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sobering incident

223believer223believer Member Posts: 128 ✭✭✭
edited May 2002 in General Discussion
This past weekend a friend, under 40, died of a brain tumor. Totally unexpected, didn't even know he had a problem. Thursday morning he didn't feel well, sort of had a headache. Got worse all day and by dinner time it hurt like hell and he started vomitting. By 9:00 PM he started slurring his speech and was helicoptered to the hospital. By 1:00 AM they'd done a CAT scan and saw a massive tumor, encompassing nearly the whole brain. They had him on the table by 6:00 AM but had to remove over half his brain in getting most of the tumor out. He, not surprisingly, never work up from surgery.

Like I said, he had no idea anything was wrong with him. Not even an inkling of a problem. Hearing about it all and visiting him in the hospital really knocked me out. We weren't close friends, and in fact I thought he could be a bit of an over-bearing know it all, even though I knew he had an awful childhood and upbringing. I'm glad for all the times I was friendly with him, and I cringe at the memories of mocking him behind his back.

I haven't come up with any great lessons from this, except that you really never do know when you're going to punch out. You really don't.
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  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427 ✭
    edited November -1
    I am sorry to hear of the death of your friend.. My sympathy to you and yours and to your friends family..


    Take Care
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  • 4wheeler4wheeler Member Posts: 3,441
    edited November -1
    sORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR FRIEND. My motto is to live everyday like it is your last because one day it might be.

    "It was like that when I got here".
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  • jdb123jdb123 Member Posts: 471 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    i understand .223, my step-dad totally, unexpectantly died last week from a heart ailment, he was 49. sorry to hear about your friend any age is too young but under 40 yrs old that just sucks, sorry dont know what else to say. God bless
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  • COONASSCOONASS Member Posts: 2,068 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU AND HIS FAMILY..

    We Live in a World of Give And Take, But A Lot Of People Won't Give What it Takes.
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  • salzosalzo Member Posts: 6,396 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sorry to hear about your friend. Brain cancer can often times be quick. My grandfather was diagnosed with brain cancer, and 2 months later he was gone.
    At Christmas time my father was diagnosed with liver cancer-they gave him 8-11 months-He died two months later. At first I was upset that he went so fast, but when I saw him lose 60lbs in 2 months, I realized that I could not bear to see what another 6 months would have done to him.
    You should take great comfort in the fact that your friend did not suffer long.

    Happiness is a warm gun
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  • DarkStar11DarkStar11 Member Posts: 1,557 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    223, sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts are with you and yours, and friends . . .


    DarkStar11
    "...But Mona Lisa musta had the highway bluesYou can tell by the way she smiles..."
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  • robsgunsrobsguns Member Posts: 4,581 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I only hope that I can go so quickly when my time comes, though I hope your friend had the time to have his family around him before he went away. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Time heals all wounds, you will always bear the scars, though some are more visible than others.

    SSgt Ryan E. Roberts, USMC
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  • Zuider ZeeZuider Zee Member Posts: 41 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sorry to hear about losing your friend. This past week has been trying for my wife and myself as well.

    A friends daughter has battled Cystic Fibrosis for over 20 years, had a lung transplant 2 years ago and appeared to be doing fine. Her parents nursed her from when she was born; I remember her mom taking off from work each day at lunch to tube feed her daughter when she was in school. She was married last year, and was very happy. Last week she came down with a virus, and couldn't shake it off like most of us can due to a weakened immune sytstem caused by the anti-rejection drugs, and died at 22. May she rest in peace.

    Two days ago, one of my wife's employees lost her husband to congestive heart failure. He'd been battling CHF for 20 years, and finally lost. At least, now he can breathe - may he rest in peace.

    None of us know how long we have on this earth. This past week has been a wake up call to me to enjoy every minute possible of my life.

    Zee
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  • Josey1Josey1 Member Posts: 9,598 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'm sorry for the loss of your friend,just thank God he was spared the years of agony that all too many cancer victims must endeur.My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours and your friends family,God Bless.

    "If cowardly and dishonorable men sometimes shoot unarmed men with army pistols or guns, the evil must be prevented by the penitentiary and gallows, and not by a general deprivation of a constitutional privilege." - Arkansas Supreme Court, 1878
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  • Evil ATFEvil ATF Member Posts: 1,195 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    "I'm sorry for the loss of your friend,just thank God he was spared the years of agony that all too many cancer victims must endeur."

    Ditto and God bless.

    Stand And Be Counted
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  • seductiveoneseductiveone Member Posts: 159 ✭
    edited November -1
    I am sorry to hear about your friend. The doctors told my father he would not live to see his next birthday because he had cancer. It wasnt as bad as they thought and he has beaten it.

    I also knew a guy at work who had a brain anurism. He left behind his wife of 15 years and his two little girls.

    My heart goes out to you and your friends family along with every one else in a shady situation.

    Live life free and to the fullest because it is the most precious and
    fragile thing in the universe.
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  • gunnutgunnut Member Posts: 724 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sorry to hear of your loss, This brings up another story for me. I have a good friend and co worker that is 27 about 3 months ago he had to undergo 4 bypasses, he is already back to work, however now they are talking heart transplant. Really makes you think.

    The Nut

    ~Secret Select Society Of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets~
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  • flatdogflatdog Member Posts: 201 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    223,
    Sorry for your loss, my wife died in about the same manner only it was a massive stroke. You have already learned your great lesson. Don't study on it too long, things will fall into place.
    Good Luck Stay Strong.
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  • davcondavcon Member Posts: 139 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sorry to hear about your friend. I just found this weekend that this lady who has a camp near mine was diagnosed with lung cancer 6 weeks ago. Then to top it off her 40 year old daughter apparantly got into an arguement with HER daughter, the lady with lung cancers grand-daughter, jumped into her car and drove it about 100 mph into an oak tree commiting suicide. Tragic.
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  • Rob GreeneRob Greene Member Posts: 102 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    One look at the posts shows that gun owners are not the stupid, uncaring, unfeeling, ignorant, crass people that some anti-gunners would make us out to be. We are caring, compassionate people who are concerned. I am sorry for your loss. God bless you, .223, and keep His hand on you and yours.

    **It is your right to posess a firearm. In case of questions, please refer to ammendment 2, United States Constitution.**
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  • daddodaddo Member Posts: 3,408
    edited November -1
    Sorry to hear this. I know life changes a little for all who go thru this. Glad he didn't suffer as many do.
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  • IconoclastIconoclast Member Posts: 10,515 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sincere sympathies, 223. Although you say you were not close, clearly you were close enough to have it affect you, to say nothing of his family. Yet another sad reminder we know not how many days we shall have and we should make the most of them.
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  • nordnord Member Posts: 6,106 ✭
    edited November -1
    If it's possible to take just one thing from this experience, then look at it this way...

    We humans have the unique opportunity to stand back and look at the world in a different way than any other creature. Thus, we can decide for ourselves whether our existence begins at birth and ends at death, or if this life is only a small part of something much greater.

    I have no doubt that my beloved animals are the latter. What makes us so different is that I have the choice to reject that theory and they don't. In a way that makes them the lucky ones!

    Pray that your friend acknowleged something greater than himself. Comfort yourself in the belief that if he did, then his untimely passing was only a small step in the greater journey. Perhaps it was meant to be this way. Perhaps it wasn't important. All I can say is that it happened. Maybe I'll know the reason one day, maybe I won't.

    And from the looks of the posts, we who are so hated by liberal anti-gunners and religion bashers are the one's who value life and appreciate the gravity of death.

    Celebrate your lesson. Don't dwell too much on the death... And remember. May your journey be a safe and wonderful one.

    nord
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  • hunter280manhunter280man Member Posts: 705 ✭
    edited November -1
    Deepest sympathy; My father and I just lost a good fishing buddy last week, much the same way but it lasted for 2 years and several surgeries to get rid of the cancer.
    Then he had heart attack and left too quickly.

    Though I was born to royalty, I was snatched at birth, so treat me as the noble I am!!!
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  • k.stanonikk.stanonik Member Posts: 2,109 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    sorry for your loss, even the over bearing friends bring a unique light into our lives. Its times like this that bring us closer and appreciate our loved ones more.
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  • LowriderLowrider Member Posts: 6,587
    edited November -1
    My wife's sister also died of a brain tumor(s). She never had an inkling that anything was wrong with her until she had a seizure. Went to the hospital, got a CAT scan and they found 4 or 5 tumors in her brain. Checked out the rest of her and found them in her breasts, lungs, lymph glands...

    Had the seizure in July and was dead in September. 41 years old.

    Friggin' cancer! We'll be lucky if it doesn't get us all.

    Lord Lowrider the LoquaciousMember:Secret Select Society of Suave Stylish Smoking Jackets She was only a fisherman's daughter,But when she saw my rod she reeled.
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  • timberbeasttimberbeast Member Posts: 1,738 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    223, much good will and prayers sent your way, and to the family of your friend.
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  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427 ✭
    edited November -1
    223,

    My condolences to you and to your friends family. Ou prayers are with you. However,This is a good post as it brings our mortality into perspective.

    Lt

    "We become what we habitually do. If we act rightly, we become upright men. If we habitually act wrongly, or weakly, we become weak and corrupt" - *ARISTOTLE*

    **Like Grandad used to say--"It'll feel better when it quits hurtin"
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