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Sad Story
nunn
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This is so sad, but I see this all too often, please read.
Her Diary:
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.
Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.
On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.
Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried.
I don't know what to do.. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
His Diary:
Boat wouldn't start, can't figure it out.
Her Diary:
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.
Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.
On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.
Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried.
I don't know what to do.. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
His Diary:
Boat wouldn't start, can't figure it out.
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/08/margaret-jensvold-marylan_n_921317.html?1312833712&ncid=webmail1
WASHINGTON ?_" Ben Barnhard finally had reason to be optimistic this summer: The 13-year-old shed more than 100 pounds at a rigorous weight-loss academy, a proud achievement for a boy who had endured classmates' taunts about his obesity and who had sought solace in the quiet of his bedroom, with his pet black cat and the intricate origami designs he created.
But one month before school was to start for the special-needs teen, his mother, psychiatrist Margaret Jensvold, shot him in the head, then killed herself. Officers found their bodies Tuesday in the bedrooms of their home in Kensington, Md., an upper-middle class Washington suburb. They also found a note.
"School ?_" can't deal with school system," the letter began, Jensvold's sister, Susan Slaughter, told The Associated Press.
And later: "Debt is bleeding me. Strangled by debt."
Although family members said they were stunned by the killings, they also said Jensvold had become increasingly strained by financial pressure and by anguished fights with the county public school system over the special-needs education of her son, who had an autism spectrum disorder. They said the school district ?_" apparently believing it could adequately educate Ben ?_" had refused to cover tuition costs for the boy to attend a private school for special-needs students. Jensvold didn't have the money herself and didn't want to return her son to public school, where relatives said she felt harshly judged and marginalized and where Ben had struggled.
"It was a huge stress," Slaughter said. "It's very hard being a single parent under any circumstances, but to have a high-needs child is overwhelming. And then to have him inappropriately placed in the school, and have the school fighting with her, was really traumatic."
Jensvold also offered an explanation for taking her son's life.
"She did mention in the note that she knows people whose parents committed suicide when they were children and how difficult and traumatizing that was, and she didn't want to do that to Ben," Slaughter said.
"It is very true," she added. "I can't imagine Ben ever recovering from the loss of his mother."
Special needs education is an emotionally freighted issue, perhaps especially so in Montgomery County ?_" an affluent region where parents tend to be actively engaged in education and where schools are highly regarded nationwide.
School district spokeswoman Lesli Maxwell said that privacy laws prevented her from discussing the particulars of Barnhard's case, but that the district offered vast options for its 17,000 special-education students and will refer students for private schooling when it can't meet their needs.
Jensvold, a Johns Hopkins-educated psychiatrist specializing in women's health, was passionate and determined. She made news in 1990 by filing a gender discrimination lawsuit against the National Institute of Mental Health, where she was a medical staff fellow. A judge ultimately ruled against her, calling her version of events an "illusion." She later had her own private practice but most recently was working at Kaiser Permanente.
She also was a protective mother, constantly fighting with Montgomery County schools over how best to accommodate her son. He was her world, said her divorce lawyer, Robert Baum.
"She came with an album of pictures of her in a very warm and endearing type of situation," he said. "Her arms around him playing outside, amusement parks, all the types of things you'd love to see of parents dealing with their kids."
Ben was an active infant ?_" his family nicknamed him "ATB," or All-Terrain Baby ?_" but became increasingly withdrawn and isolated, and relatives said as a child he developed an autoimmune disease that's sometimes triggered by strep. A divorce court filing lists 18 specialists involved in Ben's care, and Jensvold's own suicide note hints at some of the child's difficulties: "writing problems, migraines, hearing things" ?_" and "a bit paranoid."
"Ben's needs ?_" unable to meet Ben's needs," Jensvold wrote in her note, according to Slaughter.
He had a small group of friends and enjoyed origami, animals and picking tomatoes with his grandmother, his father said. But school was difficult for him, and his weight ?_" topping 275 before his weight loss-program ?_" made him a target for teasing. He found comfort with even more food.
"He used to say, `Mom and Dad, I don't want to go to school. I don't want to deal with those people. They're mean to me and they hurt me,'" recalled Jamie Barnhard, Ben's father and Jensvold's ex-husband. "It broke both of our hearts."
The couple placed their son in the county's special education program, but Barnhard said his son struggled in the system. He spent about nine months at Wellspring Academies, a weight-loss boarding school in North Carolina, returning in the spring more than 100 pounds slimmer and more confident.
"He wanted to ride his bike. He wanted to be a kid again," Barnhard said. "He wanted to go out and have fun. He wanted to fly airplanes with his dad. He wanted to just do anything."
But there were still concerns about where to send Ben to school.
Jensvold appeared consumed by his education at her father's memorial service last spring, Slaughter said. She confided that she was having trouble paying the roughly $50,000 tuition for Ben to attend Wellspring. She presented a binder about five-inches thick detailing his academic needs, along with a chart showing how his IQ scores had fallen over the years.
At the end of June, Slaughter wrote her sister to say their mother would pay for Ben's education for the coming year. Jensvold had planned to enroll her son in the Ivymount School, a Rockville, Md., private school specializing in autism and other learning disabilities. Tuition there ranges based on a child's needs, but can be more than $60,000, the school said Monday. Her mother said she'd
send a check.
In her final months, Jensvold only sporadically communicated with her family, as she had for years, Slaughter said. Emails to Jensvold frequently went unreturned, mail sometimes unopened.
Ben spent July 4 with his divorced parents aboard his dad's restored boat, treading past the Washington Monument with a picnic dinner of barbecue and fresh pineapple. It was a final moment of serenity.
He died a month later. One day after his body was found ?_" co-workers hadn't heard from Jensvold for days and newspapers had accumulated outside the house ?_" a $10,000 check from Jensvold's mother arrived, Slaughter said.
Remember to unload your guns before getting into your car.
Daughter Cried, 'Mommy, Come Get Me'
By TOM DAVIES
AP
BEDFORD, Ind. (March 6) - "I've got her, and you're not going to get her." Beth Johnson heard those words from her ex-husband Monday, shortly before he crashed his rented single-engine plane into his former mother-in-law's southern Indiana home, killing himself and the couple's 8-year-old daughter.
The mother-in-law, Vivian Pace, described the cell phone call Tuesday as investigators tried to determine why novice pilot Eric Johnson strapped his daughter into the plane's passenger seat and apparently crashed the plane deliberately into the one-story house.
Pace said she has no doubt that the crash was intentional because Johnson had been harassing his ex-wife for months, including buying a house three doors down from hers.
"That was the only way he could hurt Beth," she said. "That was the only way he could get to her."
In the cell phone call, Pace said, her daughter could hear the child in the background saying, "Mommy, come get me, come get me." It was unclear whether the call was made from the cockpit or before the plane took off.
Police were treating the crash as a suicide and homicide. State Police Sgt. Dave Bursten said investigators had yet to find any notes indicating Johnson's intentions, but the fact that the house was his ex-wife's mother's home raised serious questions.
"All of those things together lead us in the direction that this was done intentionally," Bursten said.
Andrew Todd Fox of the National Transportation Safety Board said investigators were also reviewing whether the plane was functioning properly and hoped to have a preliminary report within a week.
CP
Youngster hereabouts, still in his late teens, decided that he would take his own life, using a 20-gauge shotgun. Shot himself below the chin, pointing upward. He didn't angle the shot far enough to the rear, apparently. The shot destroyed both jaws and the entire face. Brain is untouched. He will recover, and live with no face.
That is really too bad. I am sure though, there will eventually be a #2 and it won't fail.
unfortunately youre probably right.
had a kid blow off the left side of his face a couple years ago.
he lived and went thru 6 surgeries to rebuild his face with bone from his hip and skin from his stomach.
a year later he blew the top of his head off.
An 8-year-old, apparently distraught about being bullied at Robert R. Gray Elementary School, hanged himself in his Fairmount Heights home last week, according to county police
You either live with the consequences of a botched job here, or suffer in the afterlife if successful.
Sad, but it is what it is.
I heard many, many stories of botched suicides. The improper "shot in the head" is a fairly common one. It's amazing how many people blow their faces off in bungled suicide attempts. Or jumped from windows not high enough to kill but enough to leave them paralyzed from the neck down. Or drank caustic chemicals only to survive with no stomach and a lifetime of surgical procedures on a liquid diet. Or slash the wrists and live but as a vegetable after the brain starved for oxygen.
One guy ran his motorcycle at a big rock to kill himself. Went flying over the top of the rock when the bike hit it at 70+ MPH. Well, he ALMOST cleared it. Hooked his genitals on a sharp point at the top and completely castrated himself. Survived with numerous broken bones and a Ken doll groin.
Of course, a famous suicide was Vincent van Gogh who shot himself while at a dinner party to impress some woman. Shot himself in the gut so he lingered for three days in agony before dying.
You decide to off yourself, make sure you do it right.
his chin, with similar results. If a guy doesn't know where
his brain is, it's probably up his hind end.
Ron