My oldest has decided to move to south Alabama where her husband is from....sad days here

Locust Fork

Things have been tedious with my daughter for several months.   I'm not going into it too much, but we will just say she is arguing with every blood relative she has and instead of mending things she is pulling up and moving away.

This means I start every day and end every day in tears.....I know things will be fine, but I'm really going to miss my 2 year old grandson.    I had imagined him getting off the school bus and being here like my kids did with Larry's mother while I was working.     He hasn't even gotten to pick my official Grandmother name....Larry wants to be "Pops" and he hoped I'd be "Lolli".    I want whatever John decides to call me, but I guess it will be whatever I'm introduced as whenever I get to see him again.

She has been upset that I don't have spare time ever, but they like having the safety net I provide every time they've needed me.   I better hush before I start getting upset.   I got my Christmas tree out and I'm putting my decorations up because I want to get pictures of him and watch him checking it all out.

Just when I think things cannot get crazier this happens.

I hope this actually is a blessing in disguise.   I hope her husband finds an amazing job, they find a nice house to settle into and they make friends to do fun things with.   

Sam06

The difference is I would be happy and my my wife would be in tears like you.

susie

Good luck on the transition. Pray that this is for the best and plan southward road trips. Distance may increase the appreciation for family.

hillbille

sorry to hear Kasey, right or wrong most kids have to learn on their own, they allways think they know more than mom/dad, I watched my daughter do the same thing and slowly pull away for years, she is now getting divorced and is slowly accepting dad isn't as bad as she though. good luck hope it all works out for you.....

Aztngundoc22

OK : 
Where @ in AL.? My Daughter & Family live in Lockheart ( bout 10 min.s from FLA.) !
Its a trip here from S.E. TN ( but worth it ) !
Good Luck , hope all works out well !!!
Thanks !!!

mark christian

It is now so easy to communicate with people: cell phones, email, Facebook, WhatsApp (great for sending photos), and texting (which I personally dislike), you might find yourself "talking" to Coral (I believe that is her name) more than when you saw her face to face. I actually "talk" to my mother more now that I'm 3,000 miles away in Florida than I did when we lived 30 minutes away. The same with my sister and my niece and nephew. 

Mr. Perfect

LF, I hope this turns out for the best. You never know where she will end up in just a couple years down the road. Maybe even months.

susie

Check out the Echo Show on Amazon. They are great. I have an 8. Video call without jumping through any hoops.

Toolman286

Kasey, We moved 8 hours from the 2 daughters & 3 grandkids. My wife is on the phone with them each day. They send videos & we facetime often. It helps close the distance. Hope they do well & things work out.

varian

my son moved to north Al a couple of years ago with my blessing, he ask.  better job, more money than the shipyard here on the coast.  its hard, his mother died eight years ago and im alone now but like i told him, its your turn, go where the money is  and build a future for yourself.  i dont like it much but he needs to make his own way, its how you become a man.  also its not that far in reality and he does visit a lot.

Brookwood

Kasey, your post takes me back nearly 40 years ago when my wife and I took our kids and moved some 200 miles north from the wife's folks in the same state of Michigan.  We wanted a better place to raise the kids and I was from where we settled.  

Within 2 years my inlaws followed and bought a place just a couple houses down from us on our rural country road!    

Things turned out GREAT and the wife's family bonded very well with all of my long settled family and relatives.    Looking back, quite a history was made.

William81

Tough spot to be in Kasey......I pray they find the right place for them and plug in there.  It may be a good thing for them to get away and grow up and grow together...

RobOz

A few hour drive?

Locust Fork

Right now things are hard because she is mad at everyone or wants to appear like she is a victim of some sort.   If they were just moving because it was better for them there I'd feel better...but she is being spiteful in this decision.  

Maybe things will turn around and she will wake up to see her family only wants the very best for her.   Right now any input, opinion, or suggestion is a call to war and leaving is better than listening to it.         I spend every moment right now ready to start bawling thinking about my little guy leaving.      His other grandparents are really good at spoiling him rotten.....so I might get to see some of their pictures.   

jltrent

Same thing happened here.  We helped with the 3 Grandkids all their life as they are 12, 10 and 6.  They had free rent as they lived in a house I bought and no hard feeling that we knew of..  One day the daughter came in and said guess what we are moving a 13 hour drive away as she wants to start a new life and she is not getting any younger.  She is a RN and her husband has a good jobs.   At first it was almost like they all had died.  We got three cats and slowly they have their life and we have ours.  The wife still struggles some, but I have basically moved on.

mark christian

Locust Fork said:

Right now things are hard because she is mad at everyone or wants to appear like she is a victim of some sort.    

I have to deal with half a dozen forum members who act like that. 

Horse Plains Drifter

mark christian said:

I have to deal with half a dozen forum members who act like that. 

Only half a dozen? At least you're getting them weeded out with the ban hammer.

Prayers for LF's family.

jimdeere

I sometimes wish my daughters would move away, but then I would have too much free time and money. I’d probably still have to drive 4 hours to clean their gutters out.

Locust Fork

When this all started to go downhill we were backtracking and trying to do whatever we could to keep the peace, but being a parent means you HAVE to speak up when you think you should.   You don't get to be best friends and ignore whatever comes along.     Its annoying to think that if I just keep my mouth shut things might go back to normal.    
When we first got married we put a mobile home on Larry's parents land.   Its 100 acres near where we live now.   We were going to build a house on the land, but decided just to buy a house when we saw a couple that we liked go up for sale.   When we moved out of the mobile home Larry's sister moved in and they stayed there several years.    Eventually, they bought a house in the area and the mobile home was empty again.    So, this is where my daughter and her little family live now.    No rent, 100 acres on the Locust Fork river.   

When they move it will be not be anything at all like what they are living in now.   I've been 5 minutes up the road to get money from and our house has been a free grocery store for them.    When they move it will be the first time she has been away from us, even though its just a few hours away its going to be all on them to make things work.