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You might want to start praying for my son.....

Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
edited March 2015 in General Discussion
He was getting smart with me....he is "stressed" and wants to fuss. I told him to go on, I was tired of listening to his excuses and bickering. He smarted off....so, I told him to go to his room.

Well.....he is so smart he told me "no" and he is sitting in the living room. His dad will be home in about 15 minutes. This will NOT turn out like he imagines it will.
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  • nunnnunn Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 36,085 ******
    edited November -1
    I NEVER said "No" to my mother when she told me to do something. On second thought, I might have, when I was two years old, but I didn't do it very many times.

    At 15, no way. And I wouldn't need to worry about what would happen when Dad got home either. Mom could take care of her own business. A hazel-eyed, red-haired Irish woman she was, and her children did not trifle with her. She still has hazel eyes, but her red hair has turned silver.

    I don't think I would say "No" to her, even now.

    LF, if you grab an ear and take off walking, the rest of the kid will follow.
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    We have been fussing for about an hour over "how hard he has it".....he wants to make his point and I'm SOOOOO tired of his whining at this point. I'm tired. I have been taking pictures all day.....and I just do NOT feel like dealing with him right now. I'm going to turn him over to dad.
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  • CaptFunCaptFun Member Posts: 16,678 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    We have been fussing for about an hour over "how hard he has it".....he wants to make his point and I'm SOOOOO tired of his whining at this point. I'm tired. I have been taking pictures all day.....and I just do NOT feel like dealing with him right now. I'm going to turn him over to dad.

    Tell him to go on outside and pick his switch, cause when Larry gets home its going to be the belt....

    And when I was a kid if my MeMaw sent me for a switch and I came back with something insubstantial (that only happened once) she would go get a proper one.
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I feel somewhat silly spanking a 6'1" man-child. He is just this side of getting it though!

    I cannot remember the last "beating" this one got. He isn't normally like this. He is feeling sorry for himself and I'm not having it. He thinks he doesn't do anything fun....wants to quit his job....wants a pitty party, which is something I'm not accustomed to.
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  • gearheaddadgearheaddad Member Posts: 15,091 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    If he needs some sympathy tell him to look in the dictionary. It's right between sh## and syphillis.
  • Missouri Mule K30Missouri Mule K30 Member Posts: 2,092 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    He was getting smart with me....he is "stressed" and wants to fuss. I told him to go on, I was tired of listening to his excuses and bickering. He smarted off....so, I told him to go to his room.

    Well.....he is so smart he told me "no" and he is sitting in the living room. His dad will be home in about 15 minutes. This will NOT turn out like he imagines it will.

    RUT ROH!
  • armilitearmilite Member Posts: 35,490 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    He just needs an attitude adjustment, no prayers from here.
  • Ditch-RunnerDitch-Runner Member Posts: 25,375 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I got to go pick out my switch if it broke well go get another and start over .
    maybe too big to get a proper wood shed treatment . but walking and having the privilege's taken away on some items of a kid having it so ruff may have him thinking .
  • gjshawgjshaw Member Posts: 14,770 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Has Larry started the party yet? #128515;
  • CaptFunCaptFun Member Posts: 16,678 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    I feel somewhat silly spanking a 6'1" man-child. He is just this side of getting it though!

    I cannot remember the last "beating" this one got. He isn't normally like this. He is feeling sorry for himself and I'm not having it. He thinks he doesn't do anything fun....wants to quit his job....wants a pitty party, which is something I'm not accustomed to.




    I've forgotten how big they are now. The last picture of him in the office from baseball was 8th grade or such. The most painful thing you can do is take away the car keys and make him ride the bus. (I know you are rural, that may not be an option....)

    I have been known to turn the internet off for their devices on our network. They have everything they need for schoolwork but playtime is OVER. Kids these days have so much more to get in trouble with than we did.
  • dpmuledpmule Member Posts: 6,746 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I remember distinctly once when I was a smart assed teenager that I said No to my Mother ( rest her blessed soul) in a not nice tone of voice over something petty while we were doing the dishes together. The echo of that no hadn't reached the wall when a wet dish rag slapped me across the face just below the nose and raised a welt from ear to ear.
    She said " watch your mouth" and went back to washing dishes.
    I said yes mamam and humbly went back to drying.
    I didn't forget it.

    Teenagers sometimes engage mouth before brain, I did, my kids did and sounds like yours did. Time to take him down a notch or two.

    Mule
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    We took the car away already. His report card was ridiculous. He is going through a phase....the girls both did this too. WHY???? They each seem to get through their pre-teens without any major issues and the minute they are able to drive they lose their ever lovin minds????

    He is convinced that he is "not smart" and we don't realize just how incapable he is of making SOME kind of goal and achieving it. Neither me or Larry are falling for that though.

    Liam was yelling about not having any goals......so, Larry gave him one. He has until the weekend to have his room spotless. He is convinced that everyone else is going to college and he is just "too stupid" to make anything of himself.

    I think his problem is that he has surrounded himself with morons and thinks....."hey, this isn't all THAT bad."

    I'm just glad this night is over.
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  • ChrisInTempeChrisInTempe Member Posts: 15,562
    edited November -1
    Well, good luck with all that.

    My brothers and I (no sisters) never tried any of that talking back stuff to Mom that I know of. Certainly not after the toddler years anyhow, and who remembers those very well? Small bits of memory is all, brief scenes of a good life long lost in the fog.

    Mom's been gone a full decade now. The woman was the hardest working, most devoted person I ever knew and very likely ever will know. Miss her endlessly.

    Your boy will grow up. When he does I hope he kicks himself in his own * for having been a teenager once.
  • WarbirdsWarbirds Member Posts: 16,938 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    My wife does not play the "wait until your father gets home" card.

    If the boys need a tune up; it happens on the spot.
  • Dads3040Dads3040 Member Posts: 13,552 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I explained to my Dad once shortly after he and Mom split up that the problem at home was simply that Mom was stupid.

    I always meant to ask him before he died what exactly he hit me with.

    All I know is that I came to with a very angry little fellow standing over me explaining that I ought not ever call my Mother stupid again.

    It seemed like good advice. [:0][B)][:I]
  • mark christianmark christian Member Posts: 24,443 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I was probably about your son's age at the time, maybe a bit older, when I told my mother that I wasn't going to do something...Followed by running off at the mouth. Forget all about going to my room; She slapped me across the face so hard that 40 years later I remember it as though it were yesterday.
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    To this day, anything she asks me to do gets done without a single word other than "YES".

    Compared to what a lot of us went through growing up, your son's home life is a piece of very tasty cake served up by a woman (you) who is hell bent on mothering him for the rest of his life.

    Sorry...Rant over.
  • lew07lew07 Member Posts: 1,053 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Your house ,Your rules tell Him where the door is [^]
  • JnRockwallJnRockwall Member Posts: 16,352 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by lew07
    Your house ,Your rules tell Him where the door is [^]


    Big enough not to listen, big enough to make his own way. Open the door and point.
  • FEENIXFEENIX Member Posts: 10,559 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    My late Mom will trump Eddie Murphy's Mom (reminder "Delirious") at least ten fold anytime, if I get lippy or smarty. [:p]

    I miss and love my Mom dearly. [^]
  • NeoBlackdogNeoBlackdog Member Posts: 17,276 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    Back when I was about 16 or so I was feeling pretty grown up one evening and informed my mother that I would not be helping with the F@#$&^g dishes. She informed me that, yes, I would do the dishes and that she would also wash my mouth out with soap. I borrowed a line from George Carlin and said 'go ahead, I'll blow bubbles out my *!' Mom smacked me upside the head and then burst out laughing. Later dad took me aside and laid down the law. Years later he told me it was all he could do to not crack up laughing. I was a rotten kid.[;)]
    Good luck, Kasey!
  • riflemikeriflemike Member Posts: 10,599
    edited November -1
    smack the crap out of his mouth and when he hits you back have him arrested

    OR buy him a new car and phone and he will be ok,,

    and please post his 1st arrest, why hold back now...

    did dad ever get home???havent seen a report
  • jltrentjltrent Member Posts: 9,344 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    All kids usually go through situations like this. Their parents are their sounding board and it is good to be there for them. A lot of parents are not there and the kids then go and do something stupid that may cost them the rest of their life. He will grow up it just takes some longer than others.
  • nordnord Member Posts: 6,106
    edited November -1
    Mom never did anything physical that I remember. She, however, was very quick to offer delivering my packed bags to the front door. She was deadly serious and I knew it. There were lines in our family that one could not cross.
  • bpostbpost Member Posts: 32,669 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by nunn


    LF, if you grab an ear and take off walking, the rest of the kid will follow.


    That is exactly what my mom did, she had the whole ear and plenty of hair pulling my head way down I followed her with my attention fully focused and beloved cooperation filling my heart as the pain registered deep into my soul. [:D]
  • MG1890MG1890 Member Posts: 4,460 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    Took my boy to cut firewood when he was about 8 years old. We were cutting pole wood, and I explained that his job would be to pick up the cut pieces and throw them in the back of the truck.

    I did not expect him to handle the heavy stuff, but he needed to help as best he could.

    He declared that he was not going to do it. So, I sent him to find a switch. Told him I needed a nice, whippy stick about the size of his finger and as long as his arm.

    This, he thought, is a lot more fun than loading wood. He had never "experienced" a switching before.

    Soon he proudly returned with the switch, and it was perfect. I praised him on his ability to find just the right switch.

    Then we set down for a talk. I explained why it was important for him to help me. I explained that his mom and dad had responsibilities to take care of him and his sister, feed them, and work to pay the bills. I explained his responsibility as a son.

    Then I explained waht the switch was for. That it was to "help" little boys that didn't want to do their job. I carefully explained the welts it would raise, made it whistle thru the air.

    Then I gave him a choice. He could perform his duty as best he could, or he could take a switchin'. His choice, no pressure, and I would still love him either way.

    He chose wisely. Wood was loaded.
  • mogley98mogley98 Member Posts: 18,291 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I don't remember how old I was when Dad decided "spanking" was no longer an option. But a punch in the mouth was.
    I never crossed him again after that, not even as a grown man.

    Two reasons,

    First he would have killed me
    Second respect

    If I ever decided to forget the second reason the first one kept me in check.
    Why don't we go to school and work on the weekends and take the week off!
  • TopkickTopkick Member Posts: 4,452 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    I have removed all the fuses from a truck, the battery on the ground was only a decoy.

    After 1 warning, I threw away ALL the clothes left on the kids bathroom floor.

    I refused to help with the purchase of a vehicle until attitudes changed.

    Banned motorcycle riding for 3 months at a time.

    I shut off internet at 9:30PM.

    After age 9 kids do ALL of their own laundry.

    I wont fix a car or truck without the kid owner helping in person, bring iced tea, hold tools, wrench with me, holding the light etc.

    I quit spanking with a homemade paddle at 14, but let them know I'm not allergic to doing it again.

    "Do you want "push mower" duty for 3 months?"
    The riding mower is "broken".

    I am not against shutting off the breaker to a room, putting certain belongings into my safe, refusing to buy dinner out, buying more clothes, making kids do dishes.

    I can be rather "inventive" to find punishment to fit the circumstances.

    Although I'm 6'1", my 3 boys are around 6'4".
    They still obey.
    [;)]
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I got him up this morning and he was being SUPER sweet. I don't know what the reason behind it is....but it seems kids just need to have parents lay down the law every once in a while. They will find some way to make it as bad as possible too.
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  • Horse Plains DrifterHorse Plains Drifter Forums Admins, Member, Moderator Posts: 40,233 ***** Forums Admin
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Dave W.
    My wife does not play the "wait until your father gets home" card.

    If the boys need a tune up; it happens on the spot.
    Yep, my mom had a belt hanging over the rear view mirror mount in the car. She was plenty capable of handling any situation which might arise.
  • milesmiles Member Posts: 2,548 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by CaptFun
    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    We have been fussing for about an hour over "how hard he has it".....he wants to make his point and I'm SOOOOO tired of his whining at this point. I'm tired. I have been taking pictures all day.....and I just do NOT feel like dealing with him right now. I'm going to turn him over to dad.

    Tell him to go on outside and pick his switch, cause when Larry gets home its going to be the belt....

    And when I was a kid if my MeMaw sent me for a switch and I came back with something insubstantial (that only happened once) she would go get a proper one.




    I was never lucky enough to get my own switch. My mom would send my sister to get one for her to use on me when mom decided I needed my "hide tanned."

    My sister always managed to find a Hickory switch with knots, forks and other abnormalities nature provided to help show me the error of my ways.[:(!]
  • DocDoc Member Posts: 13,898 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    My mother always said that I was a good kid. Don't know why, I just was. Never argued, never refused orders, never talked back, always did what I was supposed to do, always let her know where I was when not home, etc. She told me when I was grown that she was very grateful that I never gave her grief. As a result I was allowed quite a lot of freedom as a child because I was deemed responsible.

    I never had any kids and looking at my friends who did I have no regrets on that decision. Every daughter amongst my friends got pregnant. One friend's son went to prison. Nearly 40 and never worked, he's a bum and a felon. Others are dropouts, disagreeable and disrespectful to their parents. All my friends' kids are losers. Not a winner in the bunch. I think the parents are all good people, but the kids all turned out rotten...all of them. Amazing.
    ....................................................................................................
    Too old to live...too young to die...
  • TwoDogsTwoDogs Member Posts: 2,011 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I remember the age and it only happened once.
    My Dad went from a "spanking" and turned into
    George Foreman.
  • lew07lew07 Member Posts: 1,053 ✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    I got him up this morning and he was being SUPER sweet. I don't know what the reason behind it is....but it seems kids just need to have parents lay down the law every once in a while. They will find some way to make it as bad as possible too.


    Simple, its Testostorone (spelling?[:D])
  • babunbabun Member Posts: 11,038 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by lew07

    quote:Originally posted by Locust Fork
    I got him up this morning and he was being SUPER sweet. I don't know what the reason behind it is....but it seems kids just need to have parents lay down the law every once in a while. They will find some way to make it as bad as possible too.


    Simple, its Testostorone (spelling?[:D])


    OR...."Late adolescence and early adulthood are peak periods for the onset of schizophrenia"

    [:0]
  • Mr. PerfectMr. Perfect Member, Moderator Posts: 66,437 ******
    edited November -1
    mouthing off would get the liquid soap treatment in short order at my house.
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    And fiery auto crashes
    Some will die in hot pursuit
    While sifting through my ashes
    Some will fall in love with life
    And drink it from a fountain
    That is pouring like an avalanche
    Coming down the mountain
  • riflemikeriflemike Member Posts: 10,599
    edited November -1
    its called respect...dont even say Its testosterone thing crap, if he has that attitude toward mom he sure as hell is gonna have a worst one toward someone else...that might bust him in he mouth with a fist
  • riflemikeriflemike Member Posts: 10,599
    edited November -1
    quote:Originally posted by dennisnielsen
    Take everything from him and return it at a later date.

    That or call Don.


    he was an angel this AM ..all is good..Praying? to God?....pretty sure God dont care if he Said NO!! to you but thats what I think
  • pwilliepwillie Member Posts: 20,253 ✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    He needs some discipline....military style....the best there is...
  • OakieOakie Member Posts: 40,565 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    My dad threw me through the wall so many times, That he got tired of fixing the sheet rock and just put paneling up[;)][;)][;)]I was one stubborn kid. We never cursed or talked back to mom. She was always very loving until she got pissed. I only crossed that line once.


    If our son even looked at my wife funny, she would beat the daylights out of him. He feared her, not me. [;)][;)][;)] I finally had enough of Chis's BS and threw him out of the house about two years ago. He moved back in last year after he grew up some and now is back on the right track. He saw the era of his ways with me and his mother.[;)][}:)][:(!] Oakie
  • Locust ForkLocust Fork Member Posts: 32,080 ✭✭✭✭
    edited November -1
    I think his main problem right now is the thought of growing up....he is SO WORRIED that he is going to fail at life in general. He is completely convinced that everyone is having way more fun than he is...everyone else is on some master track to a well planned life where they will be successful and happy.....and he is going to be living in a van, not even lucky enough to be in a van by a river. I cannot convince him that his worries are unfounded and that everything will be fine. Next year is his last year in high school. They have less than a month left in school this year. He thinks "this is MY LAST SUMMER!!!!" He doesn't want to have a summer job. He somehow thinks that working will keep him from participating in the VERY LAST FUN he will ever have.
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