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I embaressed my wife

dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
edited September 2011 in General Discussion
Last night my wifes sister Rose and her boyfriend Bill came over. Every thing was fine until Rose did not refill Bills glass of Pepsi fast enough and started cussing at her. I kindly told him that we do not talk like that to women in this house.

Bill then told me that he was in Iraq and Afghanistan and nobody tells him what to do. I told him thanks for your service i was in for 10 years myself. But if you talk like that again you can leave or i will make you leave. If you act right you are more than welcome to stay. He got up and left.

My wife told me when we went to bed i embaressed her. I told her im sorry but i have never cursed or raised my voice at her. My dad has never raised my voice at my mom. If i ever raised my voice to a lady around my dad he would beat the wheels off me. LOL

Was i wrong or should i have kept my mouth shut. David
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  • NavybatNavybat Member Posts: 6,849 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Your house, your rules. Many will say that here.

    He did the right thing if he thought he couldn't abide by those rules...he left.

    If Rose is smart, she'll dump him.
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  • m88.358winm88.358win Member Posts: 7,269 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    That boy friend was rude and impolite. You did the right thing.
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  • jev1969jev1969 Member Posts: 2,691
    edited November -1
    You were right. For one you didn't just sit there and allow the jerk to berate your sister in law. Second you informed him of the rules and left the decision on wether he stayed up to him. Probably better that he left. Your wife should be proud, not embarrassed.
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  • River RatRiver Rat Member Posts: 9,022 ✭
    edited November -1
    You get Rose on this forum, and we'll tell her what to do about her boyfriend problem.
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  • woodshed87woodshed87 Member Posts: 23,478 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I think You Did Fine.
    To Browbeat Your SIL Is As Bad As browbeating Your Wife .... Or kicking Your Dog.
    Where Would You be Or Feel like if Ya Didn't Stick Up for them .
    Thank You David [^][^]
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  • ATHOMSONATHOMSON Member Posts: 3,399 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Your house, your rules and where he's been don't mean jacksnit.

    AT
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  • cce1302cce1302 Member Posts: 9,555 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Being in Iraq/afghanistan does not give a person a free ride to act like Bill did or to escape the consequences of his actions.


    On another forum a guy (who happened to be a veteran) was complaining about the situation that his choices had left him in. I pointed out that his situation was due to the choices he had made. Another chimed in with something about "So it's the veteran's fault?" at which point I asked why did he think that being a veteran had anything to do with the situation. He then accused me of hating veterans. I called him out on it, asking why he thought I hate veterans (I never pointed out that I are one) but he never responded.
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  • calrugerfancalrugerfan Member Posts: 18,209 ✭
    edited November -1
    So he thinks that just because he was in Iraq, he has the right to do whatever he wants and disrespect anybody? Sounds like he didn't learn anything over there.

    You did the right thing.
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  • MMOMEQ-55MMOMEQ-55 Member Posts: 13,134
    edited November -1
    You sir are a true gentleman. Very few left in this world.
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  • bpostbpost Member Posts: 32,669 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Easy come, easy go, one less free-loader to feed.

    Maybe Rose will pick a better class of man next time.....
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  • NavybatNavybat Member Posts: 6,849 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by bpost
    Easy come, easy go, one less free-loader to feed.

    Maybe Rose will pick a better class of man next time.....



    Darn right! You're better off without him in your home...so would Rose be.
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  • SpartacusSpartacus Member Posts: 14,415
    edited November -1
    verbal abuse in front of family.....
    wonder what the dirtbag does in private?
    rose needs to get out while she can.
    and, you did the right thing. your wife should thank you.
    just my opinion
    tom
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  • CDMeadCDMead Member Posts: 2,141 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    So how's your wife going to act when Rose comes over to your house crying with a black eye because she and Bill an argument?

    It sounds like you've never met Bill before. Generally I'm on my best behavior when meeting people for the first time, especially a GF's relatives. If the guy is willing to act like that around strangers, how's he going to act when (if) he gets to know you better?

    Better off not finding out, IMHO.
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  • Mark GMark G Member Posts: 1,678 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Ask your wife if she would let him talk to her, her daughter or her mother that way.

    You were right on target.

    No excuse for that no matter where he has been.
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  • JgreenJgreen Member Posts: 2,579 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Being a Vet isn't a license to be a jerk.

    You did the right thing.
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  • mateomasfeomateomasfeo Member Posts: 27,143
    edited November -1
    Bill needs an * whompin...
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  • SWAT 50SWAT 50 Member Posts: 4,074 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Were you right?

    Depends on if you want to live a celibate lifestyle,or not.

    I say you were right on.
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  • jwb267jwb267 Member Posts: 19,664 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    you did right. have no regret
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  • Tech141Tech141 Member Posts: 3,787 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Good Job, Dave man.
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  • gesshotsgesshots Member Posts: 15,678 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by woodshed87
    I think You Did Fine.
    To Browbeat Your SIL Is As Bad As browbeating Your Wife .... Or kicking Your Dog.
    Where Would You be Or Feel like if Ya Didn't Stick Up for them .
    Thank You David [^][^]



    +1
    His behavior was inexcusable.
    If He kicked my dog, he departure would quite possibly have been feet first. [;)]
    It's being willing. I found out early that most men, regardless of cause or need, aren't willing. They blink an eye or draw a breath before they pull the trigger. I won't. ~ J.B. Books
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  • givettegivette Member Posts: 10,886 ✭
    edited November -1
    Reads like there was more than just Pepsi in the glass...
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  • Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,404 ******
    edited November -1
    She should be equally "embaressed" by your spelling.[:D]
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    And fiery auto crashes
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    While sifting through my ashes
    Some will fall in love with life
    And drink it from a fountain
    That is pouring like an avalanche
    Coming down the mountain
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  • PRO X 2 800PRO X 2 800 Member Posts: 917 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    If I was a betting man,and I am I would bet he has already smacked Rose a time,or two! GOOD JOB dav1965! Keep a baseball bat in the corner in case he visits again. Try to get Rose out of denial about being abused. Time to send in the Captain.

    Rude Behavior

    http://youtu.be/tStAXtmLI98
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  • NOAHNOAH Member Posts: 9,690
    edited November -1
    have a nephew like that/talking the way he wants just because he was in Iraq and Kosovo[:(!]
    do we owe them someting more than respect NO.

    do not understand the mind set of them.[xx(]

    good jod Dav1965[;)]
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  • 4406v4406v Member Posts: 317 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Your house,Your rules.
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  • Sav99Sav99 Member Posts: 16,037 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    You did the right thing Dave. I doubt it make a difference to the sister though.
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  • gesshotsgesshots Member Posts: 15,678 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by PRO X 2 800
    If I was a betting man,and I am I would bet he has already smacked Rose a time,or two! GOOD JOB dav1965! Keep a baseball bat in the corner in case he visits again. Try to get Rose out of denial about being abused. Time to send in the Captain.

    Rude Behavior

    http://youtu.be/tStAXtmLI98


    +1
    My first thought too.[;)]
    It's being willing. I found out early that most men, regardless of cause or need, aren't willing. They blink an eye or draw a breath before they pull the trigger. I won't. ~ J.B. Books
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  • abcguns2abcguns2 Member Posts: 2,320 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Good job !!!
    Thanks !!!
    d.a.stearns............................a.k.a..........SKEEZIX...
    Gunsmith / LEO
    Athens , Tn












    www.allamericangunshop.com
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  • bambambambambambam Member Posts: 4,818 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Done alright.[;)]
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  • yoshmysteryoshmyster Member Posts: 21,974 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Maybe you should've waited until dude pimp slapped Rose and then say to your wife "he really should've put more snap in to that". Some women (actually most folks) don't know how good some folks are.

    All I know is it seems your misses would rather cover up than prevent what's in the mail. Maybe I'm wrong. So when Rose comes over all busted up tell her to handle it 'cos you're not getting involved since you might embaressed her again.
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  • Wolf.Wolf. Member Posts: 2,223 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Personally, I think you f#@$ed up real bad, pal! That lazy b#$%@, Rose, needs to have her butt kicked. After all, what's a woman for, if not to do what a man says and take care of his needs.

    Seriously, though, this guy did not just disrespect and mistreat Rose, but he came into your home, "took over" your home by treating Rose the way he did and disrespected both you and your wife in the process. He probably has already started physical abuse of Rose and I believe some intervention on her behalf should take place (but that's just my opinion). Personally, I would explain to my wife that Rose is in for some real problems if she stays with this donkey. A woman should not build a lifetime with an abusive man. Your sister in law needs counseling.
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  • partisanpartisan Member Posts: 6,414
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Navybat
    Your house, your rules. Many will say that here.

    He did the right thing if he thought he couldn't abide by those rules...he left.

    If Rose is smart, she'll dump him.


    +1 absolutely!!!
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  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Rose and Bill have been dating 3 months. I do not know of any abuse but he knows what will happen if i find out. I have only met him 3 times. My wife and i both dont like him so we dont invite them over. They do invite themselves over own there own sometimes. He walked in my bedroom once to go to the other bathroom and saw my gun safes and asked what was in them i told him guns and he said but there is 3 i told him lots of guns. He wanted me to show him and i was like maybe next time i dont feel like opening them up now. I dont like strangers seeing them.
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  • Waco WaltzWaco Waltz Member Posts: 10,836 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    He can't fill his own drink up?
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  • Alan RushingAlan Rushing Member Posts: 8,805 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Haven't seen or heard anyone fault you here and you know I won't either.

    You did right by Rose, your wife, yourself and Women in general.

    When that obnoxious, insolent, disrespecting, sexist, sorry excuse for a man, got on up off his sorry * and got out to the other side of your family's door ... he did the "rightest" thing of his day.

    Believe that if they have any sense (and I believe they both must have) both Rose and your wife will soon realize that you did right by all.

    When some one is embarrassed when you do the right thing ... that is OK for you.
    When some one is embarrassed when you do the wrong thing ... that ain't so OK for you!

    Rid of him, all would be best off.
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  • OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,521 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Navybat
    Your house, your rules. Many will say that here.

    He did the right thing if he thought he couldn't abide by those rules...he left.

    If Rose is smart, she'll dump him.


    Right on the money
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  • Old hickoryOld hickory Member Posts: 1,368 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    You were 100% right and also tried to be decent by thanking him for his service and sticking out the hand of comraderie by mentioning your own service. ( thanks to both of you) You gave him a way out of the situation and he was disrespectful to all, regardless of his service.
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  • 76k2076k20 Member Posts: 643 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Sav99
    You did the right thing Dave. I doubt it make a difference to the sister though.


    +1
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  • Riomouse911Riomouse911 Member Posts: 3,492 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    The guy is a *. Rose better come to her senses before he beats them out of her. Your wife should realize that she's got a good one and say thanks instead of guilting you for "embarassment" in front of Rose.
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  • WEASEL-88WEASEL-88 Member Posts: 998 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    30 years ago while playing cards at my house a guy was cussing a lot. My son was about 9 at that time and in ths same room. I told him to leave or shut up. He became a preacher a few years later.

    My house my rules.
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