Got Dumped For Owning a Gun

chappsyny

Please forgive me, but I need to vent. Has anyone else here ever been dumped for owning firearms? It just happened to me for the first time and I can't help but think that it's the stupidest reason ever conceived of to break up an otherwise perfectly good relationship for.

She was perfectly fine with them until she told one of her b****, left wing, liberal college friends about the 357 I keep in the nightstand. Within the hour her frind had talked my girl into breaking up with me because it was "dangerous" to be in the same apartment with a firearm and she should be afraid of it. What's wrong with women now-a-days?

I know there are pleanty more women out there and some of them would even share my hobby, but I'm just really mad right now and need to sulk. By Wednesday I'll be fine. I would be interested in hearing other peoples' similar stories, though. Can anyone recomend places to meet pro-RKBA chicks asside from the range as the club I belong to is 99.9% men. For some reason I'm thinking Wal-Mart.

New Hampshire, USA - "Live Free or Die!!!"

Edited by - nunn on 04/14/2002 15:33:44

will270win

I must admit, that is a pretty stupid reason. Hard to believe that happened in New Hampshire of all places! I thought every packed heat there. That shouldn't have been an issue. Go shooting for the next few days and give us an update.

I like that Wal-Mart idea.

It has become my purpose in life to comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable. will270win@aol.com ~Secret Select Society Of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets~

Rembrandt

...cheer up, there are plenty of other fine ladies out there that don't have a problem with guns. You need to find one like Mrs Beast or Tlynn....hummm? I think Tlynn is available and has her own arsenal.......(Rembrandt the matchmaker)

mudge

I can relate to that a little. Ex-wife #2 (hereinafter known as THE *****) hated my guns. She even hid my handguns once. But then, she thinks she can talk to dead people.
On the other hand, Mrs. Mudge (the lovely) packs a Glock 30, so I don't have to worry about her hiding my guns. I DO, however, have to worry about pi$$ing her off

Mudge the careful


I can't come to work today. The voices said, STAY HOME AND CLEAN THE GUNS!

Edited by - mudge on 04/14/2002 11:42:15

Edited by - mudge on 04/14/2002 11:42:49

Edited by - nunn on 04/14/2002 15:34:57

smokinggun

I think you are a lot better off now. She needs to go find herself a weak man who doesn't have the nads to protect himself and his loved ones.



Edited by - smokinggun on 04/14/2002 11:54:51

Alpine

Yes you are better off. In fact call the ex-girlfriend's friend (did I get that right?) and thank for helping you see the light that you were just wrong for each other.

k.stanonik

Her loss bud, if she judges you by your hobby your better off without her. Maybe this would be a new one for GB match makin for the gun owner.

Lowrider

"...needs to go find herself a weak man..."

Yeah. I hope she and Alec Baldwin will be very happy together.

You're much better off being rid of her. Who needs small-minded women?

Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.

Gordian Blade

The next time something like that happens, if there is a next time, tell her the following true story from recent history in my county. A young woman was studying nursing at a local college. She had her own apartment in the city near the college. A parolee in the same apartment house took a shine to her but she didn't reciprocate. One day, he broke into her apartment and assaulted her, doing grievous physical harm. She had a dog, but not enough of a dog to stop the attack. As she lay injured, she called 911. The police arrived, but they heard the dog frantically barking and decided to wait outside the door for the dog catcher to arrive so they wouldn't be attacked by the dog when they opened the door. Meanwhile, that gave the perp a chance to escape out a window and the young woman a chance to die before help got to her. The parents tried to sue, but it was the old story of the police having no legal duty to protect any given individual citizen, only society in general.

So when it's you versus the bad guy, you are on your own. If you don't have a firearm, either he will have one and you lose by default, or brute strength will prevail. If you are an unarmed woman, 90% of the time that will put you on the losing side. It's up to each individual to make a choice. That young woman either didn't even consider having a firearm for protection or thought it was too dangerous to own one. Now she's dead. End of sermon.

offeror

She must have been pretty young, letting other people tell her what to think. My attitude is that in daily life, the fewer random people who know I have a gun, the better, for a variety of reasons. In future, put your guns aside until you know them better. Once they're emotionally involved, it won't matter. Show 'em your NRA card, talk about safe handling, talk about the fact that they shoot in the Olympics, talk about the right of self defense and all the home invasions making the papers lately. Anyone who doesn't get it, you wouldn't want to waste more time on anyhow. Sorry for your experience though. I know you may be proud of your guns and even anxious to show them off to people you like, but it's not wise until you know someone well. Your idea of showing and tell may be their idea of brandishing and questionable mental balance. They're wrong, of course, but it's hard to make a second first impression.

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Brth729

I feel for you man. I only had one girl in my past who was opposed to my owning guns. Never could get a straight answer or real reason from her as to why she didn't like guns. All she would say was "they're just bad!" My wife was at the complete opposite end of the spectrum though. After we had been together for a few weeks and she introduced me to her dad, and one of the first things he asked me was if I had any guns. He wasn't opposed to them. Fact is, he wanted to know if he had another "huntin' buddy."

***It is not so much what a man possesses, but what possesses the man which determines his quality of life.***

idsman75

You have to look on the bright side of things. I broke up with a very high-maintenance girlfriend after six months of dating and a proposal. I suddenly realized how much money I had to spend on MYSELF! It's amazing. I bought a few guns and a new wardrobe which were well within reach after a few months of bachelor-hood due to the fact that I was no longer putting gas and maintenance dollars into her dumpy pickup truck.

Women are merely a numbers game. Ask women out on dates every single day. Each time you get a "no" you are one "no" closer to a "yes". Instead of asking them out for dinner and a movie, ask them if they'd like to go to the range with you. You will get a lot of "no's" but that first "yes" will be money in the bank.

Also, ask it in the form of an open-ended question. Don't give them a question to which they can answer with "no". Don't say, "Would you like to go to the range with me Saturday afternoon and then dinner afterwards?" Ask them, "Which Saturday afternoon would be best for you to go to the range with me and then have dinner afterwards." Instead of giving the easy "no" they have to actually formulate a sentence to give a rejection. It is against human nature to say "no" to offers of kindness if they understand that the offer is with good intention.

SSG idsman75, U.S. ARMY

vol fan

Lowrider: I thought Alec Baldwin left the country because Bush got elected????????????

There seem to be two choices: collect a lot of stars.........or have a life!

muley

No girlfriend....but new neighbors just recently moved in found out that I owned and collected, reloaded, etc. Now, their kids, nice kids, can't set foot in my yard to play with the granddaughters. I tried to convince this idiot that all my guns were locked up with ammo locked in a different room. When I insisted that he come and look, he started trembling and scurried into his house. Then he peered out his window like I was a rabid skunk. Just the thought of being in the same house with a firearm caused him to go over the deep end. Undoubtedly, he was raised that way and his kids will suffer with the same problem. Now, I'm thinking of moving.
Just be glad that you found out about this heifer early and now you are free to find one that shares your hobbies. In the meantime,with all the money you'll save, buy, buy, buy!
muley

dheffley

If she would let a third party influence her to that point, you're better off with out her. Imagine the same thing after 2 kids and 5 years of marrage. As far as metting new girls, I'm older than dirt, so I can't help out there. I do know that my wife of 34 years has her own gun, and I only get to clean it.

Save, research, then buy the best.Join the NRA, NOW!Teach them young, teach them safe, teach them forever, but most of all, teach them to VOTE!

niklasal

I totally agree with offeror and dheffley.

Forget about gun issue, if she is so weak minded that her attitude can be changed so quickly, she is a follower and not a leader. Do you really want someone like that raising your kids and managing you millions?



NIKLASAL@hotmail.com

Otoman

I think you are better off without her. Any girl that I ever dated knew about me liking guns from the *-go. I have a great one now and she has been with me for 32 years. Her two guns are Model 60 Smith and Wesson, and her newest is a Sig P-239, I tell everyone it is mine however. I wouldn't want a woman around that was afraid of guns. My darling takes hers with her everytime she goes on a trip by herself.

KIMBER: Pistol du jour

Lowrider

Oh yeah, that's right, VolFan, (slaps self in forehead), what was I thinking?

Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.

Edited by - Lowrider on 04/14/2002 18:11:35

YankeeClipper

You are better off now than later. Find one like mine that calls the gun stores to find out what I've been looking at so she knows what to buy for me on Fathers Day, BD abd Christmas.

kimi

Rejoice, my friend, be thankful and celebrate...and go to your grave speaking out against her kind. Our Americans enjoy life today because of folks like you....not because of people like her.

chappsyny

Thanks for the encourangement fellas, I knew I could count on you.

Actually, I didn't bring the issue up intentionally. I've got my reloading bench set up in my bedroom 5 feed from the foot of my bed. The second time she was in there she was scanning the room and asked me "what's that thing over there with the handle?" That was the first time the subject had ever come up and, low and behold, she was terrified of the idea of it. I got her to the point where she was "ok" with my collection as long as she didn't actually see them and I was working on getting her to go to the range with me, but her little friend steped in first. You all are right, though, she was a follower.

I went to my local shop and found my next purchase, a Sig P220. Now that I don't have little miss has-to-go-out-for-$30-dinners to wine and dine anymore I'll be able to get it all the quicker.

New Hampshire, USA - "Live Free or Die!!!"

Ms. Beast

Sounds like someone you don't need! There is a lot of us lady folks who like guns, just have to look. I know ladies who think I am crazy for having guns in the house, not a problem here! If someone comes in to my house and is not invited, they will leave sore! I won't end up dead and neither will my kids!!

Boomerang

Hey that gives me great idea. I will try it the next time I am thinking about dumping my girl friend. Honey, Sweetie - This is not going to work out. As you know I own guns, and they are dangerous. I worry you may wake up in the middle of the night and unlock the safe and shoot yourself.

chappsyny - Sounds to me like there may have been other reasons you are not aware of. That was just a convenient excuse to exit to Splitsville. If not, she is an idiot if that all it takes to change her mind aout her other half.

Boomer

Protect our Constitutional Rights.

v35

Better now than later.
It's easier owning guns before a relationship than starting the hobby afterwards.

Fitz

Bottom line: If you care about the Constitution and appreciate that the 2nd Amendment was designed as the final check and balance against government tyranny, you'd see that people like her are the enemy. You might have a fine relationship for a while, but everytime you each go to pull the levers on election day, you will know she is sacrificing your freedom for an illusion of security. Later, when your both real old, you'll wish you had a woman you could just talk to; one who could understand your bitching about how the US is only one part of a world government where gun control is a given. Believe me, let her go, man. There's no middle of the road on this. She's an idiot, plain and simple, no matter how nice it was. There IS one out there for you.

Fitz

imadork

Count yourself lucky, my friend. Who knows, maybe you'll meet a second amendment sisters chick who wants to protect herself *and* has a strong mind. Good for you.

daddo

My wife doesn't do guns- but her dad did so she understands.
The women that loves you will take you as you are or she is not the right one. Sorry.

pickenup

My "girlfriend" (at the time) bought me a Ruger single six 3 screw for Christmas. Then hopped on the back of my Harley and took off cross country with me, we had no real destination in mind. That was 2 kids and 29 years ago. She carries a Ruger SP-101 and knows how to use it. When you find one like that, latch on, I did.

Iconoclast

Chappy, there are plenty of women in NH who grew up around firearms and if they aren't already better shots than you, they will be before they finish all that ammo you're reloading. Particularly true north of Concord. The advice about offering to take them to the range is a good one. It worked for me when I was younger (we won't go into the chronological details there!).

whiteclouder

Chappy:
Pray that you should get off that cheap in every potentially bad situation. She is weak, you are lucky.

Clouder..

n/a

You are WAYYYY better of without this one. Think about it. Any gal who is looney enough to be influenced out of a relationship by a friend over a gun is obviously going to go off on some other left wing tangent at some point. Good riddance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"We become what we habitually do. If we act rightly, we become upright men. If we habitually act wrongly, or weakly, we become weak and corrupt" - *ARISTOTLE*

**Like Grandad used to say--"It'll feel better when it quits hurtin"

gap1916

I am dating a lady who is also very left wing but wants to believe she is more ceter of the road. Most of her friends and relatives are left of center. We discused the gun thing at the very beginning of the relationship. We both agreed that not understanding guns was the real issue and not the gun. Fear of the unknown. We talked all the normal stuff about hand gun violence and agreed it is not the gun but the person. It took awhile but she is worth it. My 2 cents

mudge

YO....Clipper. I can't tell you how much I admire your training program.

Mudge the impressed

I can't come to work today. The voices said, STAY HOME AND CLEAN THE GUNS!

Edited by - mudge on 04/15/2002 11:43:33

woodsrunner

There's lots of women out there that have no problem with guns. It's a matter of filtering out the ones that do. I've always filtered the bad ones out with what I call standard date #2.
Standard second date= Pic-nic basket,Farmers field,.22 and a brick of ammo.If they don't demonstrate an ability to enjoy this date there usually isn't a third date.

Woods

How big a boy are ya?

austin247

Why guns can be good companions....

1. Guns can bring you great pleasure
2. After great pleasure, a gun will never turn to you and say "Why don't you hold me?"
3. A gun won't get mad if you don't call
4. A gun won't act like a raving maniac one week per month
5. When you get tired of a gun, you can sell it or trade it for a new better one with no recriminations
6. A gun is happy with Hoppes #9 and a light coat of oil
7. A gun won't get mad if you throw it in the safe for days at a time
8. If you get rid of a gun, you don't pay child support for the rest of your life
9. You don't have to buy guns diamonds and gold for birthdays and Christmas

See the point?

thesupermonkey

Austin,
Yeah guns are great... but let's not berate the women.
A good woman is prettier than any mint condition Colt SA,
sweeter than any 32 ounce match trigger, and more inviting than the aroma of cosmoline, Hopps #9 and gun powder.

The Romantic Gun Lovin' Monkey




Don't worry about the bullet with your name on it, worry about the fragmentation grenade addressed 'To Occupant'.

badboybob

Shucks Mr. Monkey yer jist too young and horney. Go buy 'nother gun.

PC=BS

airborne

Sounds like her liberal friends had alot of influence. If not this it would have probably surfaced later in your relationship. As some say, "better now than later".

B - BreatheR - RelaxA - AimS - SightS - Squeeze

airborne

Sounds like her liberal friends had alot of influence. If not this it would have probably surfaced later in your relationship. As some say, "better now than later".

B - BreatheR - RelaxA - AimS - SightS - Squeeze

jastr

When I met my wife she owned 26 guns... I knew this would not be an issue

lets all be responsible! shoot a criminal!

SUBMARINER

BOY THE MORE OF THIS CRAP I HEAR THE MORE I LOVE MRS. SUBMARINER

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