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Tried to explain to my son

OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,526 ✭✭✭✭
edited October 2012 in General Discussion
what all my gun stuff was. I told him if something happened to me, What stocks and parts go with what guns. I have multiple stocks for each gun and screws, dies, ect. He really didn;t care. Guess its just the age. He is 19. I finally told him when he is ready to pay attention to let me know.

I have not been feeling good lately and think my cancer might be coming back. I have to go to the docters on monday for some blood work. I know it is probably nothing but I want him to understand what to do with all my stuff. I just dont want my inlaws to get a hold of it. They are greedy as the day is long.

I plan on being around a long time but you never know. I wish there was one person I could trust to help him if anything did happen to me.I do have a will but that means nothing to my wife.She would sell the guns in a heartbeat and that is not what I want.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. I feel better now.I just needed to tell someone and you guys are good listeners.Oakie
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  • kidthatsirishkidthatsirish Member Posts: 6,983 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I understand.... my son is only three however my wife knows what I want done....I only have a few things to pass on, and she knows how to handle them.
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  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    God forbid if it comes back get in touch with me. I had the best docs in the world working on me. Many people dont come back from stage 4 cancer. Especially in the head neck area. Please get in touch with me if you need it.
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  • bigoutsidebigoutside Member Posts: 19,443 ✭
    edited November -1
    You need a new will.
    Or a trust- that owns a lot of guns and gun parts.
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  • OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,526 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by dav1965
    God forbid if it comes back get in touch with me. I had the best docs in the world working on me. Many people dont come back from stage 4 cancer. Especially in the head neck area. Please get in touch with me if you need it.


    Dave, If something goes wrong, I will contact you to help me out. I feel that I can trust you. John. Thank you.
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  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I am a Duke fan but i went to UNC for my cancer. Only one place would see me. Every other doctor told me they were sorry that they could not help. Then one doctor told me about a young hot shot that would do it. I am 47 and he is about 39 or so. Trevor Hackman a great doctor who saved my life.
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  • slumlord44slumlord44 Member Posts: 3,702 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    If your wife will not follow your wishes on your death you need a trusted friend to be the executor to insure that your wishes are followed. My wife is no gun expert but is smart about money and knows they are worth money. She has directions on how to dispose of my collection and a few specific guns go to specific people based on my will.
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  • JustCJustC Member Posts: 16,056 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    isn't this the same wife that threw away your things?? Now you say she would just sell your guns even though you wish them to go to your son?
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  • retroxler58retroxler58 Member Posts: 32,693 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Oakie... Ever considered making a video...
    Something that would remain IF anything happens to you.
    In that way... You, Yourself would be that one person that You could trust in the end.

    Just a thought...
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  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,056 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Oakie....I just hate to hear that you are not feeling well. I hope that this turns out to be nothing at all.

    I can't wait to hear the update on what the doctors say. Let us know as soon as you can.
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  • kimikimi Member Posts: 44,719 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Good luck to you on your appointment with the doctor!
    What's next?
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  • andrewsw16andrewsw16 Member Posts: 10,728 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Do NOT make your wife the executor of your estate. Get a nonrelative professional, such as an attorney and retain HIM as the executor. You will provide him with your will and an inventory of your belongings. THEN your wife will not be able to legally dispose of ANY of your property. Let your wife know and let the attorney know that your wife knows. Then when you die, he will step in and safeguard your belongings and execute your wishes. You've seen it in a dozen movies. The attorney calls a meeting soon after the death and lets everyone know what is legally their's and what isn't. If anyone tries to take what isn't bequeathed to them, the attorney will file charges. That should put the fear into crooked relatives.

    Best of luck to you in the mean time. [:)]
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  • timinpatiminpa Member Posts: 2,250 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I know I only know you by internet, but if you ever need my help, I have plenty of room, and I would be more than willing to carry out whatever it is you wish. If that means waiting till your boy gets older than so be it. I would help any way I can.

    In the mean time, I'm sure your just fine.
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  • spasmcreekspasmcreek Member Posts: 37,717 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    trust no one in your fmily to follow your wishes....as andrewsw16 says...no need to tell how i know about family GREED...business is business
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  • OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,526 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by andrewsw16
    Do NOT make your wife the executor of your estate. Get a nonrelative professional, such as an attorney and retain HIM as the executor. You will provide him with your will and an inventory of your belongings. THEN your wife will not be able to legally dispose of ANY of your property. Let your wife know and let the attorney know that your wife knows. Then when you die, he will step in and safeguard your belongings and execute your wishes. You've seen it in a dozen movies. The attorney calls a meeting soon after the death and lets everyone know what is legally their's and what isn't. If anyone tries to take what isn't bequeathed to them, the attorney will file charges. That should put the fear into crooked relatives.

    Best of luck to you in the mean time. [:)]


    GREAT advice. I will do just what you said. I will be speaking to my lawyer on friday. Thanks.Sometimes it takes someone to point you in the right direction and you did just that. Also I wanted to thank Timinpa and Dave. You guys made me almost cry. Thanks for being a frind which I have many on here.John.
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  • OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,526 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by JustC
    isn't this the same wife that threw away your things?? Now you say she would just sell your guns even though you wish them to go to your son?


    That is why Iam concerned.
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  • woodshed87woodshed87 Member Posts: 23,478 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    John All You Need to Do is Ask
    And Good Luck Prayers Said
    Woody[;)]
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  • Marc1301Marc1301 Member Posts: 31,895 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Oakie,.....don't get ahead of yourself because you are not feeling well.

    Hope for the best, and don't dwell on it.
    My prayers are there for you.
    "Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here." - William Shatner
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  • JustCJustC Member Posts: 16,056 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Oakie
    quote:Originally posted by JustC
    isn't this the same wife that threw away your things?? Now you say she would just sell your guns even though you wish them to go to your son?


    That is why Iam concerned.
    ''leave them to him in the Will, and MAKE SURE he has a copy. Or better yet, bills of sale for every one of them, to him.
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  • pulsarncpulsarnc Member Posts: 6,517 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Wise man wise advice definnetly go the lawyer route also if the guns are in a safe make sure the combo is changed and only you and the lawyer have the combo
    cry Havoc and let slip  the dogs of war..... 
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  • Sparty_76Sparty_76 Member Posts: 714 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Oakie, I will be praying for you! I hate going to the doctor! Seems like at this age each time I go something else is broken down.

    Good luck, Buddy!
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