Sometimes I really hate my job....

William81

Today I was sitting in church with my family and in walks a former client who happens to be a Sex offender. I am torn between two thoughts.....This maybe the beginning of a change for the individual and my other thought turns to the public safety issues. I shared my concerns with one of our Elder's right after church to make sure this individual is not allowed any access to children within our church.

I feel I did what had to be done in this case but the whole thing stills bothers me.

Rafter-S

Personally, I think you did the right thing. You owe it to the children not to take any chances with someone like that.

Alpine

I agree, you did the right thing. In Kalifornia they have a listing at each sheriff's station, and police station, a listing of the address of every registered sex offender. The public can access this info and see if there are any living in their area.
About time.

YankeeClipper

I agree. Sometimes its really hard to forgive. One of our local sex offenders goes to the Giddion meetings. I just can't see myself sitting beside the pervert.

budmott

Doing the right thing is not easy at times.
You did the right thing, the bothering part
will go away. It would have bothered you a
lot more if you hadn't said something and this
person hasn't changed. The consenus of the
medical community, is that they don't.
IMHO,
bud

Lowrider

In my area they publish the name, address and pictures of paroled sex offenders in the local paper. They don't, however, say of what they were convicted.

In my opinion, the term "sex offender" is too broad and all-encompassing. Rapists, child molesters, and other violent or perverted sex criminals don't deserve any slack. However, in this B.S. system of justice we have today, people can get tagged with the "sex offender" handle when they don't deserve it.

Suppose you were 15 years old and you met a girl who was 13. You went out on some dates, started going steady and were together through high school. You loved each other very much. Talked about getting married. Somewhere along the way you started having sex. You turn 18, graduate from high school, still going with your girl and still having sex. In a lot of states you are now guilty of statutory rape since you, an 18 year old adult, are having sex with a 16 year old girl. The fact that you've been going together for over three years means nothing to the law. The cops catch you in the back seat with her, arrest you, the judge sentences you to 5 years in the slammer and when you get out you are required to register as a "sex offender."

You ain't hardly the same as some dude who rapes women or hangs around the playground * little girls.

Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.

Ms. Beast

I think you did the right thing. I wouldn't want that person near my children!

William81

No offense Lowrider, I am sure the story you have told has occured, but that is a very rare instance. The scary thing we see at our office is the growing number of men who prey on younger girls.

Bottom line, sex between adults and minors is wrong, even if it is consentual. Until that message is heard loud and clear, we will continue to see young girls and boys used by adults. JMHO

Lowrider

No offense taken, Bro.

Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.

gruntled

To my way of thinking there is an even worse case. A man can be convicted of raping his own wife and he will carry the title "sex offender" for life. There is a world of difference between an 18 year old boy having sex with a 17 year old girl & a serial rapist or young child molester & there needs to be some distinction between these cases.

BlueTic

I had one sex offender on my case load when I worked corrections (years ago). He was preditory and liked to pose as a Doctor. Actually opening an office and doing health physicals. By the time he got to me he had been through the wards and cells and transfered out of WA to OR - and on my caseload (work release/Electronic monitoring). His PO allowed him to go to church and meetings. I caught him in the first few weeks going to a softball game at the church (kids everywhere) when he was supposed to be at a meeting there - I never wrote more reports in my life, but got him back inside. You did the right thing - I believe - JMHO - they do not change, they only change their outward appearence....

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