The Time Out Kids

gunpaq

Now, now, Little Jimmy, you will get a "time out" again if you say the "F" word to your father. Great another time out, Little Jimmy gets a half hour in his room that is complete with a TV, VCR, computer and telephone. Would a loving slap across the mouth by Little Jimmy's mother be more effective means of discipline and behavior modification? I attended a multi-family picnic Sunday and was witness to the most disrespectfull and most unrully group of children in my life all being threatened with and disciplined with "time outs" by their young corporate exec type PC parents. I had to get out of there and Mrs. Gunpaq and I excused ourselves telling the host that my back was giving me too much trouble to stay. Spare the rod and spoil the child or give "time outs", which is best? I am not talking about beating or abusing kids but rather good firm spankings vs touchy-feely nonoffensive Time Outs.

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k.stanonik

I came up that if you got out of line you got one on the behind. I dont see anything wrong with it, you knew yo ugot it when you deserved one and i camre out ok.

simonbs

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking a child on the bottom when it is needed. As a matter of fact, there IS something wrong with NOT spanking a child when it is needed. There isn't anything wrong with timeouts, loss of priveleges, etc. either.

Punishment should fit the offense.

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GreenLantern

I don't have any kids yet, but I'm definately not a believer in the Time-Out! If you ask me there's nothing like a swat on the behind from dad to motivate a kid to straighten up. It worked on me

robsguns

If your kid has ADHD like my 5 yr. old son does, time outs are almost unbearable for them. He would rather have his butt beat. That being said, my daughter doesnt mind the time out, she'll sit there content. But tell her she's going to get spanked and the wailing starts before she ever gets spanked. Lesson learned from this? You do what works with your child, anyone has a problem with it they can go to he doulble toothpicks. I use the time outs in CONJUNCTION WITH the spank. You just have to feel your way through the parenting thing.

SSgt Ryan E. Roberts, USMC

Gordian Blade

I'll second what the other experienced parents said, that you don't really learn until you're in the situation: Every child is different from birth, even in the same family, and you have to adjust and fine-tune until you find what works. And they keep changing as they grow, so you have to keep fine-tuning.

True story, from the 70's: My wife and I, childless at the time, went to have dinner at another couple's house. They had a 5 year old son. While I was sitting talking to the husband, the kid came over and whacked me (hard) on the leg with a plastic whiffleball bat, on purpose. The father said, "Now son, we don't hit." That was it, no punishment, not even a time out. Since they were my wife's friends, I didn't say anyhting then, but on the way home I let her know we were never socializing with them again. With more experience under my belt, I would recommend saying something to the parents right then and there and the heck with the social consequences.

will270win

I think kids are a bad idea for me and my wife so we choose neither. Children smell funny and you can't trust 'em.

will the grump.


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n4thethrill

i agree with spare the rod and spoil the child however i think that everything needs to be done in moderation

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