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My son wrecked...need advice

GuvamintCheeseGuvamintCheese Member Posts: 38,932
edited September 2006 in General Discussion
My son Alex(17) just hit another vehicle (his 1st accident) in the rear at a stoplight. I went to the scene where the lady had already called police. The jeep wrangler (2001,mine) had no damage but it bent the bumper on her 99 toyota tacoma. The police arrived and we exchanged info, no ticket was issued. I asked the lady to get it fixed and I will pay for it, I dont want to turn it in to the insurance. She knows I dont want it turned over to my insurance co. because my rates will skyrocket. I rely on my son to drive so that he can get himself and my daughter, to school and practice. Heres the kicker, it was wet out and he said the jeep skided a long way. when I got home I took it out and tried to duplicate the skid, it locked up but only the front tires. the back brakes arent working. How can I make sure the lady doesnt take me to the cleaners for a new bumper? How hard should I come down on the boy when its partially my fault?

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  • dcon12dcon12 Member Posts: 32,040 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by cartod
    [ How hard should I come down on the boy when its my fault?



    Rule number one is "Its never your fault". Hes 17 and you did not know this? Don
  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Don't be so sure that the rears didn't lock up.

    When stopping in an emergency you will really notice when the fronts lock up. Also most newer cars have EBD (Electronic Brake Distribution), since your's doesn't have ABS, you don't have EBD, but a manual distribution block. Car's brakes are biased towards the front anyways, that is where you get the best braking performance. It's possible that your front tires locked up, leaving you almost no control over the vehicle. Tires also play a major part. A full on ABS-inducing stop usually only needs ABS on the front.

    Bottom line-the boy is going to have an accident sometime or another. Believe me, he probably feels pretty low about wrecking your jeep, I would. That is enough of a lesson.
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
  • dongizmodongizmo Member Posts: 14,477 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Why would you "come down" on him at all? Thats why they call them accidents, just hope he learns from it.
    Don
    The ultimate result of shielding men from the effects of folly, is to fill the world with fools.
  • dheffleydheffley Member Posts: 25,000
    edited November -1
    What ever it costs, front the money then make him pay you back every penny on a scheduled payment plan that will make it hard enough on him he will remember. That will teach him the best lesson of all. Make it too easy on him and he'll soon forget it.
  • v35v35 Member Posts: 12,710 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    You'd be smart to satisfy the woman's claim without niggling.
    Your brake system should get a checkout.
    Get on the Tire Rack website, read the reports on wet traction and BUY good tires. If your shocks are bad you will get skipping in panic stops.
    You have young drivers with undeveloped driving judgement that need all the help they can get.
    Let them know that wet stopping distance doesn't equal dry stopping distance.
    Hope for the best.
  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Yes, Tirerack is highly recommended. I will never buy another tire from a dealer. You can research every tire you can find on here and read reviews.

    Take him out and practice, worst case senarios. When it snows, practice a spinout, emergency braking, etc.
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
  • FrancFFrancF Member Posts: 35,279 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:She knows I dont want it turned over to my insurance co. because my rates will skyrocket.

    If she starts complaing of neck pain in a few days, then what are you going to do?

    Guess what I am trying to say is you have insurance use it! Rarly do minor fender benders make your rates go up. Injurys from fender benders here in CA are an automatic 2 points. I had one about 5 years ago and my yearly rate went from $600 a year to $1300 (AAA) I have only 48 hours to report it. If I would have waited I would have had to pay both medical and damage out of pocket, and God only knows how much that would have been.
  • JamesRKJamesRK Member Posts: 25,670 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I agree with dheffley. Front the money and have him pay you back.
    The road to hell is paved with COMPROMISE.
  • aliasalias Member Posts: 366 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Careful. Two years ago my wife did the same thing on the highway on the north side of town. Stopped trafic at an exit ramp, raining, slid into a car. Not nearly hard enough to deploy the airbag. Driver (administrator at the local christian college)said at the scene he was fine, until some guy claiming to be his son-in-law jumped out of another car and started taking pictures with a cell phone camera. Suddenly he needed transport for a "heart condition". Insurance paid $4000 for a bent bumper on a $2000 Toyota pickup. Eight months later we get a letter from the insurance company saying we are being sued for more than the limit of the policy. We thought it was over. After a year our insurance gave the guy $25000 to go away. I wanted them to chase him for insurance fraud but they refused. Wife's insurance is now $3100 a year on a '06 Corolla. People get bumped from behind they get dollar signs in their eyes.
  • bigdaddyjuniorbigdaddyjunior Member Posts: 11,233
    edited November -1
    Get the lady to sign a note stating that she will accept repair costs for the bumper as payment in full and release you and your son from any further liability and make sure it is notarized. Once you have that you are home free.
  • bpostbpost Member Posts: 32,669 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by FrancF
    quote:She knows I dont want it turned over to my insurance co. because my rates will skyrocket.

    If she starts complaing of neck pain in a few days, then what are you going to do?

    Guess what I am trying to say is you have insurance use it! Rarly do minor fender benders make your rates go up. Injurys from fender benders here in CA are an automatic 2 points. I had one about 5 years ago and my yearly rate went from $600 a year to $1300 (AAA) I have only 48 hours to report it. If I would have waited I would have had to pay both medical and damage out of pocket, and God only knows how much that would have been.


    I agree!!!!

    No ticket, no fault. Rates may go up a bit but a LOT less than the cost of future potential claims. She has two years to sue you in most states. Call your carrier and file the claim.
  • CaptplaidCaptplaid Member Posts: 20,298 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by alias
    Careful. Two years ago my wife did the same thing on the highway on the north side of town. Stopped trafic at an exit ramp, raining, slid into a car. Not nearly hard enough to deploy the airbag. Driver (administrator at the local christian college)said at the scene he was fine, until some guy claiming to be his son-in-law jumped out of another car and started taking pictures with a cell phone camera. Suddenly he needed transport for a "heart condition". Insurance paid $4000 for a bent bumper on a $2000 Toyota pickup. Eight months later we get a letter from the insurance company saying we are being sued for more than the limit of the policy. We thought it was over. After a year our insurance gave the guy $25000 to go away. I wanted them to chase him for insurance fraud but they refused. Wife's insurance is now $3100 a year on a '06 Corolla. People get bumped from behind they get dollar signs in their eyes.


    Man I feel stupid.

    I went airborn on the McKinnly Bridge over the Mississpi RIver in a 91 F150. An expansion joint buckled. Banged my head on the roof. When asked, Yes I was wearing my seatbelt. Bent the front I-beam suspension. Only got the cost of repairs form the city of Venice.

    I could have made some big bucks.

    Of course if they investigated long enough, it would have been difficult to hit my head on the roof if I was wearing a seatbelt. Second, if I was truely doing the speedlimit, why did I go airborn?
  • JustCJustC Member Posts: 16,056 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Stay in touch with her,...buy a new factory bumper for that truck (or one from a salvage yard that is not damaged) and go to her house and replace the bumper yourself. If you make the boy do it, and tell her he has to learn from his actions, she may be happy to let you have him pay for, and replace the bumper he damaged as she will feel like she has been compensated and assisted in a positive experience for your son.[;)] win-win[^]
  • WarbirdsWarbirds Member Posts: 16,937 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    You PAY an insurance company hundreds of dollars every month in case there is an accident.

    An accident occurs and you are desperate not to let the insurance company find out about it because of possible ramifications from them?

    What exactly is it you feel you are recieving for the service you pay for every month?

    And with a teenage driver you did not forsee any type of scenario like this prior to its occurance?

    The fact is you did forsee this sort of event which is why you are insured in the first place.
  • bigdaddyjuniorbigdaddyjunior Member Posts: 11,233
    edited November -1
    Steal a non-descript sedan and wait til she heads for the mailbox one day and run over her then ditch the car. Anything wrong with her will get blamed on the mysterious hit and run driver.
  • FrancFFrancF Member Posts: 35,279 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by bigdaddyjunior
    Steal a non-descript sedan and wait til she heads for the mailbox one day and run over her then ditch the car. Anything wrong with her will get blamed on the mysterious hit and run driver.


    Then she sues the auto maker[:D]
  • FrancFFrancF Member Posts: 35,279 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Then the land owner for a ditch thats too deep[:D]

    then the landscaper for digging the ditch to deep.[:D]

    then the Mexican that dug the ditch.[:D]
  • zipperzapzipperzap Member Posts: 25,057
    edited November -1
    We were rear ended at a stop sign a few years ago and although there was less than $500 damage done we both awoke in the morning with EXTREMELY sore and stiff necks!

    Scared the crap out of us! I know folks who have suffered for years with neck & back problems from auto accidents!

    Luckily for us, the stiffness and pain went away in a day or two and no harm done.

    Their insurance company gave us each a $1000 for our pain and trouble + they fixed the damage - of course.[:D]
  • scottm21166scottm21166 Member Posts: 20,723
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by cubslovers
    Don't be so sure that the rears didn't lock up.

    When stopping in an emergency you will really notice when the fronts lock up. Also most newer cars have EBD (Electronic Brake Distribution), since your's doesn't have ABS, you don't have EBD, but a manual distribution block. Car's brakes are biased towards the front anyways, that is where you get the best braking performance. It's possible that your front tires locked up, leaving you almost no control over the vehicle. Tires also play a major part. A full on ABS-inducing stop usually only needs ABS on the front.


    Are you sure the wrangler doesn't have ABS?

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    New antilock brakes.
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    Optional "add a trunk" and amplified subwoofer
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    Wider inside rearview mirror
    Changes to controls and instrument panel; intermittent wipers are standard.
    Child seat anchors.

    either way...make sure she is ok...signs a release and buy the brand new toyota bumper (easy to install) do everything you can to make her happy...don't try to cheap out..... turn it over to insurance if there is any problem...if you trust your agent you might tell him about it without filing an official accident report
  • FrancFFrancF Member Posts: 35,279 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Excuse my ignorance, not sure, but isn't ABS a required safety feature since the early 90's in all states?
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    A while back I was hit by a young guy driving a truck....he slid on an icy road at a red light and hit me in the back driver side. I knew there was nothing he could have done to have prevented the accident, but I also knew the way it played out his insurance was the one that HAD to cover the damage.

    I waited about two days for him to handle things....when I called to check on what he had done to get things handled I was SO chewed out by his mother who had been told it was "my fault."

    I think you should do what others have suggested and make certain the damages get handled in a way that show you are concerned that it gets taken care of....and not a thing they are having to worry over.

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  • v35v35 Member Posts: 12,710 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Two years ago, I was rear ended in a chain collision in the rain. My ABS brakes saved me from hitting the guy in front of me.
    About six cars were involved and they were all high school kids going home too fast and too close.
    The rear ender's insurance company gave me some comfort money for a minor whiplash that went away in less than a week.
  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by FrancF
    Excuse my ignorance, not sure, but isn't ABS a required safety feature since the early 90's in all states?


    Nope, I had a 97 GS-t Spyder Eclipse w/o ABS, and my 01 Miata didn't have ABS.

    ABS is usually an option, but there are even 06 and 07 models out without ABS.
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
  • FrancFFrancF Member Posts: 35,279 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by cubslovers
    quote:Originally posted by FrancF
    Excuse my ignorance, not sure, but isn't ABS a required safety feature since the early 90's in all states?


    Nope, I had a 97 GS-t Spyder Eclipse w/o ABS, and my 01 Miata didn't have ABS.

    ABS is usually and option, but there are even 06 and 07 models out without ABS.


    Might be a CA thing, haven't seen a car not equipped without them as STD equipment.


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  • GuvamintCheeseGuvamintCheese Member Posts: 38,932
    edited November -1
    No ABS, its a barebones jeep wrangler. Rear drums are no good. I believe in order to have abs it has to be disc....is this right?
  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by cartod
    No ABS, its a barebones jeep wrangler. Rear drums are no good. I believe in order to have abs it has to be disc....is this right?


    A good set of rear brakes may have saved the day. I can't say for sure because I don't know the nature of the accident. That is probably why the rears never locked up when you tried to. Drum brakes are really weak in the rear, and if they are worn much at all and haven't been adjusted, they can be even more so.

    I'm not certian, but I believe discs are needed for ABS.
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
  • stanmanstanman Member Posts: 3,052
    edited November -1
    quote:Get the lady to sign a note stating that she will accept repair costs for the bumper as payment in full and release you and your son from any further liability
    And if she's stupid enough to sign THAT, offer to sell her a bridge!
  • yawarakaiyawarakai Member Posts: 2,688 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Quite few years ago I rear ended another car with my dad's car. The other person ran a stop sign and then hit the brakes to turn left. it was raining and I was doing about 30 in a 35. I slid a long way on the wet road surface. My dad's car was totalled, the cops gave me a ticket for following to close.
    I took photo's of the area, got a copy of the police report and took it to court. The judge decided in my favor that the accident was not my fault.
    he took it to civil court for surgery he had to his knee to rmove fatty tissue from the accident (same surgery he had the year before on his other knee from a different accident)
    My dad's insurance company settled out of court for the full limit of the policy and dropped my dad.
  • mondmond Member Posts: 6,458
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by bigdaddyjunior
    Steal a non-descript sedan and wait til she heads for the mailbox one day and run over her then ditch the car. Anything wrong with her will get blamed on the mysterious hit and run driver.


    [}:)][:0] [:D]

    i'll go with JK..[;)]
  • rediceredice Member Posts: 1,550 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Just do what the guy who rear ended me did, give the wrong insurance information and wrong phone number, see how easy it is to get him to pay/his insurance to pay.

    Oh ya I even had cops at the scene, didnt seem to make a difference. 500 dollars worth of dammage with a 1000 dollar deductable, and no way to bleed money out of a turnip.

    If I was the lady I would go after your insurance as soon as I left the scene, I wont go the whole oh I will pay for it route ever again. Way to easy to get ripped off.

    I never saw an insurance card he didnt have it with him, and so he just made up a company that was fine with the cops since were a no fault state, and no incident report was filed...

    Oh ya ps tirerack fricking owns, save a ton and buy HIGHT quality well rated tires..
  • richbugrichbug Member Posts: 3,650
    edited November -1
    You don't need disks for ABS. There have been lots of light trucks built in the last 15 years with rear drums and rear ABS only. It has been standard equipment on most Chrysler truck since at least 89.
  • moose56moose56 Member Posts: 468 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Hey, I have driven too many patrol cars to know that they are not any better in the snow or on wet roads. I have found that when you try to stop, the vehicle may slide but the back wheels keep pushing due the distribution of the braking front to rear.
    So what I started doing and even in my own cars that did not have ABS, was as soon as I felt the slide, I would put the tranny in neutral and this allowed a more controlled stop without the tranny pushing you down the highway toward a target.
    With a clutch, you just push in the clutch pedal and you have the same control.
    This really works well when you have to drive on packed snow/ice.
    As far as your son, teach him following distances and stopping on wet roads may take a longer distance. Don't forget pumping the brakes to reduce the speed until a steady pressure will bring you to a safer stop.

    Moose
  • Gun_PoorGun_Poor Member Posts: 241 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by moose56
    Hey, I have driven too many patrol cars to know that they are not any better in the snow or on wet roads. I have found that when you try to stop, the vehicle may slide but the back wheels keep pushing due the distribution of the braking front to rear.
    So what I started doing and even in my own cars that did not have ABS, was as soon as I felt the slide, I would put the tranny in neutral and this allowed a more controlled stop without the tranny pushing you down the highway toward a target.
    With a clutch, you just push in the clutch pedal and you have the same control.
    This really works well when you have to drive on packed snow/ice.
    As far as your son, teach him following distances and stopping on wet roads may take a longer distance. Don't forget pumping the brakes to reduce the speed until a steady pressure will bring you to a safer stop.

    Moose


    Thats some good to know stuff right there!
  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Putting the automatic tranny in a lower gear will even help you slow down.
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
  • scottm21166scottm21166 Member Posts: 20,723
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by richbug
    You don't need disks for ABS. There have been lots of light trucks built in the last 15 years with rear drums and rear ABS only. It has been standard equipment on most Chrysler truck since at least 89.

    not only that...but is the standard abs system is there it is rear wheel only...I belive it is federal law for light trucks and SUV's
    it has been standard on all ford trucks since 1988
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