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My Best Friends Brother

dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
edited August 2017 in General Discussion
I am down to just 3 best friends now. My very best friends brother is getting ready to go to jail or prison for 24 months.

He received his 3rd DWI in 3 years. The lawyer thats the best around told him to pack his bags and get ready that their is nothing he can do now.

Paul my best friend grew up in a very bad family. He has a great Mom who died last year. When the 3 boys were growing up his dad was a bad drunk and would beat the kids and his wife. He also would not come home for days or weeks at a time. He would be shacked up with other women.

Out of the 3 kids 1 grew up and is hooked on drugs, the other drinks like a fish in water. I saw him drink a pint of vodka in 2 under 2 minuets. It took 2 swallows.

The 2 brothers dont like my friend Paul because he goes to church and tries to live as best as he can. They resent him having a good job and owning his house and nice cars.

It is weird how 3 kids came from the same house and all 3 are different like night and day.

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  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    He is going through a very hard and dark place in his life. His oldest son died of cancer about 3 years ago. His wife left about 2 years ago.

    In 3 years he has had 3 DWIs. The last one he got 6 months in jail. He asked if i could find a gun for him because he lives in the hood.

    I told him that i do not think he can own a gun.

    Did i tell him right or was i wrong. Either way i am not gettinglooking
    him a gun. Right now his head is not screwed on right.

    I was wondering because i hate to tell someone something and i am wrong.
  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Paul is 1 of 3 best friends that i have. If i called them they would help me get rid of a body if i needed to.

    Well Pauls brother Tommy is a stone cold alcoholic. He has 4 DWIs and spent 6 months in jail this year already.

    He lost it when his 18 year old son died from bone cancer. I had a talk with him and tried to help him but it did not work.

    The doctor told him that if he keeps drinking he has about 6 months. Then he goes out and gets so drunk its stupid.

    Paul has done all he can for him. I can not imaging losing a kid but damn he is bad off. He does not want help. I just hate it for my friend.

    Tommy hates Paul because he is made something with his life.[:(]
  • 1911a1-fan1911a1-fan Member Posts: 51,193 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    but will he get on a ladder and clean your gutters ?
  • dav1965dav1965 Member Posts: 26,540 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    He would if i asked his brother also.

    I bought some tools from Tommy and i gave him a ride to his house from a friends and he asked me to stop by the ABC store. He went in and bought a pint of vodka and drank it straight and was done in 5 miles.[:(]
  • shilowarshilowar Member Posts: 38,811 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    If all he's got is 6 months if he doesn't quit drinking, i'd say the damage is done. It is amazing how many folks I hear about dying at such a young age from alcohol abuse.
  • retroxler58retroxler58 Member Posts: 32,693 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sad waste of life. I've got a sister like that. She blames all the world for her troubles. Plain and simple truth is, she's at fault.

    My younger sister and I, have tried to get her on the correct path,
    helped her get jobs, a roof over her head, provided means to be mobile, and communicate.
    She just won't give up the bottle. [V]
  • eastbankeastbank Member Posts: 4,052 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    it,s not only drugs a booze, I have a step daughter who can,t stay away from her rotten husband. we have tried to help her leave-get away from him for over 12 years, we have spent thousands of dollars over the years taking her and the children in and setting them up with a place to live far away from him, but she has always gone back. we are at wits end. mr myopic.
  • spasmcreekspasmcreek Member Posts: 37,717 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    sometimes ya just gotta let go and know nothing u do will help...for your own sanity and move on
  • interstatepawnllcinterstatepawnllc Member Posts: 9,390
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by eastbank
    it,s not only drugs a booze, I have a step daughter who can,t stay away from her rotten husband. we have tried to help her leave-get away from him for over 12 years, we have spent thousands of dollars over the years taking her and the children in and setting them up with a place to live far away from him, but she has always gone back. we are at wits end. mr myopic.


    Your step daughter is what they call a codependent enabler.

    A disease of its own.
  • yoshmysteryoshmyster Member Posts: 22,059 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'd take him grave plot/coffee can shopping. Where he wants his wake (Irish style). Make him set things in order while he's alive. Maybe it'll snap him out if not his wishes will be set.
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