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another marriage question

223believer223believer Member Posts: 128 ✭✭✭
edited February 2002 in General Discussion
Since this board has taken a "love and recoil" turn of late, maybe we could do one more marriage question.Would you marry a young lady that you hadn't fooled around with first? Isn't it sort of like buying a car before you take it for a test drive? Buying a gun before you've worked the action and tried out the trigger?
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  • AntiqueDrAntiqueDr Member Posts: 691 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    "Only if it's your cousin."- Jerry Lee Lewis
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  • hunter280manhunter280man Member Posts: 705 ✭
    edited November -1
    Thats one hell of a question, loaded one at that. I would have to say probably not, but it would depend on the girl. Sure would change things in the dating circle. I guess you could ask for references, and hopefully there wouldn't be any. Then your back to square one...hmmmm...
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  • dheffleydheffley Member Posts: 25,000 ✭
    edited November -1
    Being older than dirt, I will probably give the one desenting opinion on this matter, but I wouldn't marry one who gave in to a "test drive". I married a strong willed, moral, good woman. I can tell you that years 30 later, it could not have been a better union. Because of her resolve, the question of cheating has never come up on eithier side. For her, because she knew I was commited to by beliefs, for me, because I knew she was commited to hers.I know this is not a popular stand, but you asked!
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  • GreenLanternGreenLantern Member Posts: 1,647 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    It really depends on age and the person. When I was 22 I don't think I knew what love was. Now that I'm older (32) and wiser (don't ask my g-friend that though :-) I'm able to recognize what love is and what it isn't. Now, I might be more inclined marry someone I hadn't fooled around with. But I'd still have to factor in her commitment to me and her maturity. My girlfriend is 10 years younger than I am and really hasn't been 'around the block' with respect to a lot of experiences in life, but she's very mature and I know the extent of her feelings so I don't worry about.[This message has been edited by GreenLantern (edited 02-27-2002).]
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  • Gordian BladeGordian Blade Member Posts: 1,202 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    A wise person advised a couple about to be married that they should take an empty jar on their honeymoon and put a penny in it every time they had sex. Bring it home and do the same thing for the first year of marriage. Then starting with the second year, take a penny out every time. You won't empty the jar. That's the hyper-cynical way of looking at it.Another way of looking at it is a quote from the wise old village doctor / father in Captain Corelli's Mandolin who said something like, "Love is what is left after the passion has burned away."The truth is that sex will be different after marriage than before, and really different after kids, so you can test drive all you want, but it won't be the same.
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  • JustCJustC Member Posts: 16,056 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    As the sex will always be sooooo much more frequent before marriage, you will forego some of the "marathons" if you know what I mean. That being said, if you really love her without getting the "good stuff" first, chances are it is a good match. I can't say I would, because I am partial to sex either way, but you can't really go wrong. As long as the parts are right, it's all good, some is just better than others. Hope for the best, and try to determine if it has been "driven" prior to you. If so, why havn't you? that question would bug me constantly if someone else had but I didn't. I would want to get a REAL answer why this was the case. But it sounds like you are considering it anyway, you must truly care for her, so..............you may already know the right answere.
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  • William81William81 Member Posts: 25,342 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    The only thing that comes to mind when I think about the question are the following words: Crass, gosh, I am sure there a few others......OK, flame away......
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  • dakotashooter2dakotashooter2 Member Posts: 6,186
    edited November -1
    1) A test drive does not guarantee it will still work or you will like it after you get it home.2) Learning to drive is half the fun.
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  • Miss. CreantMiss. Creant Member Posts: 300 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Me and the wife always rutted in a healthy when we were young and in high school. We have been married 15 years and still get rug burns, heck done it twice today already and dat b d trutBeen with her since she was in 8th grade and I was in 10th.
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  • sandman2234sandman2234 Member Posts: 894 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Dated my wife for 5 years and never took Her for a test drive. Married Her and 19 years later I am still glad we waited. Really comes in handy when you have a teenage daughter that needs to be told to wait, and she know that we waited.
    Have Gun, will travel
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  • whiteclouderwhiteclouder Member Posts: 10,574 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sex is the primer, the powder is what keeps you going and the bullet will determine how far ya go. The primer lasts but a split second in the life of a marriage. Catch is, ya only got one, spend it well.Clouder..
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  • Miss. CreantMiss. Creant Member Posts: 300 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I got a muzzler loader with a hug bag of caps.hee hee
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  • v35v35 Member Posts: 12,710 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Unfulfilled sex drive can mask undesirable traits like selfishness and immaturity in the object of your desire. With sex out of the way you can ask yourself what else has she (he) got? If it's nothing of enduring interest,dont walk away..run.Even though I'm from the old school, I agree that living together might be the best choiceto estimate marriage compatibility. A good day to day working relationship stands up best over the long run while a fire and ice one doesn't.
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