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Internet Humiliation

NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
edited October 2010 in General Discussion
We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...
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  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...



    I'm pretty sure your assessment is spot on...and it is sad.
  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by dano
    All I know is that I'm not going to to continue to kid Freemind so much in the future.

    I'd feel horrible, if he.....well, you know.......[:(]





    No you wouldn't.
  • jev1969jev1969 Member Posts: 2,691
    edited November -1
    I think it would have been completely different if he "came out" on his own or if his family and friends just found out. Odds are they already knew or at least suspected. However in this case everyone found out by WATCHING it on the internet. I'm sure the humiliation is what did him in.
  • RtWngExtrmstRtWngExtrmst Member Posts: 7,456
    edited November -1
    Being 'homophobic' means you fear homosexuals. Why do youn fear them? And if not, why do you characterize yourself as 'homophobic'?
  • fastcarsgofastfastcarsgofast Member Posts: 7,179
    edited November -1
    Internet humiliation?

    I thought that was what we did here everyday.[:D]
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by RtWngExtrmst
    Being 'homophobic' means you fear homosexuals. Why do youn fear them? And if not, why do you characterize yourself as 'homophobic'?


    "Homophobic" is the new politically correct term for anyone that disagrees with a gay life style. I don't want to be accused of being out of touch...
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by fastcarsgofast
    Internet humiliation?

    I thought that was what we did here everyday.[:D]


    Ya... We would all have to get in line for that... lol [:D]
  • MossbergboogieMossbergboogie Member Posts: 12,211
    edited November -1
    I don't know how he could be hummiliated when he tweated or whatever you call it before that he was and I quote "making out with a guy yay"
  • KSUmarksmanKSUmarksman Member Posts: 10,705 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by ECC
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...



    I'm pretty sure your assessment is spot on...and it is sad.


    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by KSUmarksman
    quote:Originally posted by ECC
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...



    I'm pretty sure your assessment is spot on...and it is sad.


    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star


    Well I would no doubt have issues with it being posted on line... I mean if every one saw the big lad I'd be upset to put it mildly. But commit suicide. Not over a natural act. Not in this short lifetime thanks.
  • KSUmarksmanKSUmarksman Member Posts: 10,705 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    quote:Originally posted by KSUmarksman
    quote:Originally posted by ECC
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...



    I'm pretty sure your assessment is spot on...and it is sad.


    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star


    Well I would no doubt have issues with it being posted on line... I mean if every one saw the big lad I'd be upset to put it mildly. But commit suicide. Not over a natural act. Not in this short lifetime thanks.




    true enough, I myself would hunt down the POS that played their "prank" and make them very sorry. but people react differently
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    People react differently. Yes they do. And that young man I am afraid to say acted spontaneously and without mature thought in my opinion.
  • CaptFunCaptFun Member Posts: 16,678 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Most laptops these days have webcams built in. If the computer is on and the video chat module is loaded, then the camera is on. If you know what you are doing you actually can google search for people that have left their cameras on and running and see what their webcam is transmitting. The press is making it out like the perp intentionally hid a spy cam and went through all the trouble to record and stream video from it. The kid tweeted and told people that knew his video chat address to look at the stream. Bad?? Certainly, but realistically, one should consider that any webcam is ALWAYS on and transmitting. Not sure?? Throw something on top of it. Like others have said, I feel bad for the dead kids parents.
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by CaptFun
    Most laptops these days have webcams built in. If the computer is on and the video chat module is loaded, then the camera is on. If you know what you are doing you actually can google search for people that have left their cameras on and running and see what their webcam is transmitting. The press is making it out like the perp intentionally hid a spy cam and went through all the trouble to record and stream video from it. The kid tweeted and told people that knew his video chat address to look at the stream. Bad?? Certainly, but realistically, one should consider that any webcam is ALWAYS on and transmitting. Not sure?? Throw something on top of it. Like others have said, I feel bad for the dead kids parents.


    Capt'n... You wouldn't mind sharing that recipe now would you! [:D]
  • shilowarshilowar Member Posts: 38,811 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    the pussification of America
  • mrseatlemrseatle Member Posts: 15,467 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    After seeing his abomination online, Maybe he couldn't get the taste of fecees out of his mouth.
  • andrewsw16andrewsw16 Member Posts: 10,728 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Any roomy that would betray his own roomy deserves a thorough * kicking. The topic of the video isn't the point. BETRAYAL is the point. The point is that his roommate violated his privacy and intentionally published a video that he knew would humiliate him, just for his own immature amusement. We have all done things that would embarass the hell out of us if they were publicized. The worst case is when someone you thought you could trust (friend, spouse, relative, etc) betrays you. Me? I'd never commit suicide if my roomy had humiliated me back in college. But, when I was done, he would wish HE was dead.
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...


    i don't think he was ashamed from being "found out" as gay, so much as ashamed of what his parents, family, and friends would come to think. lets say you were his father. the boy knows you dislike homosexuality to a greater extent than "meh, not my gig". heck, ecc's kid said she'd shoot a line-up of queers if given the chance. imagine a son having a homophobe father. a sister that makes remarks like that. a mother who wanted her little boy to grow up and marry and make her some grandkids with a pretty little wife. hanging out with his friends and pretending to laugh along at their gay jokes. etc etc etc. i really don't think he was ashamed of his sexuality, but by the embarrassment, disappointment, and resentment he felt his family would have for him.

    of course in the news reports, his family will say they would have loved him regardless, but i'll bet you they never said that before he killed himself. i do feel sympathy for them, though. don't get me wrong. it was probably a topic that never entered their minds. nothing to blame them for, so please, don't get me wrong on that point.

    think about it like this: lets say all your family and friends were diehard fans of... the broncos, meanwhile, you were a secret fan of the packers (hah!). if you were found out, you'd be mocked and jeered at. and thats just over football. think about what the difference would be if it was something more important. for fred's sake, we've seen the news reports about muslim dad's killing their daughters for dressing "wrong" or for not dating the right guy. some of the US born-and-bred christians have little compunction against randomly beating up/killing gays, because their book told them it was okay.

    jeez, i went to highschool with a guy that got into a knockdown, drag-out fistfight with his own brother, because the brother came out of the closet. this freshman guy has probably been living in fear of similar events for years.


    as an aside, i also had a teacher that kept saying things like "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". she was on some weird personal crusade to keep all her students from committing suicide. i couldn't quite understand her obsession until we all came back from christmas break and she had offed herself. nutcase, that one.
  • dfletcherdfletcher Member Posts: 8,179 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by KSUmarksman

    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???



    Depends - is she ugly? [xx(]
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by RtWngExtrmst
    Being 'homophobic' means you fear homosexuals. Why do youn fear them? And if not, why do you characterize yourself as 'homophobic'?


    Media conditioning.
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel

    i don't think he was ashamed from being "found out" as gay, so much as ashamed of what his parents, family, and friends would come to think. lets say you were his father. the boy knows you dislike homosexuality to a greater extent than "meh, not my gig". heck, ecc's kid said she'd shoot a line-up of queers if given the chance. imagine a son having a homophobe father. a sister that makes remarks like that. a mother who wanted her little boy to grow up and marry and make her some grandkids with a pretty little wife. hanging out with his ......

    See? Here it is again. Conditioning works.
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel
    some of the US born-and-bred christians have little compunction against randomly beating up/killing gays, because their book told them it was okay.


    Here's some more "conditioning". Man, this guy is a regular chalkboard.
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by jpwolf
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel

    imagine a son having a homophobe

    See? Here it is again. Conditioning works.


    ummm, no, he said himself that he is homophobic. it was in his opening post. so if he had a gay son, he would have a homophobe for a father... get it?

    conditioning? where did you get that from?

    what reasons do you have for being "considerably homophobic"? is it because your god said it was bad? or was it your parents? well, gee whiz, charlie brown, you've been conditioned too! [:0]
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by jpwolf
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel
    some of the US born-and-bred christians have little compunction against randomly beating up/killing gays, because their book told them it was okay.


    Here's some more "conditioning". Man, this guy is a regular chalkboard.


    what? you dispute this? look-up "gaybashing". look up "westboro baptist church". i'm a "chalkboard" because...? what the heck does that even mean?
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    if i'm a "chalkboard", then here is your reading assignment.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia

    just because you are in this special ed class doesn't mean you get to slack off.
  • NOSLEEPNOSLEEP Member Posts: 4,526
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel
    quote:Originally posted by jpwolf
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel

    imagine a son having a homophobe

    See? Here it is again. Conditioning works.


    ummm, no, he said himself that he is homophobic. it was in his opening post. so if he had a gay son, he would have a homophobe for a father... get it?

    conditioning? where did you get that from?

    what reasons do you have for being "considerably homophobic"? is it because your god said it was bad? or was it your parents? well, gee whiz, charlie brown, you've been conditioned too! [:0]


    My post was a little tongue and check when I posted "considerably homophobic". a few posts down I defined my meaning : "Homophobic is the new politically correct term for anyone that disagrees with a gay life style". And I am guilty of disagreeing with the lifestyle. I have three sons and they would likely attest to it not being put on a pedestal and promoted here under my roof. I don't elude to religion or God in my belief of the negative aspects of homosexuality. Its just plain a wrong and may be natures way of cleaning out the gene pool. In nature animals revert to same sex activities when they are rejected by the opposite sex. Rocky Mountain Big Horn Sheep are a good example of what I am referring too.
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel
    quote:Originally posted by jpwolf
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel

    imagine a son having a homophobe

    See? Here it is again. Conditioning works.


    ummm, no, he said himself that he is homophobic. it was in his opening post. so if he had a gay son, he would have a homophobe for a father... get it?

    conditioning? where did you get that from?

    what reasons do you have for being "considerably homophobic"? is it because your god said it was bad? or was it your parents? well, gee whiz, charlie brown, you've been conditioned too! [:0]


    I rest my case. Wow! Thank you VERY much. Sheesh. Amazing!
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    "Homophobic is the new politically correct term for anyone that disagrees with a gay life style".

    You are precisely correct. Gives a negative connotation, therefore people should become "conditioned", not to be that way. Simple yet effective conditioning. Proven in this very thread a few times in just a handful of posts.
  • evileye fleagalevileye fleagal Member Posts: 4,238 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    i dis-like fags plain an simple, im not sorry or scared.
    if i were a fag id be a dead fag cause i would do it myself.

    fags queers homos lez-bos all of them need to move to san fran.
    this town city state just aint big enough for there gay pride.

    infact i want my rainbow back, an the word gay ill take it back too
    for those that feel happy an gleeful.

    i dont think there should be any fag teachers in our schools
    spewin there ilkkkk.
  • p3skykingp3skyking Member Posts: 23,916 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    What's wrong with just saying queer?
    There was some tv show awhile back, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. I know some of you watched it.[:p]

    As far as the kid offing himself, he worried too damn much about what other people thought of him. THATS conditioning!

    All the Baptist perusing the DVD porn duck whenever another customer comes in. They are afraid of being seen lusting I guess. I tell them those people don't pay their bills so who cares what they think. [8D]

    Small town prigs carrying tales. [}:)]
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    quote:Originally posted by NiccoHel
    Originally posted by jpwolf
    Originally posted by NiccoHel



    My post was a little tongue and cheek

    lol, careful, someone might read that wrong!

    when I posted "considerably homophobic". a few posts down I defined my meaning : "Homophobic is the new politically correct term for anyone that disagrees with a gay life style". And I am guilty of disagreeing with the lifestyle. I have three sons and they would likely attest to it not being put on a pedestal and promoted here under my roof. I don't elude to religion or God in my belief of the negative aspects of homosexuality. Its just plain a wrong and may be natures way of cleaning out the gene pool. In nature animals revert to same sex activities when they are rejected by the opposite sex. Rocky Mountain Big Horn Sheep are a good example of what I am referring too.


    nosleep, i wasn't trying to attack you, so i hope you didn't get that feeling when you read my post. for that matter, i wasn't attacking jpwolf, just frustrated by the "conditioning" crap he is trying to toss out into the fray.

    i simply meant to point out that there are alternative reasons for the guys actions. again, he might be fine with his own lifestyle, but wouldn't want to disappoint his parents, etc.

    when it comes to suicide, well, there is no rational reasoning for it, is there? its an irrational and illogical act. as a species, it would make sense to have percentages of the population not reproduce. as an individual organism though, that doesn't translate to offing one's self. like you mention, there is a definite possibility that homosexuality is a naturally occuring event, and there is a lot of research that supports that theory. it really is sad that this kid felt the need to end his own life, stemming from the juvenile antics of his roommate.

    its also sad that there are a bunch of people here that wax poetic on the virtues of personal freedom, yet have such a hard time wrapping their heads around other people liking other things.

    i don't like a type of music? i don't listen to it.
    i don't like a certain food? i don't eat it.
    i don't like a religion? i don't worship that god.
    i don't like taking one up the ol' poop-chute? i don't date gay dudes.

    simple as that.
  • PRO X 2 800PRO X 2 800 Member Posts: 917 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Gaybashing? You mean gays bash normalcy. Perverted & disgusting is simply that. The natural order of things ends with their behavior. I say we give the female gays their own country & the male gays their own country ,and as an experiment see how long before the countries are uninhabited by their unnatural order of things.

    As an over the road trucker my first real experience with them was in 1974 when I started driving one of my father's tractor trailers. Interstate 95 in Connecticut was a toll road back then,and the service areas were Howard Johnsons. They are still there ,but are now mickey-d's.

    You didn't dare to stop ,and use the rest room. They were all over the place,and had holes chopped in the walls to do their deal. You plug the hole with toilet paper,and they pull it out,and there is an eyeball stareing at you. Its wasn't just there its is rest areas in general.

    Pull into a rest area at 2am to get some sleep ,and the brake lights start flashing like its Christmas.Yeah its the homos trolling for a date. Its the same thing in a lot of truck stops with the holes chopped in the toilet stall walls. Alternate life style no deviant perverts!

    In my opinion I truly believe that they have been possessed by a demon spirit,and can't help themselves. More & more as society becomes more perverted it is obvious where we are headed,and that is fine with me,because I know the end of the story. My heart is prepared,and I have no fear,because I know that evil men must have their way for a season. I know the way out. How about you?

    Don't think its true the traveling public must be oblivious as to what go's on in the rest areas of the country. I tell you what I go out of my way to use the restroom somewhere else. Oh yeah 30 years ago it was the ladies of the evening banging on doors for a date,and on the CB looking for action,and now its the homos.

    They claim they are born that way ,and can't help it. I'm not so sure. My high school class president died two days ago in Washington,DC. He was gay,but has an identical twin brother that is not. How did that work. His first life partner died ten years ago,and now he is gone.

    If I was the current life partner I would be real nervous. Maybe justice is served in due time! He sure hid that he was gay back in High School. As a matter of fact the girls used to flock around him. Maybe they knew.
  • jpwolfjpwolf Member Posts: 9,164
    edited November -1
    Nic, maybe I misunderstood your post. Th einternet, with lack of inflection, * and hand gestures, etc, well it happens often.

    So you are saying you agree with nosleeps assessment of the term "homophobic"?

    Also, the research is part of the conditioning/indoctrination. A point of view can and always will be supported by it, regardles of which side you are on.
  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by fastcarsgofast
    Internet humiliation?

    I thought that was what we did here everyday.[:D]



    Me too...[:I]
  • n/an/a Member Posts: 168,427
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by KSUmarksman
    quote:Originally posted by ECC
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...



    I'm pretty sure your assessment is spot on...and it is sad.


    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star



    No...I wouldn't have any problems with it....I've performed in front of audiences many times...and in public.
  • wittynbearwittynbear Member Posts: 4,518
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by KSUmarksman

    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star


    As long as she was cute, and not too fat I would have no problem with it. [:)]
  • NiccoHelNiccoHel Member Posts: 1,519 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by jpwolf
    Nic, maybe I misunderstood your post. Th einternet, with lack of inflection, * and hand gestures, etc, well it happens often.

    So you are saying you agree with nosleeps assessment of the term "homophobic"?

    Also, the research is part of the conditioning/indoctrination. A point of view can and always will be supported by it, regardles of which side you are on.


    no sweat, this is the internet... it doesn't matter, eh?

    as to nosleeps assessment of "homophobic"; yes and no. i agree with what he is saying, in that the word is used to describe general distaste for gays, and is also used to broadly label anyone that doesn't "support" gays. much like any white guy that makes a comment about african-americans that is not positive is immediately labeled racist. however, i was refering to the degree of homophobia. like that schoolmate i mentioned. he was so upset over his brother's sexuality, that he got violent. that would be a high degree of homophobia, so to speak. to me, the definition is not important, rather the level of tolerance/intolerance/whatever of the freshman's family members. did that make sense? the difference between not giving a rat's a55 vs open aggression. i have no clue as to the freshman's family life, so i was offering a supposition.

    i see what you are saying about research results that are... used... to support a theory, regardless of the accuracy. much like statistics are often misused for political whimsy. there is a dividing line when it comes to that though. usually it is in the footnotes.

    poor analogy: you could say there are a lot of yellow fish in the ocean, then you count a bunch of fish, and even though there are more blue fish, you still can say, "aha, there are millions of yellow fish! i told you so!" if you are a proper researcher though, you would include the research notes that say how many fish you counted in total, the colors, the locations, etc...

    that research-and-results issue has caused a lot of problems for all sorts of subjects. lol, look at the global warming/climate change fiasco. everybody is right. there is a difference in reported results that a lot of people miss though. while the theory and speculation of homosexuality is mired in controversy, there are factual elements that remain: for one, there are homosexuals. that includes animals as well. by that rational, we could argue that the exsistence of gay octopi/sheep/dogs means there is no required moral/ethical cause for homosexuality. therefore it is a natural phenomenon. of course, there are definite exceptions to this, as there are people that have been coerced by outside influences to act in a homosexual manner. at this point, though, the lines begin to blur. where does "natural" end and "nurtured" begin?

    when it comes to the etymology of homophobia, it literally means homo + phobia = homosexual + fear. gay-fear.

    "unreasoning fear of or antipathy toward homosexuals and homosexuality." according to http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/homophobia

    notice that doesn't say anything about how a person acts, other than the basic fear and/or aversion/repulsion. for this reason, i never felt the need to take into consideration anyone's definition of the word. the first time i saw two guys kissing (gee, thanks San Fran Fleet Week), i grimaced a bit. i didn't start vomiting, speaking gibberish and sobbing for a simpler time. i looked away, rolled my eyes, and thought glad thats not me. i forget who said it where, but someone in this forum made a comment about having slapped queers around for fun with his buddies, or something to that effect. i might be a bit homophobic by being repulsed by the sight of two dudes open-mouthing in public, but people that gladly physically harm others for having different bedroom preferences are a whole different ballgame. that gets pretty damn close to other things. like catholics vs protestants, shiites vs sunni, nazis vs jews, clansmen vs panthers, cowboys vs indains, snakes vs a *-f'in-plane, etc.

    different strokes for different folks.

    of course, we could always look to dano for these answers. i hear he has some strong, uh, contacts in the gay and lesbian community. [:D]
  • jev1969jev1969 Member Posts: 2,691
    edited November -1
    [/quote]
    so are you guys saying that if someone secretly filmed you having normal sex with a woman and posted it online you would have no issues with that???

    its not about him being gay, it was about being humiliated by becoming an involuntary porn star
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    I'd have no problem with it as long as they streamed my email address across the bottom. Being single I'd consider it free advertisement. [8D]
  • AnonymouseAnonymouse Member Posts: 4,050
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by NOSLEEP
    We have all likely heard or read about the young 18 year old freshman who committed suicide the other day after having been videoed having sex with another young man. I feel a lot of sympathy for his family. Although I am considerably homophobic and detest the behavior. I have to wonder once someone has chosen that path and been "found out" in this day of age, where what ever floats your boat is to be applauded. Why be so ashamed of your own actions as to commit suicide. He must of known in his heart that what he was doing was not natural. Causing him to be ashamed to the point of desperation. Sad...


    Doubt he felt bad about what he was doing. What probably drove him to kill himself is all you bigots who "detest" his behavior. Pathetic that people can't live the way they want to in this day and age. Many of you would fit right in with the Taliban.
  • cactuspete1cactuspete1 Member Posts: 1,482 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Boy's odds of being gay traced to womb
    Study takes new look at puzzling role of brothers' birth order
    Sabin Russell, Chronicle Medical Writer









    A boy's chances of growing up gay increase with the number of older brothers he has, and the Canadian researcher who spotted the trend a decade ago now believes he is closer to explaining why: It all starts in the womb.

    Brock University psychologist Anthony Bogaert first reported in 1996 the startling finding that a boy's probability of growing up gay increases by about one-third with each older brother in his family. It's a subtle phenomenon -- nearly all boys even in large families still grow up straight -- but subsequent research has affirmed that the "fraternal birth order effect" is real.

    Since that discovery, researchers have been trying to figure out what might explain it. The most likely answer, they thought, had something to do with how younger brothers are raised -- perhaps having many older brothers drives the youngest to adopt a different sex role.



    Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/06/27/GAY.TMP#ixzz117GcXV4O
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