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Dawnie up and left me a couple months ago. Says she wants to stay married, but she "needs space."
Trouble is, she has lied to me so many times, I cannot believe what she is saying now.
I don't need any sympathy. I'm a big boy and have dealt with this before. She'll either come back or she won't. Either way, I survive.
She needs your prayers, please. And I do too.
All is well.
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What Austin said. Prayers for you both, nunn.
You are on the right track, David. She will either come back or she will not. It is her decision. Let her make contact with you, if she wants, if not that is okay too. I wish you both wellness, safety and peace of mind no matter the path taken.
There is one feeling no marriage counselor can help with. That is contempt, if contempt is involved by either party then the end is a foregone conclusion.
Hope it works out for both of you
Many years ago maybe 45 plus
Ii was working with a old fellow in his early 60's after many years of marriage his wife just decided to divorce Him
He said after a month or two she wanted to come back .
He said no way after all those years and then just leave he did not want her back
He said she found out real quick the demand for 64 year old women was not there
You didn't let her take the dogs, did you?
Prayers for you and Dawnie, David. It's gotta hurt.
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
Damn. Bad deal.
I wish I had some profound words of wisdom that could help both of you. Unfortunately I don't, so I will include both of you in my prayers. Stay strong David. Bob
Prayers for wisdom and discernment for both of you......
Close friend is in same way... he told me it is what it is.. Hope you two get back together.
Sorry to hear this Nunn. Prayers for both of you.
Damn!!!!
Not smart enough here to be sage, but I wish you the best, Mr. Nunn
Hope it turns out OK.
Things like this happen to folks in all walks of life.
Sorry to hear that David. I've been down that road twice and it's pretty rough. Hang in there my friend.
That sucks, David. Like most here, I wish I had some profound wisdom to share, but I don't. Thanks for sharing that with us.
What a headache, what a hassle. "Needs space" good grief.
I'd give her so much space she'd need a GPS to find Texas.
Wow, I don't know you face to face but have always admired you. How sad. When My first wife and I separated, only the love of a friend saved me. A year later I met my present wife of 46 years. Looking back, it wasn't the catastrophe I first imagined, which nearly cost me my life and the great 46 years since then. Grand children, great grand children and her "kids" all call me Dad or Pop. They say everything happens for a reason, but sometimes it takes a long time to realize it. Dammit, just dammit, it ain't easy, stay strong my friend.
Very sorry you are having to deal with this Nunn. Emotional Matters of the heart can be as catastrophic as physical matters.
During the nearly 49 years of my marriage to the same gal, I will admit to have actually paid in full the costs of 2 divorce lawyers. Reconciled both times before anything got legal. I know that women change a lot over the coarse of many years. Men do too but not nearly as drastic as the females! My upbringing instilled deeply the commitments promised "till death do you part" and I've made compromises that even ole Paul Harvey would be proud of.
Presently, we together are probably more in love than ever before. It is just a different kind of love. Companionship I guess is what it is called. Both of us have been at deaths door a time or two and I know that life has a lot more bumps in store for us. It is very nice to at least have someone who knows you better than anyone else on the planet to share all of those things ahead.
Anyway.....my rambling over.....I wish you and Dawnie all the best from here. Joel
Well..............that sucks. 20 years ago one of my best friends and shooting buddy had his wife of 30+ years leave him for a woman; a habit-wearing, pious nun, of all people! Then his wife also became a nun and I guess the two are still happily living together in a convent near Chicago. It was like some kind of soap opera!
I tried to get his mind off of it but he took to drinking and it was a sad story from there. I got lucky with my wife but you just never know. Women...who can figure them out?
That happened to my bro in Tehas. I thought that only happened in country songs.
I feel for you Mr. Nunn, went through similar situation only we actually got divorced, then we are currently back together, she found out life isn't all roses whether she was with me or not. It will work out for you however it is supposed to in the long run.
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I've been married twice and neither turned out well. It's hard for me to be empathetic....given my own experience. I have been alone for well over 15 years now...........have no desire to get into another relationship......and celibacy won't kill you either.
How many times are you going to go back to the trough?
I remember when Dawnie posed with you in your front yard, she was wearing her cheerleader outfit.
yep.
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
"She'll either come back or she won't. Either way, I survive."
That right there is the most important part right now. But, you need to do more than 'survive'. You need to Thrive. Within good moral standards, you need to find/do whatever it takes to find peace and joy in your life.
Dang Nunn, hate to read this, but hang in there, you will survive no matter which side the coin lands on.
Mule
You are absolutely correct!
File for divorce now.. show her you mean business...if she still cares for you she will try to work it out..if not..at least you will get it over with... never..ever.. trust a woman..
I have heard that before. "I need to move out. I need some space." We had been together for two years.
I was shocked but I said "OK."
But what I should have said was "What's the name of your new boyfriend?"
Prayers for both you and Dawnie, Dave. Hang in there and keep the faith. Donna and I have been married 40 years and went through a separation for a few months. We reconciled and made it work. I was just being "an *" , do to working so much and not giving her the attention she needed.
Know that we all think highly of "Both" of you. You wear your heart on your sleeve and your a good man. Much respect, Oakie.
Nunn, I'm happy to see that Dawnie's info has been removed, I hope that it was by your hand.
Posting that is not something that one would expect from you, especially being in law enforcement.
I have been where you are my friend ... and it sucks but the Only thing that will help the way you are feeling is time and only time.
Please just keep playing the good guy as it is easy to stoop to mud slinging and vindictive behavior. Being the one on moral high ground is difficult but in the end your integrity will still be intact regardless of the outcome.
One more thing from personal experience; If she has moved out to afford herself "space" IT"S OVER so accept it and move forward with integrity and dignity.
You have a hundred shoulders here when you need them.
Bull
Prayers asked for you David. Been there and done it three times myself.
All marriage roads have stretches of potholes. A lucky few are smooth asphalt. Some come to a fork, and others to a dead end. You never know which it will be when the journey starts, but you will always know when it ends.
Nunn, prayers for the both of you and i hope things work out for you.
My gunsmith's wife left him after raising three boys to adult hood. His wife's friends said she should get out and have some fun. Yea Right. After a couple of months she wanted to come back. He told her no way. Last fall after a year or so he married another girl. He is very happy now, even bought a RV and they are going all over the Country. He is a great gunsmith and only does my bluing as I do all my own repairs and polishing. If only I could get him to work on my guns more often. ---------------------------------Ray
Don't have any words of comfort for you that would make anything better, so I said a prayer for the two of you.
prayers for you both.
Sorry to hear it Nunn. She has lied how many times? What else do you need to know?
I was always told by my great grandfather that you can never trust someone that gets a Brazilian wax.
Wish you the best, David. As has been stated, keep to the high road. Regardless of the outcome, you will look back without regrets.
Brad Steele