doesn't make you sick to your stomach, but you just don't like it. You understand that some people like them, but in your personal preference, you just don't. Your family is aware of this. It's no secret. In fact, when you and your family plan meals, especially for a special occasion, beets are specifically excluded from the menu, even though they may be served at other times.

For Thanksgiving: "Let's make sure we don't have beets cause dad doesn't like them. Maybe afterward we will have them though."

And that sounds fine to you.

Two days after, your son makes a beet soup for himself and fills the home with the smell of it cooking. He is excited because he loves beets and has never had this recipe before. It's for him... he loves it.

The smell has filled the home and everyone there thinks it smells good. It smells like beets.

You arrive home, and everyone is moved by it. Several have sampled it and enjoyed the taste "let's share the recipe on facebook!" They proclaim.

Then comes the question:

"Hey dad, how do you like the smell of my soup?"


What do you say?
Some will die in hot pursuit
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain

Comments

  • Tech141Tech141 Member Posts: 3,787 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Maybe be honest and say "I don't"........

    The scenario suggests everyone already KNOWS you don't like the smell of beets. Why lie, when the truth is known. Of course you could try to sugar coat it, but that would be a tad disingenuous.
  • DPHMINDPHMIN Member Posts: 945 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    You need to say that you can't stand the smell. Otherwise, they will cook beets in your presence often.
  • bullshotbullshot Member Posts: 14,702 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Tactful honesty is the only way to go here for "Dad's" part the other side of the coin is; why the hell is the son doing something that he knows his father dislikes (I assume that it's Dad's house)?

    May be trivial to some but I think that Dad is getting disrespected here.
    He (the son) can cook that crap anytime he wants when he gets his own place.


    P.S. If it is in fact the son's house then "Dad" has to suck it up or risk sounding like a Democrat. [:D]
    "Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you"
  • ruger41ruger41 Member Posts: 14,665 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sounds like your going to have to get used to "beets" lol
  • Marc1301Marc1301 Member Posts: 31,895 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Friends don't let friends eat beets.
    "Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here." - William Shatner
  • US Military GuyUS Military Guy Member Posts: 3,643 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Wait until it gets about 40 degrees outside.

    Shut off the furnace.

    Open all of the windows and doors.

    Ask them how they like the fresh air - mention that you like fresh air.

    Leave the windows and doors open until - well, until you want to shut them.

    Ask them, if they would like you to air out the house - or not - another time.
  • BrookwoodBrookwood Member, Moderator Posts: 13,770 ******
    edited November -1
    I like to cook and eat King Crab Legs. It smells up the house to no end and everyone dislikes the fishy smell that lingers well beyond the cooking time.

    I used my nogin for something other than holding my hat on it and dug out my old Coleman cook stove.

    I can cook King Crab anytime I like outside next to the charcoal grill.
  • ChrisStreettChrisStreett Member Posts: 3,847 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Perhaps suggest to "the son" that while you're certain his creation smells wonderful to him, everyone perceives foods/related smells differently, this being one of those situations. While you understand he truly enjoys the taste/aroma of the beet soup and you applaud his creativity in cooking, the taste/aroma he enjoys so much you find to be just the opposite and ask him to try seeing the situation through your olfactory senses. Kind of sounds like a "group hug", "Kumbya" approach but it may work. (If you're worried about his feelings. If not, hell, just tell him to get that stinking ooze outta your house.)
    "...dying ain't much of a living boy"-Josey Wales
  • Ditch-RunnerDitch-Runner Member Posts: 25,310 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    just be honest
    at least on the beats , its not like a woman asking if there jeans make my * look big
    its just a pot full of soup your talking about
    and by the way I hate beets also
  • popgunpopgun Member Posts: 670
    edited November -1
    I'd say your son was highly inconsiderate of you. He knows you hate them, but stinks up the whole house with them anyway.

    If I were him I'd just eat cold beets on salads, or just heat up an individual portion in the microwave for me so it wouldn't stink up the house.

    You should have a talk with him about consideration of others.
  • bpostbpost Member Posts: 32,669 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Tell him the smell is somewhere between a skunks butt and puke; enjoy your soup.
  • NeoBlackdogNeoBlackdog Member Posts: 17,239 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Keep in mind that this is coming from a guy that has no kids, so take it for what it's worth.
    I'd politely say that I don't like beets and don't like the smell of cooking beets. And cut your damn hair!
  • Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,404 ******
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NeoBlackdog
    Keep in mind that this is coming from a guy that has no kids, so take it for what it's worth.
    I'd politely say that I don't like beets and don't like the smell of cooking beets. And cut your damn hair!
    Interesting.
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    And fiery auto crashes
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    While sifting through my ashes
    Some will fall in love with life
    And drink it from a fountain
    That is pouring like an avalanche
    Coming down the mountain
  • Don McManusDon McManus Member Posts: 23,681 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    A plateful of fresh beets, boiled al dente and then quickly pan fried in a bit of butter is about as good as it gets.

    I guess I can't relate to the specific question, but for whatever reason, I do not like the smell (or taste) of pumpkin pie. When pumpkin pie happens, I put up with it, and don't worry about it as the smell does eventually go away.
    Freedom and a submissive populace cannot co-exist.

    Brad Steele
  • woodhogwoodhog Member Posts: 13,115 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'd tell him" You know I don't like the smell of beets, but it is overshadowed by how much I enjoy you being happy"
  • Dads3040Dads3040 Member Posts: 13,552 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I am not sure what to make of the whole scenario. Given what you have said, I think the only reasonable answer for you is simply 'I am sure what you cooked is great for those who like beets. Since I don't, I can't say as the smell is a pleasant one for me.'

    I know my wife cannot abide the smell of liver and onions cooking. As it isn't a common meal, I cook my liver and onions on the grill outside.

    I get what I want, and I respect my wife's aversion to it.
  • guntech59guntech59 Member Posts: 23,188 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Dads3040
    I am not sure what to make of the whole scenario. Given what you have said, I think the only reasonable answer for you is simply 'I am sure what you cooked is great for those who like beets. Since I don't, I can't say as the smell is a pleasant one for me.'

    I know my wife cannot abide the smell of liver and onions cooking. As it isn't a common meal, I cook my liver and onions on the grill outside.

    I get what I want, and I respect my wife's aversion to it.


    A simple and adult level solution.

    As far as the OP goes....I can be quite the jerk when people do things, deliberately, to piss me off. That is what I take this as and would react accordingly.
  • Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,404 ******
    edited November -1
    It should be noted that the act wasn't done to deliberately piss me off.
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    And fiery auto crashes
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    While sifting through my ashes
    Some will fall in love with life
    And drink it from a fountain
    That is pouring like an avalanche
    Coming down the mountain
  • 1911a1-fan1911a1-fan Member Posts: 51,193 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    just because something smell good while cooking doesnt always mean they taste good, im sure there was aromatics involved other than beets and water


    and with that being said, there are some foods that smell bad but are delicious
  • ruger41ruger41 Member Posts: 14,665 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Randy you can always stop by for homemade tamales...wife whipped up 6 dozen[:D]
  • mogley98mogley98 Member Posts: 18,291 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    "I am sure it may be a very good soup son but as you know I don't care for the smell of beets at all"
    Why don't we go to school and work on the weekends and take the week off!
  • 35 Whelen35 Whelen Member Posts: 14,307 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Borscht, blyat.[:D][;)]
    An unarmed man can only flee from evil, and evil is not overcome by fleeing from it.
  • 1BigGuy1BigGuy Member Posts: 4,033 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    So, Mr. Perfect, what DID you say/do?
  • allen griggsallen griggs Member Posts: 35,668 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Are you a man, or a mouse? Squeak up!


    How about you say the truth that you cannot stand the smell of beets?

    ps I also cannot stand the smell of beets and believe me, you won't smell them in my house.
  • Tech141Tech141 Member Posts: 3,787 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Please tell us that firearms weren't involved....
  • woodhogwoodhog Member Posts: 13,115 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'd be so glad to see my older son again, I could care less what he was eating...
  • montanajoemontanajoe Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 60,159 ******
    edited November -1
    ...the smell is in the insulation. You will need to gut the walls.
  • john carrjohn carr Member Posts: 1,717 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Bleep Dad. If he objects, let him go to the corner cafe. As Confucius once said, "Hunger is sauce that make's lowly bean taste like delicious almond." Let him get hungry enough, he'll eat them.
  • hotshoothotshoot Member Posts: 4,227
    edited November -1
    What's the son doing in the kitchen? It's woman's work [:D]. Sometimes dads need to just let it go, soon the son will grow and be out with with the guys / girls, and will only have the memories. It will not kill you to be nice to have family time. It will not kill to try.

    Remember all the times when kids didn't eat what they didn't want to. Small "no thank you" bite never killed anyone
  • JamesRKJamesRK Member Posts: 25,670 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    With me it's sweet potatoes. There just ain't no way to prepare sweet potatoes that makes them edible. Given a choice between eating a sweet potato and starvation there's a fair chance I'd choose starvation.

    My wife's family has tried for over fifty years to trick me into eating a sweet potato in the form of a sweet potato pie claiming it was pumpkin pie. If I'd just eat it I'd know how good it is. It hasn't worked yet and about forty years ago I stopped being polite about it. I say things that spoil the meal for the entire gathering. Nobody likes that, which is as it should be. There should be something that nobody at the table likes.

    I don't object to anybody eating whatever they want, just don't try to coerce me into eating anything I don't want because you KNOW how good it is.

    I'm curious what this is an analogy for. I know, I know if you wanted me to know that it wouldn't be an analogy. [:D]
    The road to hell is paved with COMPROMISE.
  • guntech59guntech59 Member Posts: 23,188 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Mr. Perfect
    It should be noted that the act wasn't done to deliberately piss me off.


    Not to be argumentative, Randy, but he knew you did not like it and did it anyway......that seems deliberate to me.

    Perhaps I am missing something. That happens a lot more these days. [:I]
  • Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,404 ******
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by 1BigGuy
    So, Mr. Perfect, what DID you say/do?
    The scenario was actually a little bit different, and I think I screwed it up a bit. My response to the actual situation was "Honestly, I don't like it."

    I suppose if someone really wants to know the actual situation, they can email me.
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    And fiery auto crashes
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    While sifting through my ashes
    Some will fall in love with life
    And drink it from a fountain
    That is pouring like an avalanche
    Coming down the mountain
  • asphalt cowboyasphalt cowboy Member Posts: 8,904 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Mr. Perfect
    quote:Originally posted by 1BigGuy
    So, Mr. Perfect, what DID you say/do?



    I suppose if someone really wants to know the actual situation, they can email me.


    Was it as bad as the time my ex walked in as I made a grilled cheese?

    She'd finally drug her * out of bed, walked into the kitchen. "What the bleen are you burning."
    My reaction wasn't any more pleasant. Grilled cheese, fry pan, spatula, all of it went into the trash can where it melted a hole through the side.
  • kimikimi Member Posts: 44,719 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    That's a tough one. Some things are just meant to be, and that includes how we treat each other.
    What's next?
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