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Help me with a "discussion" with the female unit!
Big Sky Redneck
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In April her brother graduates basic training at Ft Sill,OK. Her and her mother have plans to fly down for the graduation and they want to take the baby.
I offered to take that weekend off to stay with baby Pattycakes, some quality bonding time for us! [:D]
She wants to take the baby with her to the graduation, I want the baby to stay home with me.
My arguments as to why the baby needs to stay with me are not working, too much commotion, noise, weather and flying. I need help convincing her that Daddy needs this time with the baby! Mommy is being stubborn!
I offered to take that weekend off to stay with baby Pattycakes, some quality bonding time for us! [:D]
She wants to take the baby with her to the graduation, I want the baby to stay home with me.
My arguments as to why the baby needs to stay with me are not working, too much commotion, noise, weather and flying. I need help convincing her that Daddy needs this time with the baby! Mommy is being stubborn!
Comments
Pick another time for bonding.[;)]
This, from Ed's school of happy marriages. 30 years!
Congratulations on his graduation.
Maybe Mommy and Grandma wants/needs to show her baby off to her Brother/Son.
Pick another time for bonding.[;)]
This, from Ed's school of happy marriages. 30 years!
Congratulations on his graduation.
I agree, they have made up their mind and there is no changing it, all the arguments in the world will not change their mind you can use rational reasons and emotional ones and neither will work.
I think flying with a baby would be right up there with getting a root canal, but if they want to take her she is going.
Instead, tell the missus how much you miss time with the baby and long for an opportunity. Ask her to help you get it done.
It may help to fetch an onion and be slicing it as you tell her this.
Good Luck!
Unless You Take A Couple Runs that Weekend and Use the Money to Purchase a New Firearm Or 3[:o)][:o)][:o)]
Yup Get them Home and In the Safe
'Fore She Gits Home[^]
Graduate basic training is about as eventful as getting a tooth crowned!
That was my thought but I didn't want to rain on anyone's parade.
Brad Steele
Take the weekend off and go on the trip with the rest of the family.
What Dave said.It's your only alternative.
Unless U NEVER wanna see where that baby came from again!!![B)]
To me this is a situation where you might win the battle but you could end up losing in the end.
Go along with it,, after all,, if something goes wrong,, guess who's fault !!!
Do it all the time,, but add, OK but if something goes wrong it's your fault
it wouldn't hurt to contact him in advance and ask him to tell sis no and that he'll be home in a day or 2 to see the baby anyway.
my dil ruined her aunts funeral with a crying baby.
or tell her she should think of the babies safety and quit being so selfish. after all the event is about the grads, not her need to show off a new arrival.
OR tell her you will hire a house cleaner to come in and have the place cleaned up before she gets back and hire one of those topless services that does that.[}:)][:D]
Take the weekend off and go on the trip with the rest of the family.
A good plan! Not the one-on-one bonding time he wanted but likely the best option.
Only downside I see is that onion ain't gonna' chop itself ! [:o)][:D]
I need help convincing her that Daddy needs this time with the baby! Mommy is being stubborn!
You never let a woman think you want something that's just for you. You got to go with making them think it's what's best for the children.
I mean it's only in the babies best interest to stay at home with you. You never know when someone with Ebola might be on the plane. It would selfish and a terrible shame to expose the baby to that awful disease just in order to show it off to loved ones.
You have to go with the guilt thing it'll make them realize you're only thinking of what's best for the baby and not your selfish desires. [;)]
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
He would have to convince the wifely unit that it's all for HER! Not the child.
Bruce:Your scenario has merit. Between you and Dave,I think their the best ideas.
(as though it was not already predetermined by the women folk)
JMWO...
just my worthless opinion...
STHU and let mama show off the baby to her friends
you will score brownie points
Or "pointed brownies"...Which ever comes first!
Obviously the chances of anything truly serious happening are small, but why even take the risk? Besides, when the plane gets up to altitude and her ears get pressure in them, I can just about guarantee that baby Pattycakes will be howling.
Bottom line: The baby isn't your wife's exclusive property to do with as she please. If you each are voting one way, whatever makes the child most comfortable is the tiebreaker. I've kept my son home with me while my wife has made several trips out of state because it wasn't in his best interest to be traveling. She wanted to take him, but understood the reasons I have wanted to keep him home.
The only exception I can think of is if the kid is still breastfeeding and you don't have the stuff needed to bottle and freeze it while your wife is gone. Trust me, you don't want to be around if that kid gets switched to formula all at once. [:)]
One man wants the baby.
You lose.
I'm never right, she's never wrong.
Funny thing is...
The 18 years before marriage, the same situation existed with my Mom. [B)]
Make it about them and their comfort!
I kept the kids many times when my wife traveled. I always enjoyed it!
Well, as said above offer to keep the baby so Mommy and Grandma can have fun enjoying a young soldiers graduation with no interuptions from baby?
Make it about them and their comfort!
I kept the kids many times when my wife traveled. I always enjoyed it!
Ditto on the baby's comfort during the flight, but also do some research on outlet malls in the area, if she is into shopping. She and Mom have some valuable "bonding time" themselves, have a relaxing day shopping to their heart's content, lunching, maybe a spa day. I don't know a mother with a small child who could pass that up.
You have to put some bait on the hook.[;)]
Watch her plans for Jr change[:o)]
Work that weekend and keep making payments on all those trucks.
With the amount of consumer debt you're carrying, the economy of the mountain states relies on you!
Even if she lets you think you've "won" the argument, you lose!
I'm making progress, all it takes is some well timed whining [:D]
You might be winning but let me tell you as a MOM that the minute she leaves that little one and gets on the plane she will worry herself to death and be calling all the time, especially if this is her first trip away from her.
I can easily remember, even after 40 years, the first time my husband and I just went out for the evening and left our son with some very close friends. I didn't enjoy myself that much.
Let her take the little one and she her off to the family and then be there for a few days when she returns.
GOOD LUCK !!
The probability of catching respiratory infections on long flights is high and a good reason to leave the child behind.
That risk is a good but probably ineffective argument.
Our daughter in law wouldn't let my son visit us with our grandson.
Reason? There doesn't have to be a reason.