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misunderstood communication abominations
KEVD18
Member Posts: 15,037
another thread got the wheels turning and i have some time to kill so here goes.
certain phrases enter our lexicon in various ways and are twisted around to the point where they become meaningless drivel(at best) or outright insulting(at worst). i thought that i'd share a couple that have been pissing me off lately.
qualified compliments.
you look great for forty.
you look great for having had three kids.
thats great work for an amateur.
that a great product for the money.
these are not compliments. they are backhanded insults. what you want to say is that whatever the object you're talking about is sub par, not up to standards. thats what you want to say, but you dont want to be a dick about it, so you cover the negative remark with a pseudo compliment. this is bs. either tell the truth or stfu. when i get back handed compliments, the insult immediately registers. you're not fooling anyone. say what you mean or keep your pie hole shut.
blame reducing modifiers.
no offense
just saying etc
one thing is for sure, if somebody starts a sentence with "no offense, but...", they are about to say something offensive. they just dont want to take the responsibility for it, so they add one of these totally bs modifiers. just saying? i know you're the one saying it. whats the just for? people who are "just saying" need to just stfu or admit that they are being offensive, accusatory, contradictory, or inflammatory. adding no offense or just saying to a sentence doesnt absolve the speaker of the repercussions of their words. also in this category are just kidding, joking, playing etc. you made an ill considered remark, noticed that it didnt land the way you though it would, and now want to absolve yourself of responsibility by covering it as humor. BS! you're not fooling anyone. all you're doing with either of these is putting an escape clause in your statements. if they dont play out like you thought they would, you have an out. its bull and it needs to stop, or at least people need to understand what the words they let out of their mouth mean and more to the point, people need to know what the words that are being thrown at them mean.
certain phrases enter our lexicon in various ways and are twisted around to the point where they become meaningless drivel(at best) or outright insulting(at worst). i thought that i'd share a couple that have been pissing me off lately.
qualified compliments.
you look great for forty.
you look great for having had three kids.
thats great work for an amateur.
that a great product for the money.
these are not compliments. they are backhanded insults. what you want to say is that whatever the object you're talking about is sub par, not up to standards. thats what you want to say, but you dont want to be a dick about it, so you cover the negative remark with a pseudo compliment. this is bs. either tell the truth or stfu. when i get back handed compliments, the insult immediately registers. you're not fooling anyone. say what you mean or keep your pie hole shut.
blame reducing modifiers.
no offense
just saying etc
one thing is for sure, if somebody starts a sentence with "no offense, but...", they are about to say something offensive. they just dont want to take the responsibility for it, so they add one of these totally bs modifiers. just saying? i know you're the one saying it. whats the just for? people who are "just saying" need to just stfu or admit that they are being offensive, accusatory, contradictory, or inflammatory. adding no offense or just saying to a sentence doesnt absolve the speaker of the repercussions of their words. also in this category are just kidding, joking, playing etc. you made an ill considered remark, noticed that it didnt land the way you though it would, and now want to absolve yourself of responsibility by covering it as humor. BS! you're not fooling anyone. all you're doing with either of these is putting an escape clause in your statements. if they dont play out like you thought they would, you have an out. its bull and it needs to stop, or at least people need to understand what the words they let out of their mouth mean and more to the point, people need to know what the words that are being thrown at them mean.
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Bless your heart [:)]
Well,
Bless your heart [:)]
Being from the south I know what that REALLY means......
I'll be sure to avoid the things that piss you off....just sayin'.[8D]
its got nothing to do with pissing me off. it doesnt piss me off personally, as in i dont get offended by forum posts. not a single person on this board knows me personally, so i dont have feelings associated directly with what goes on here.
what pisses me off is the ignorance and banality with which we as a society use our language. it makes me sad when i talk with people who cant manage to utilize the most basic method of communication.
quote:Originally posted by guntech59
I'll be sure to avoid the things that piss you off....just sayin'.[8D]
its got nothing to do with pissing me off. it doesnt piss me off personally, as in i dont get offended by forum posts. not a single person on this board knows me personally, so i dont have feelings associated directly with what goes on here.
what pisses me off is the ignorance and banality with which we as a society use our language. it makes me sad when i talk with people who cant manage to utilize the most basic method of communication.
i thought that i'd share a couple that have been pissing me off lately.
Sorry....I must have misunderstood what you were saying.
another thread got the wheels turning and i have some time to kill so here goes.
I'll bet you really get ticked off with auction descriptions such as "Bore looks good for its age", or "Bluing is fine considering it was carried in a holster for 20 years." [:)]
Johnny
We never really grow up; we only learn how to act in public.
To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.
I didn't say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.
[^][:D]
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
"You look like crap. Popping out 3 babies has made your butt saggy, your breasts droop, and I'll bet you have big wrinkles on your skin. 23 year old hotties is all that look good to me, you fat ugly cow."
After you pick yourself up off the floor, your mouth will be swollen shut & you won't have to worry about the backhanded insults.
quote:Originally posted by KEVD18
quote:Originally posted by guntech59
I'll be sure to avoid the things that piss you off....just sayin'.[8D]
its got nothing to do with pissing me off. it doesnt piss me off personally, as in i dont get offended by forum posts. not a single person on this board knows me personally, so i dont have feelings associated directly with what goes on here.
what pisses me off is the ignorance and banality with which we as a society use our language. it makes me sad when i talk with people who cant manage to utilize the most basic method of communication.
i thought that i'd share a couple that have been pissing me off lately.
Sorry....I must have misunderstood what you were saying.
what i was saying is that when somebody here, take mr. perfects post as an example, whips one of these abominations on me here it doesnt piss me off directly as not a single one of you can actually insult me because you dont know me and therefore cant get at my core.
it pisses me off in a general sense to see our language being buzzardized like this. we're rapidly losing our ability to communicate, devolving into crap throwing apes.
another example. like. properly used as part of a simile(a comparison most commonly using like or as) such as "it hit me like a ton of bricks" comparing the receipt of information to having a ton of bricks land on you' it has become an omniword, usable as nearly every tense of the sentence. thats a grammatical abomination and severely degrades the ability of a person to convey their thoughts or feelings.
thats what i meant. while the posting here factor into this, this is far from the only place where i contact people. i hear it every day and it just pisses me off. perhaps i wasnt clear earlier and i hope i have clarified my position.
Try this out:
"You look like crap. Popping out 3 babies has made your butt saggy, your breasts droop, and I'll bet you have big wrinkles on your skin. 23 year old hotties is all that look good to me, you fat ugly cow."
After you pick yourself up off the floor, your mouth will be swollen shut & you won't have to worry about the backhanded insults.
wouldnt it be easier to with hold comment entirely? i frequently exercise my right to remain silent when a discussion turns to a females looks because saying nothing is better than saying the wrong thing and i wont lie for gratuitous reasons.
She is so buck toothed, she could eat an apple through a picket fence. Bless her heart.
'Nice shot from there.'
Brad Steele
quote:Originally posted by guntech59
quote:Originally posted by KEVD18
quote:Originally posted by guntech59
I'll be sure to avoid the things that piss you off....just sayin'.[8D]
its got nothing to do with pissing me off. it doesnt piss me off personally, as in i dont get offended by forum posts. not a single person on this board knows me personally, so i dont have feelings associated directly with what goes on here.
what pisses me off is the ignorance and banality with which we as a society use our language. it makes me sad when i talk with people who cant manage to utilize the most basic method of communication.
i thought that i'd share a couple that have been pissing me off lately.
Sorry....I must have misunderstood what you were saying.
what i was saying is that when somebody here, take mr. perfects post as an example, whips one of these abominations on me here it doesnt piss me off directly as not a single one of you can actually insult me because you dont know me and therefore cant get at my core.
it pisses me off in a general sense to see our language being buzzardized like this. we're rapidly losing our ability to communicate, devolving into crap throwing apes.
another example. like. properly used as part of a simile(a comparison most commonly using like or as) such as "it hit me like a ton of bricks" comparing the receipt of information to having a ton of bricks land on you' it has become an omniword, usable as nearly every tense of the sentence. thats a grammatical abomination and severely degrades the ability of a person to convey their thoughts or feelings.
thats what i meant. while the posting here factor into this, this is far from the only place where i contact people. i hear it every day and it just pisses me off. perhaps i wasnt clear earlier and i hope i have clarified my position.
Jeez, Kev! I was just messing with you....now my head hurts.
If it makes a difference, I hear our language butchered every day. Sometimes by educated people who should know better.
Do you even know what "literally" means? Or is that just a word that you think offers a deeper degree of intensity or seriousness to your situation?
Because what you are saying is that a ton of bricks actually fell out of the sky on you.
Or the dreaded, "Don't take this personally, but..." Everything is personal when you're a person...
Just my pet peeves...[xx(][:)]
As counselors we were taught that during any form of therapy any sentence that held a "but" meant that the first half of the sentence was cancelled by the second half of the sentence.
Is that true for your sentence?
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
quote:Originally posted by Mr. Perfect
quote:Originally posted by susie
As counselors we were taught that during any form of therapy any sentence that held a "but" meant that the first half of the sentence was cancelled by the second half of the sentence.
Is that true for your sentence?
Are you in therapy?
[:D]
Some days it feels like it.
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
As when a military commander sends a mesage to subordinate- "Fairly well done."
Just talk to people that know what niggardly means. If they think it's something racial, let that clue you in that their command of the English language leaves something to be desired. I just classify them as morons and don't talk to them.
period.
quote:Originally posted by p3skyking
Just talk to people that know what niggardly means. If they think it's something racial, let that clue you in that their command of the English language leaves something to be desired. I just classify them as morons and don't talk to them.
period.is that time of the month for some female species
But not all of them[:D]
KEVD18 didn't want to say this[:0] BUT[:0], you are an amateur[;)]give yourself more time and age/wisdom/ and trivial little things that get under your skin will fly over your head.just saying
Kev, you are a nice guy for a "mazzhole".
Does that work?[:D]
Darned auto censor!