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Things look to be getting better

catpealer111catpealer111 Member Posts: 10,695
edited September 2006 in General Discussion
Went home this weekend, fought alot with the wife and fought some with the parents. As it turns out, my rents were the ones who were pushing for us to get a devorce. They approached my wife and said if she doesn't move right now, THEY'LL get us annulled. THey wern't too kind while talking to her. THe big problem is, this wasn't the first time they approached her like this. I told my parents to stay the "bleep" out of our buisness. Pissed them off, don't really care

They have no idea what's going on. Both my mother-in-law and sister-in-law are sick and my wife and her sister's husband are taking turns driving them to the doc.

I think we'll be ok. Renee was the one who called and said we can fix this.
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  • dclocodcloco Member Posts: 2,967
    edited November -1
    Best thing that happened to us and our marriage - moving away from her mom!!!

    I believe this to mean...move at least 1.5 days drive away from relatives for at least a couple years. Too close to fly and too far to drive...that is about the right distance!
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  • catpealer111catpealer111 Member Posts: 10,695
    edited November -1
    Her mother doesn't drive so that's not a prob. As bad as my mother-in-law is, all of the opposition to our marrage is coming from my parents.
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  • William81William81 Member Posts: 25,484 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    When my wife and I got married 25 plus years ago, the first thing we did was move two hours away from all of our parents. It gave us a chance to be on our own and to rely on each other.

    Your folks need to butt out....
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  • catpealer111catpealer111 Member Posts: 10,695
    edited November -1
    Minot will be good for something after all. Honestly, this isn't that bad of a place.
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  • CaptplaidCaptplaid Member Posts: 20,298 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sounds good. While it sounds complicated with your duties keeping you in nowheresvilles and her sick family needs her, give her as much support as you can.

    In my situation, I always protected my wife from my over bearing parents by letting them be mad at me and not her. It made for a couple of difficult years with them, but they thought she was the saint to put up with me.
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  • CubsloverCubslover Member Posts: 18,601 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I really do hope you guys can work it out. I've never had a problem with the inlaws, I hope I don't.

    Best of luck!
    Half of the lives they tell about me aren't true.
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  • CaptplaidCaptplaid Member Posts: 20,298 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by William81
    When my wife and I got married 25 plus years ago, the first thing we did was move two hours away from all of our parents. It gave us a chance to be on our own and to rely on each other.

    Your folks need to butt out....


    Amen! Did the same. It was harder on her than me, but it was good for the marriage. We were too far away to get invovled with the day to day crap, like what my siser did or what my anut said, blah blah blah blah blah. After a while we enjoyed the solitude, but still went to one hometown or another as often as possible.
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  • dheffleydheffley Member Posts: 25,000 ✭
    edited November -1
    You and Renee are in my prayers. No man should have to deal with stuff like this when he's stationed away from his wife, and his parents should respect that.
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  • hk-91hk-91 Member Posts: 10,050
    edited November -1
    the wife and i have always had a pretty good relationship. a little fight here and there but nothing realy big.but the little we did fight always involved the families. we moved two hours away from both of our familys and our relation ship got even closer. we havnt had a fight in over 3 years.. its been 3 years sense we moved. coicendece maybe but i'm going with not having the droma of the familes.

    you'll have to ignore the spelling. i had the same problem that nunn had with the internet explorer shuting down and when i dissabled the third party thing it closed my spell checker.
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  • CaptplaidCaptplaid Member Posts: 20,298 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    It takes 12-18 months to begin to feel like you have a social life out of work when a couple transfers to a new area.

    My anut and uncle transferred in the Navy to some pissant town in Maine in the 60's just after they got married. It was a listening post out in the middle of nowhere. It was cold. THey were broke, but they learned a lot about each other. From there they went to Moroco together, then back home.

    They would say the same thing as others on this post.

    Good Luck!
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  • spanielsellsspanielsells Member Posts: 12,498
    edited November -1
    My parents did not approve of my choice of bride. They made that point very clear to me when I announced that I was asking her to marry me. They spent about three hours trying to talk me out of it.

    One of the problems was that they intimidated my wife, and she was basically afraid to open herself up to them and give them a chance to know her.

    It took about six months after the wedding for them to chill out and get to know her.

    Now, my wife pretty much walks on water in their eyes.

    Like I told you before, if you and your wife are willing, and she's not beating you up and/or sleeping with the entire town, you can work ANYTHING out. It takes effort, and it sounds like it takes a move in this case.
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