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Oh my...what to do??

SUBMARINERSUBMARINER Member Posts: 1,362 ✭✭✭✭✭
edited August 2002 in General Discussion
I had a conversation with my wife today about my check,it seems she has noticed several times where i an 20 to 30 dollars short on my checks.I told her that i was contributing to a gun fund and she informed me that i could not buy another gun until my daughter was out of braces which is 2 years.so what do yall think is the best way to approach this???
1. what new gun?
2. no honey ive had this gun forever
3. i dont know what gun your talking about!
4. did you say pistol?
5. i cant believe you forgot i had this pistol
6. i bought a new pistol and if you dont like it pack your * and go home to momma@!!~!~!

SUBMARINE SAILOR,TRUCK DRIVER,RUSTY WALLACE FAN AND AS EVERYONE SO OFTEN POINTS OUT PISS POOR TYPIST e-mail:WNUNLEY@USIT.NET
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  • RugerNinerRugerNiner Member Posts: 12,636 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    7. I have Wire, Pliers and a "Do-It-Yourself Dentistry" Book.

    Remember...Terrorist are attacking Civilians; Not the Government. Protect Yourself!
    Keep your Powder dry and your Musket well oiled.
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  • LowriderLowrider Member Posts: 6,587
    edited November -1
    Explain to wife that you don't NEED to ask permission to spend a little money now and then.

    Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.
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  • nunnnunn Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 36,085 ******
    edited November -1
    In my opinion, one aspect of a happy marriage is that each partner has a certain amount of money, call it an allowance if you will, for which he/she is totally unaccountable. It doesn't have to be a lot, maybe even as little as $10 a week, but it is for 100% discretionary spending.

    My wife and I each run small businesses besides our regular jobs, and we each have our own checking accounts. She has two even.

    If she buys a new pair of shoes, I say nothing. If I get something I want, she says nothing.

    Last big thing I bought was a car, for her.

    SIG pistol armorer/FFL Dealer/Full time Peace Officer, Moderator of General Discussion Board on Gunbroker. Visit www.gunbroker.com, the best gun auction site on the Net! Email davidnunn@texoma.net
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  • kgnovumkgnovum Member Posts: 594 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Ditto what Nunn said. It worked for me for a while but I still wasn't good at being co-chairman. Now I'm chairman (and single) and buy whatever I want whenever I want...
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  • pickenuppickenup Member Posts: 22,844 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I agree with nunn. We both have our "pocket" money, and no questions are asked about what it is spent on. If it costs a little more then we save a little longer.

    If I knew then, what I know now.
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  • mcneely77mcneely77 Member Posts: 411 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    For my wife and I, anything we earn above our regular paychecks is ours. The only exception is a purchase we both agree on such as replacing the washer or microwave or something. I work all the extra hours I can and take on as many jobs as possible in my offtime. Good Luck!

    Do not mistake my kindness for weakness.

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  • gun_gal1682gun_gal1682 Member Posts: 36 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Maybe just try to get her intrested in them.. she'll be handing the paychecks back and saying, "go buy me the gun I want!" Wouldn't you have scored big!!!
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  • IconoclastIconoclast Member Posts: 10,515 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Walt, several different approaches suggested here (although I personally wouldn't take R9er's) but pretty much the same theme. Unless, however, your finances are such that every penny is counted / required for basic necessities, then Mrs. Walt is off-base. Looking ahead, it could well be: "No, you are not going to buy another gun until little Susie is out of college." Then, "No, we will need that money for Susie's wedding." Followed by "No, we need to buy a swing set for little Walt because Susie & her husband can't afford that." Right up through "No, we will need that money to pay the undertaker soon." I don't know the circumstances, but the comment seems it could be symptomatic of an underlying concern about family finances and discrepant views of that situation. You need to have a serious sitdown, man.
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  • WWllVetWWllVet Member Posts: 1,493 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    The way we work it is that she gets the paychecks and pays all the bills with one exception. ALL the O/T is mine to do with as I please, also anything I do on GB is hands off to her. All major purchases are discussed prior to spending. Out of my mad money I took her on a cruise this last May for our 35 wedding anniversary, much to her surprise. And we renewed our Vows with the ships Chaplin while at sea on our Day.

    Vet
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  • NighthawkNighthawk Member Posts: 12,022 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I would ask her to be more sympathetic about my needs.It may work.

    Good Luck!!

    Rugster


    Toujours Pret
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  • lokdok1lokdok1 Member Posts: 383 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Remember, It's not like you're spending your money on booze, cigars,pot,women, and race tickets.A man needs a hobby, it's healthy, important, and not necessarily inexpensive.You can't be expected to come home from work and sit quietly in a chair till it's time for bed, for the rest of your life.

    Bartman
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  • muleymuley Member Posts: 1,583 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I guess I'm luckier then most. After 30 years, my wife still doesn't mind me buying a gun or anything that I want. Her standard answer is "Get it, we'll make do". Her attitude is, if it makes me happy, it makes her happy. Of course, this works the other way too. She can buy female stuff when she wants it and will get no objection from me. But, we have learned to buy these little treasures when and if we can afford them. And, finally.....No! You can't have her.
    muley

    **I love the smell of Hoppes #9 in the morning**
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  • snarlgardsnarlgard Member Posts: 1,310 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sounds like you need to take her to the range and get her interested in the sport of shooting. if you do it right soon you will have to watch her to make sure she isn't spending all the money on guns

    SMILE...MAKE EM WONDER WHAT YOUR UP TO
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  • muleymuley Member Posts: 1,583 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I think you may be right. She often goes with me to the range, but only to keep me from flirting with the girls. Can't get her to shoot, though. She enjoys picking up brass, so I'm not complaining.
    muley

    **I love the smell of Hoppes #9 in the morning**
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  • almagunsalmaguns Member Posts: 88 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    It's easier to get forgiveness than it is permission!
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  • nunnnunn Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 36,085 ******
    edited November -1
    One day about two years ago, I came home from work and told the wife, "Sweetheart, I ordered a new pickup today."

    Her reply, "That's good. You have been needing one."

    She's a keeper.

    SIG pistol armorer/FFL Dealer/Full time Peace Officer, Moderator of General Discussion Board on Gunbroker. Visit www.gunbroker.com, the best gun auction site on the Net! Email davidnunn@texoma.net
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  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427 ✭
    edited November -1
    Is the money needed for the braces?.. Is it taking anything from the family by putting this money aside?.. If it is.. then I can see her point.. for example, if that money would make a payment on the braces, or is needed for food, mortgage, then yes.. she has a valid point... If it is NOT taking anything from the family budget, or hurting the budget in any way... then what is the problem?...

    I dont agree with any of the "suggestions" you had for handling the problem submariner... you need to sit down and talk with your wife.. not at her or to her, but WITH her... Find out why she said what she did...How is it hurting the family finances?..

    Classic and I talk about everything concerning the finances... its a mutual decision on any purchase except gifts.. but we even talk about that ahead of time concerning the value of gifts...So much trading is done in Florida with rifles and guns that money hardly ever changes hands, but when a purchase comes along.. it is discussed, openly... Funny thing.. he knows he can get a gun anytime he wants it,and I know I can get anything I want or need .. but we still discuss it...

    Maybe part of the reason she said what she did, could be the fact that she found out about it, and you didnt tell her yourself first...Perhaps if you had discussed putting a small amount of money aside from each check, there would be no objections... Right now she probably feels that you were "hiding" something from her... not a good thing...



    Lil' Stinker's Opinion
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  • SUBMARINERSUBMARINER Member Posts: 1,362 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    well i got around it today the new living room furniture is being delivered tomorrow...strike one up for diplomacy

    SUBMARINE SAILOR,TRUCK DRIVER,RUSTY WALLACE FAN AND AS EVERYONE SO OFTEN POINTS OUT PISS POOR TYPIST e-mail:WNUNLEY@USIT.NET
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  • BushobiBushobi Member Posts: 107 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Keep the fund going for the next two years..then shop til you drop..oughta be able to make some nice purchases..(after all it was her idea )
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