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Coming to the end of the road for Mrs juju

jujujuju Member Posts: 6,321
edited July 2019 in General Discussion
Judy recovered from her bleeding incident and left the hospital last night. She is now resting at home.

Monday we got the news we had been dreading. The new spot her last scans discovered is in fact a mutated form of the cancer she has been treated for the past 8 years. Its very aggressive and they have no treatments for this other than mastectomy and radiation. Judy cannot go thru another mastectomy as she is to weak and it would probably kill her. The radiation is a stop gap that may or may not add a little time to her life.

We have known since her cancer came back that eventually it would be terminal. We just hoped it would be longer than this.

As aggressive as this new cancer is and in her weakened state best guess is 6 months tops. But we are hoping for longer.

Meeting with the Oncologist next week to discuss whether to stop the treatments on her original cancer since they are not going to prolong her life. I cant see any reason to put her thru the discomfort of those any more.

After 45 years together I am going to be lost without her. I have no idea what I am going to do.

She is and has been my whole life. Even though we never got a travel trailer I am going to try and get her to the Ocean and maybe the mountains one more time.

Please keep her in your prayers. I am hoping for a miracle..

juju(devastated)

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  • TRAP55TRAP55 Member Posts: 8,292 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Prayers continue, and I'm here if you need me.
  • ChrisStreettChrisStreett Member Posts: 3,847 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    My thoughts are with you both juju as you travel this path.
    "...dying ain't much of a living boy"-Josey Wales
  • Ditch-RunnerDitch-Runner Member Posts: 25,370 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Our prayers and thought along with our hearts go out for both of you
  • buschmasterbuschmaster Member Posts: 14,229 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    juju wrote:
    After 45 years together I am going to be lost without her. I have no idea what I am going to do.
    don't know what you can do afterwards, but you know what you can do before. make it count.
  • DPHMINDPHMIN Member Posts: 952 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Does she have peace with God through Jesus Christ? Crossing over to eternity is easier if you know where you are going.

    I am praying for her, and for you to have strength during this difficult time.
  • dpmuledpmule Member Posts: 6,746 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Prayers and good thoughts from our house to yours



    Mule
  • diver-rigdiver-rig Member Posts: 6,338 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Prayers from my family.
  • chiefrchiefr Member Posts: 14,115 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    So sad, prayers for the best possible outcome.
    Cancer can attack anyone.
  • danielgagedanielgage Member Posts: 10,583 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
  • mjrfd99mjrfd99 Member Posts: 4,553 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
  • dreherdreher Member Posts: 8,891 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'm so sorry. Prayers sent.
  • select-fireselect-fire Member Posts: 69,524 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Juju very sorry to hear the news. Keep her as happy as possible.
  • Horse Plains DrifterHorse Plains Drifter Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 40,239 ***** Forums Admin
    edited November -1
    Prayers for Judy and you continue from our house.
  • NeoBlackdogNeoBlackdog Member Posts: 17,274 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Sometimes it seems that mere words cannot properly express our thoughts/feelings.
    Continued well wishes and prayers for you folks, JuJu.
  • babunbabun Member Posts: 11,038 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I'm so sorry.

    I lost my wife about 3 years ago. We had plans to get an RV and see the country. But her life long disease got too much and the last week of life was in an hospital.

    Well, after she was gone I decided to buy an Rv anyway. I stayed at a campground for a month, then had plans to go on "our" travels. But my legs got real bad, to the point I can barely walk now. So I stayed at this campground and enjoyed my new friends I made there. All good people.

    If at all possible take her on your quest for her last visits to `where ever.
    At this point, I Know that you and her standing in the surf of the ocean will do more for her than any chemo.

    Get that RV, you have enuff in your Gofundme to buy something decent.

    You will do okay after wards. Don't worry about life after, live life with her now.
    Prayers to you and yours.

    BOB
  • babunbabun Member Posts: 11,038 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Barzillia wrote:
    The road does not end where you think it does....all of this can be redeemed.

    Barz is 100% right spiritual wise.

    And I'm right about taking her to see what ever she whats now.

    To everyone here, {and I don't care if anyone thinks this is in bad taste}, Please go here
    and help them.

    https://www.gofundme.com/enable-my-cancer-stricken-wife-and-i-to-travel
  • babunbabun Member Posts: 11,038 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    While I wouldn't normally recommend it, I looked at some websites in Calif.
    What about RENTING a rv? Seems you can get a small unit for about $1500 a month with free mileage. It is small 13 foot. I'm sure you can find a renting Rv place with something bigger like a 19 footer for about $2500 a month.
    Search around the internet in your area, they are ready to go, and you don't have to worry if something goes wrong while you travel.

    Just a idea up the flag pole....
  • bullshotbullshot Member Posts: 14,720 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    There are no words that will lessen her pain or yours. Place your trust in God and pray ................... we will do the same.
    "Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you"
  • Old-ColtsOld-Colts Member Posts: 22,697 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Prayers continue for Judy, you, and your family. Also, prayers said for wisdom and guidance for the doctors!

    If you can't feel the music; it's only pink noise!

  • 11b6r11b6r Member Posts: 16,584 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Juju- know that you are not alone. Even among your brothers here on the forum, some will have traveled that same road. My wife of 48 years is in home hospice care- the folks there have been angels. My bride has a condition that is not treatable or curable. We made the decision that it was time to let go. All I can do is keep her clean, fed, warm and comfortable.

    It does not make your pain less- but you find ways to manage it. My prayers for the both of you- if you ever need to talk, send me an email.
  • montanajoemontanajoe Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 60,240 ******
    edited November -1
  • TooBigTooBig Member Posts: 28,559 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Prayers sent and hoping for the best
  • pickenuppickenup Member Posts: 22,844 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Good to hear she was able to come...."home"
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