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Prom Expenses, Wedding Expenses, etc
zvette
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So fortunately there was never even a discussion or debate in our family, everyone wanted simple proms and simple weddings, but good grief some folks just seem to expect to spend ridiculous amounts of money on these events. I had a co-worker who took out a second mortgage to pay for his daughter's wedding because he did not want to disappoint her. I don't think she had a clue he did that.
I was amused to read and not surprised that the divorce rate is directly proportional to the amount of money spent on weddings. The longest and happiest marriages track back to the most modest weddings.
I was amused to read and not surprised that the divorce rate is directly proportional to the amount of money spent on weddings. The longest and happiest marriages track back to the most modest weddings.
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The guy goes out an "rents" a tux. How do you make a lifetime commitment to a woman in a rented suit of clothes?
Stupid to pay the amount of money some of these families do on weddings. One of our workers daughter just got married a few weeks ago and she said it was about $12K for the wedding.
There are more and more women now renting their gowns just like the guys are renting the tux.
Stupid to pay the amount of money some of these families do on weddings. One of our workers daughter just got married a few weeks ago and she said it was about $12K for the wedding.
If they did it for 12,000 they were rather frugal.
I wore a nice cream colored dress that was something I could wear again if I wanted to. We rented a cabin at a local park and ordered a cake from a local bakery. The cake was hilarious. I didn't get it big enough to feed everyone and I had told the lady I wanted pink accents on it.....that thing looked like a 9 year old girl's birthday cake. It was fun. About 50 people showed up. I was expecting 30. The cabin had tons of these rocking chairs (like you see at Cracker Barrel.) We paused everyone's conversations to "have the wedding" They cleared out a space at the front of the room and we stood up there...when I turned to look at the crowd it was a sea of rocking chairs all rocking to their own beat. It was like looking out at a choppy sea!
quote:Originally posted by medic07
There are more and more women now renting their gowns just like the guys are renting the tux.
Stupid to pay the amount of money some of these families do on weddings. One of our workers daughter just got married a few weeks ago and she said it was about $12K for the wedding.
If they did it for 12,000 they were rather frugal.
no kidding. My son is getting married soon and I am spending more than $12,000 on the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon
I've always wondered why women spend thousands of dollars on a dress they wear one time.
The guy goes out an "rents" a tux. How do you make a lifetime commitment to a woman in a rented suit of clothes?
I can make a lifetime commitment standing there in my underwear or nothing at all. How exactly does what you are wearing correlate to your ability to make a commitment?
quote:Originally posted by swearengine
quote:Originally posted by medic07
There are more and more women now renting their gowns just like the guys are renting the tux.
Stupid to pay the amount of money some of these families do on weddings. One of our workers daughter just got married a few weeks ago and she said it was about $12K for the wedding.
If they did it for 12,000 they were rather frugal.
no kidding. My son is getting married soon and I am spending more than $12,000 on the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon
Honestly we are not cheapskates, but our son and his bride never had any expectations that we would pay for anything to do with their wedding. We did pay for a nice dinner out including the extended family but that was about it. I am still amazed at the expectations of some brides and even grooms. But guess that keeps the economy going. I think our son and his bride did probably spend $15k or more on their honeymoon, but they would be the first to say it would be ridiculous for us to pay for it. Their wedding was a nice family gathering on our back lawn, I then drive them around in one of my vintage cars for a day of touring before their honeymoon. Continually amazed, and guess we got lucky with our kids.
quote:Originally posted by austin20
quote:Originally posted by swearengine
quote:Originally posted by medic07
There are more and more women now renting their gowns just like the guys are renting the tux.
Stupid to pay the amount of money some of these families do on weddings. One of our workers daughter just got married a few weeks ago and she said it was about $12K for the wedding.
If they did it for 12,000 they were rather frugal.
no kidding. My son is getting married soon and I am spending more than $12,000 on the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon
Honestly we are not cheapskates, but our son and his bride never had any expectations that we would pay for anything to do with their wedding. We did pay for a nice dinner out including the extended family but that was about it. I am still amazed at the expectations of some brides and even grooms. But guess that keeps the economy going. I think our son and his bride did probably spend $15k or more on their honeymoon, but they would be the first to say it would be ridiculous for us to pay for it. Their wedding was a nice family gathering on our back lawn, I then drive them around in one of my vintage cars for a day of touring before their honeymoon. Continually amazed, and guess we got lucky with our kids.
We actually wanted to do all the things we have done for our kids over the years, I can't think of anything I would rather spend my money on
28 years in November. She drove the car for 14. [;)]
I have told my son he can get way more money to help with a down payment than he can expect for a fancy wedding. His choice.
My Girls know I have put money away for their Education. And they know fancy Weddings will not be funded by me. I'd rather put money into their future kids 529 or a house down payment than an expensive dress or a super expensive wedding.
And looking back to the OP comment, every super expensive wedding I have been to the marriage ended rather quickly. (There are a few exceptions, but they involve situations that I will not post here and are best left for afternoon soap operas....)
Being miserable SOBs, we placed bets on how long the marital bliss would last. After guys picked 2-3-4 months, etc. I was laughed at with my choice of two weeks, but was declared the winner when the groom came out and began asking pesky questions... because that was when the fight started. [:D]
Nephew lasted 16 mo.
Glad I wrote him a big check [:o)] as the * left with 1/2 of everything- when the whore came with nothing.
[/quote]+1 I have spent a lot of money on mine also and don't regret a penny. My daughter had a very modest wedding that wasn't real expensive though.
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I have no problem helping out when needed, for something important, like a first car or down payment on a house, or education (especially). It is the lavish weddings and nowadays even proms where folks spend such large sums of money that I find ridiculous. Guess our family just never really enjoyed "parties" all that much, so each to his own.
My wife and I were married 54 years ago, yesterday in North Bend, WA. Her dress was a plain white cotton given to her by friends. I had a friend bake a cake. We picked ferns and wildflowers for the church. Paid the preacher (his first wedding) about $10, I think. A Trooper friend hosted a reception in his home, and we borrowed a 14 ft. travel trailer for a honeymoon at Sun Lakes State Park. It seemed to work. We're still married, have 3 children, 7 grandchildren and 3 1/2 great grandchildren.
Perfect! You remember the day and the details and no one was disappointed. So much better in so many ways than an elaborate and expensive event. Everything you list is so great and meaningful.
I saw pictures of one where they had it in a zoo....they didn't "rent" the zoo or anything. It was just a standard day for the zoo. The couple had met at the zoo and wanted to have their ceremony by the elephants....so they did. It looked awesome!
Reception was in her grandmas back yard, which was the best place to fit everyone.
spent about 14 grand on it not counting what his parents spent on there part.
Yes its hard to let that much cash go for no more then a half day of partying and I even tried to get them to take the cash but I think its most girls big dream.
What a scam !!! A buddy of mine spent apx. 40K on his daughters wedding ( his EX ) wife had a LOT to do with this mess !!! Money wasted !!!
Thanks !!!
I Grew Old Too Fast (And Smart Too damn Slow !!!) !!!
Its cheaper in the long run to RENT the woman.
You don't pay them to stay, you pay them to leave. [;)]
Last thing she wanted was to be "star for the day!". They wanted to get married at the courthouse in front of parents, Grandparents, and siblings.
Her Father is one of 10, and they said NO.
They picked a downtown Boston Irish Pub(her family is from Boston) had GREAT food. The Brides daughter(7) played Here comes the Bride on her violin, My son played a song on his acoustic guitar to his bride. No dry eyes were in the house!
I paid for the band. We drank, danced, ate, and celebrated!
The bride wore a beautiful dress she paid $20.00 for in a re sale shop.[;)]
When the dancing started, she cut the "train" off with a pair of scissors she brought along![:D]
13 from our side of the family and about 90 from hers!
7 of the 8 Bride and grooms grandparents were there![:D]
A week later I went to a friends Sons wedding. 220 guests, and I'll bet $150,000+. Simply beautiful! But..........$$$$$
$24 for the license, nothing to the judge he was paid with our taxes.
$200 for a nice dinner with family and we are still married.
Most of our contemporaries spent a lot more and over half didn't last.