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Advice for single men (link)
HankW
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http://www.nomarriage.com/
Just a bit of the wisdom offered at the linked site:
quote:A modern western woman is fine for a short-term relationship (particularly if it's mostly focused on sex). The problems start after marriage, particularly after you have children. A modern western woman is raised to become an awful wife. Nothing can be done about it; the problems are in her head and they are 100% incurable and only get worse the more you are with her. Marrying a modern western woman is the game you simply do not want to play; the only possible outcome is that you become a loser.
Just a bit of the wisdom offered at the linked site:
quote:A modern western woman is fine for a short-term relationship (particularly if it's mostly focused on sex). The problems start after marriage, particularly after you have children. A modern western woman is raised to become an awful wife. Nothing can be done about it; the problems are in her head and they are 100% incurable and only get worse the more you are with her. Marrying a modern western woman is the game you simply do not want to play; the only possible outcome is that you become a loser.
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And beware, The Drunk Monster will be on the loose this weekend.
Where was this advice 20 years ago?[:(]
Don
would have saved me a lot of trouble.
Try Southern Women...[:D]
WHY???????
Try Southern Women...[:D]
I would try some of your cooking....except grits I already tried them and ...well yuk is all I can say...how bout some ....3.14?
Its funny how some guys go for the flirty, stupid, center of her own world, types of GIRLS.....and others go for the self sufficient, head strong, doesn't need anyone else kind of WOMEN.
Then are SO suprised when it all falls apart. In a lot of relationships there seems to be some kind of hope that if you marry a person they will act "married" and stop doing all of the things that single people can.
If you marry a person who hasn't worked and supported themselves EVER...then you will be their provider...don't expect them to all of the sudden give 50% of what it takes to survive.
If you marry a person that has a million friends and stays out all of the time in "party mode"....then they are going to do that same thing when you are married and you are not going to be able to tell them not to.
If you marry a person that spends every cent they get and you have money...they are going to spend it also, whether you know it or not...you are not going to have any say so over their spending habbits...even if it is YOUR money.
If you marry someone who lives in filth, be ready to pick up after them or live in filth yourself.
People are what they are....and anyone who thinks marriage is a "quick fix" to a problem has a wake-up ahead of them. If you have a perfect marriage...there is WORK involved. Nobody is perfect and it takes years and years to get through some things. It isn't only HER fault things fell apart if it doesn't work....you have to be able to put up with the bad things and there are always more bad things than good in anyone.
We have been married 13 years and we are perfect for each other...only because we have stuck together through all of the crap that has come along....my depression (that was a tough two years), his unemployment, the credit card debt, horrible car problems, house responsibilties, three kids tearing up everything we own....you can't say its gonna work out unless you really don't know how you could make it without the other one.
Scott....come get your pie...its still in the shoot tube waiting for you.
many of us guys will tell you we married a woman who enjoyed what we enjoyed ....be it friends, activities hobbies. then women change
friends(ours) are not welcome at the house
our car/gun hobby is childish and a waste of money
our jobs don't make enough money while it was you who quit yours over that * in accounting
camping is too much trouble and fishing or hunting? well thats just barbarian.
LF...I bet you wear the pants in your family Some guys like/need that
I wonder why your husband relinquished that control to you
Is he too busy working to notice?
Are you the primary breadwinner?
does your family hold a large estate you expect to inherit?
or did you spend the first 5 years of your marriage beating him into submission?...I bet the latter based on generalization my believe is this is what makes a strong marriage
I would guess that every semi-sucessful marriage there is one partner who gets treated like a doormat while the other lives blissfully unaware of the compromises the other makes or of the fact their shoes are even clean
Hey, Bippy! Life is FULL of mixed messages, people are dishonest, people change,
things change, matter of fact, change drives a more interesting life! Many bad
marriages are dead right out of the gate because SO many people set such LOW
standards for their life's pardoner! Let's face it, too, there is also an element of
luck involved to be intelligently dealt with! You can't change most people. Most
people resist change and don't. It's all out there for anyone to see - refuse to see
it and suffer the consequences. ... happens all day long, every day!
Knowing and living all of the above, I've done quite well!
I had the advantage of having a father and mother who explained this to me when
it was most valuable - as I was still growing up![:D][:D][:D]
Try Southern Women...[:D]
oh yeah!
they swear they are from mars and ther wives from venus...yet they seem to live at macy's. If I still had a wife she would bake me a pie and bring it out to the living room where I can eat it with my feet up while I read your innane BS. You say I don't know you yet you refute none of what I said.Except with some blanket "couldn't be more off base" statement. I don't need to know you to know of you. Your posts expose your true self every time you type. I won't go as far as you did in being insulting because, after all, you don't know me either.
How our home (just as an example) has settled into its routine isn't rocket science....I love him, he loves me...
If the kids need anything whichever of us is available does what is needed. The laundry and dishes and general housework just gets done as each us can get to it (including the kids.) The money each of us earn goes toward whatever bills need paying as it comes in and we BOTH want a better home eventually and need a break from time to time...so, it is a constant taking up the slack for each other and working toward a common goal where we have things we want and things get done as they need to. Nobody is "in charge" and everyone has what they need and someitmes we have fun...it isn't easy all of the time, but it wouldn't work if either of us thought the other was less important or if either of us were to put the other down.
If you are going to be a bossy...rear end...with no respect for the person you want to be with...you had better find someone who has been abused and neglected for most of their life....so when they meet you they actually think they aren't being mistreated. Because nobody in their right mind stays in a relationship where they are miserable.
Some homes that I know of have the terms and responsibilities set up differently...one member may pay ALL of the bills and the other gets all of the house and kids to take care of.....but, they are equally respected and neither treat the other like they are MORE deserving than the other. If you take care of the other person and really appreciate them....then you don't treat them like a lesser person EVER...and wouldn't put up with anyone else mistreating them either.
If I want to collect cars, guns, or vintage Playboy magazines it should be my business. If I want to spend 4 months a year in Alaska. no one should tell me I shouldn't and if my friends swap lies and tell off colored jokes they should leave the room to avoid embaressment rather than try to emasculate me and make me feel less than civilized because I have a libido.
So stand your high moral ground and look down on me all you care to I don't have to deal with you or anyone like you in my world. Save your courage for changing the things you can
C. Simon: "your'e so vain....you probobly think this thread is about you"
What a joke...some people are all about themselves...even with complete strangers a thousand miles away.
Groom: This sure is a sweet & pretty gal I've found. I hope she never changes!
Bride: Well, with a little work I can fix him up and change him into what I really want!
I use to tell this little joke, and still do. However, a few years ago I heard about a socialogical study that was done on newlyweds that had been married between 6 months and a year.
A sheet of paper is handed to the husband, and to the wife. At the top of the paper is the question:
What would you change about your spouse?
Most of the men handed the paper back without writing anything, although a few wrote a couple of things on it.
Most of the women..... asked for more paper!!
In the mind of the Bride & Groom at their wedding:
Groom: This sure is a sweet & pretty gal I've found. I hope she never changes!
Bride: Well, with a little work I can fix him up and change him into what I really want!
I use to tell this little joke, and still do. However, a few years ago I heard about a socialogical study that was done on newlyweds that had been married between 6 months and a year.
A sheet of paper is handed to the husband, and to the wife. At the top of the paper is the question:
What would you change about your spouse?
Most of the men handed the paper back without writing anything, although a few wrote a couple of things on it.
Most of the women..... asked for more paper!!
BUllzEYE...there is such a thing as p-whipped but Ive never heard of a woman being d-whipped
by the way Kasey. I actually think you are a decent wife...and a good mother....and if your home works the way you describe, power to you.
here's the but...did you notice this thread was "advise for single MEN?"[:0] Since you are niether single or a man I must assume you opened it looking to pick a fight because you feel the need to control every aspect of your life...even from 1000's of miles away...Im a s-head huh?[;)]
%&*^$#$%(*!@ that hits the nail on the head
quote:Been married 25 years as of next Tuesday. Would not have it any other way. You get out of a relationship what you put into it IMHO.
unless your married to a lazy psycho beach, then how much do you have to put into it to get a fraction of a return, try coming home everyday, and absolutely nothing has been done nor will it unless you do it
Try Southern Women...[:D]
They have more firearms..[;)]
I can hold my own
Does no one else want to? Don
Or
Are ALL Nut Jobs "pie lovers"?
"I like Pizza" so maybe I should look for an Italian woman?
Jewish women are the best. A man will never experience true misery until he marries a Jewish women.
are you picking on jeff again....jeez