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Child Leash
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This is really disturbing. Locally I've seen school children all tied to one long leash. Now I guess they sell individual leashes. I guess now you can tie your child up in the back yard with the dog so they both can play and be "safe". [xx(]
Put your child on a leash and you'll immediately get dirty looks and comments from sancti-parents. But one dad is done with the criticism. He'll take all your judgey comments because he knows he's keeping his kid safe.
Clint Edwards, the dad of three behind "No Idea What I'm Doing: A Daddy Blog," recently posted a Facebook photo of his daughter, Aspen, with a backpack leash at the farmer's market. Edwards says he had no shame doing so, as his kid can be a "wild child."
"This thing has already kept her out of the road and from sticking her hand in an ice cream machine, along with keeping me sane," Edwards writes. "The real difficulty with having a wild child is that you are damned if you do, and damned if you don?t."
Those against child leashes point to "lazy parenting" or call it "inhumane." If only the parents parented better, then the kids wouldn't run away, right?
But for many parents who decide to use a child leash, leashes or reins are a necessity.
"The fact is, if I didn?t put Aspen on a leash while at amusement parks, the zoo, a crowded mall, or the farmers market, she?d be the lost child announced over the intercom. She?d be the kid popping up in every Facebook feed for wandering into a shopping center parking lot, unattended. She could be the child climbing into the tiger cage. Because I can't, for the life of me, keep her from moving. Her curiosity is incredible, and for only having a 12 inch stride, she moves faster than any Olympian," Edwards shares.
His post quickly filled with comments from other parents about their own decisions to use a leash?maybe a mom is with multiple kids in a crowded space, or a dad has a toddler who tends to bolt fearlessly into dangerous situations.
"I thought we had outgrown the leash. Then a couple weeks ago my daughter literally tried to jump in the damn river. No fear. Not a single f--- given. I literally caught this child as she was about to jump and she was just angry with me that I stopped her," writes one mom.
"The one time my oldest wasn't on a leash he ran out of a grocery store with a car approaching in each direction. He wasn't hurt, but I cried and cried for a while after that happened. I once had a stranger come up to me (a different time) and tell me it's not really a leash. It's a love line. You love that child on the other end, so why wouldn't you keep him/her safe?" reasons another.
Of course, there were critics who claim having a "wild child" is an "ignorant excuse" for bad parenting.
"Putting your child on a leash says a lot about your knowledge of parenting, discipline and unrealistic value of safety parameters and you should be judged," says one commenter.
"Never would I put my child on a freaking leash. Don't try to change your child, change your parenting skills! If you cant control your child at all times, then (you're) not the parent you need to be," a dad critiques.
Edwards had a response ready for these types of comments: "To you I say this, 'I'm keep this kid safe while maintaining my (peace) of mind, and that is 100 percent worth it.' Because the reality is she'll calm down. She'll figure it out, because all kids do. But until that day comes, I'm going to do whatever I can to keep her out of danger, even if it means a leash."
For parents considering using a child leash, experts say it's a parenting tool that isn't inherently good or bad.
"What matters is how it?s used: how it?s presented to the child, how and when the parent uses it, what the child?s temperament is, and why the parent is using it," writes Dr. Tina Payne Bryson.
Bryson warns using restraining devices can come from misdirected motivations. Is there a realistic danger or is the parent really motivated by unexamined anxiety? Plus, tethering a child can get in the way of skill-building and remove opportunities for kids to make good decisions and responsibility, she says. Is the decision about basic safety or about emphasizing control over the relationship?
If you do decide to go for it, don't apologize. Actually, why not give yourself a pay on the back instead? Because somehow, you kept that kid alive for another day.
LINK
http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/whats-hot/dad-shuts-down-child-leash-haters/ar-BBBJlp0?li=BBnb7Kz
Put your child on a leash and you'll immediately get dirty looks and comments from sancti-parents. But one dad is done with the criticism. He'll take all your judgey comments because he knows he's keeping his kid safe.
Clint Edwards, the dad of three behind "No Idea What I'm Doing: A Daddy Blog," recently posted a Facebook photo of his daughter, Aspen, with a backpack leash at the farmer's market. Edwards says he had no shame doing so, as his kid can be a "wild child."
"This thing has already kept her out of the road and from sticking her hand in an ice cream machine, along with keeping me sane," Edwards writes. "The real difficulty with having a wild child is that you are damned if you do, and damned if you don?t."
Those against child leashes point to "lazy parenting" or call it "inhumane." If only the parents parented better, then the kids wouldn't run away, right?
But for many parents who decide to use a child leash, leashes or reins are a necessity.
"The fact is, if I didn?t put Aspen on a leash while at amusement parks, the zoo, a crowded mall, or the farmers market, she?d be the lost child announced over the intercom. She?d be the kid popping up in every Facebook feed for wandering into a shopping center parking lot, unattended. She could be the child climbing into the tiger cage. Because I can't, for the life of me, keep her from moving. Her curiosity is incredible, and for only having a 12 inch stride, she moves faster than any Olympian," Edwards shares.
His post quickly filled with comments from other parents about their own decisions to use a leash?maybe a mom is with multiple kids in a crowded space, or a dad has a toddler who tends to bolt fearlessly into dangerous situations.
"I thought we had outgrown the leash. Then a couple weeks ago my daughter literally tried to jump in the damn river. No fear. Not a single f--- given. I literally caught this child as she was about to jump and she was just angry with me that I stopped her," writes one mom.
"The one time my oldest wasn't on a leash he ran out of a grocery store with a car approaching in each direction. He wasn't hurt, but I cried and cried for a while after that happened. I once had a stranger come up to me (a different time) and tell me it's not really a leash. It's a love line. You love that child on the other end, so why wouldn't you keep him/her safe?" reasons another.
Of course, there were critics who claim having a "wild child" is an "ignorant excuse" for bad parenting.
"Putting your child on a leash says a lot about your knowledge of parenting, discipline and unrealistic value of safety parameters and you should be judged," says one commenter.
"Never would I put my child on a freaking leash. Don't try to change your child, change your parenting skills! If you cant control your child at all times, then (you're) not the parent you need to be," a dad critiques.
Edwards had a response ready for these types of comments: "To you I say this, 'I'm keep this kid safe while maintaining my (peace) of mind, and that is 100 percent worth it.' Because the reality is she'll calm down. She'll figure it out, because all kids do. But until that day comes, I'm going to do whatever I can to keep her out of danger, even if it means a leash."
For parents considering using a child leash, experts say it's a parenting tool that isn't inherently good or bad.
"What matters is how it?s used: how it?s presented to the child, how and when the parent uses it, what the child?s temperament is, and why the parent is using it," writes Dr. Tina Payne Bryson.
Bryson warns using restraining devices can come from misdirected motivations. Is there a realistic danger or is the parent really motivated by unexamined anxiety? Plus, tethering a child can get in the way of skill-building and remove opportunities for kids to make good decisions and responsibility, she says. Is the decision about basic safety or about emphasizing control over the relationship?
If you do decide to go for it, don't apologize. Actually, why not give yourself a pay on the back instead? Because somehow, you kept that kid alive for another day.
LINK
http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/whats-hot/dad-shuts-down-child-leash-haters/ar-BBBJlp0?li=BBnb7Kz
Comments
I got my butt paddled plenty for running off.
Look how I turned out.
(On second thought, maybe not)
Not sure on the leash but seen a few that needs a shock collar and give me the button.
The parents or the children???
quote:Originally posted by Chief Shaway
Not sure on the leash but seen a few that needs a shock collar and give me the button.
The parents or the children???
Yes. [:D]
I didn't have to use it much, but I found it pretty handy when I needed to write a check or if we had to do things that involved standing in a line. Lines were the worst. Trying to get into the zoo....waiting for our turn on a fair ride....wherever there were lots of distractions and a long wait it was sure to be a tiring event. I mean....you are there to have "FUN" and you find yourself having to spank your kid that you brought to a thing that was specifically for them. Its just a raw deal for everyone, me, her, the other people who are there to witness the whole event play out. A leash is the way to go if you have a young person that is like my oldest was.
I didn't ever have these issues with my younger two.....just her. She was a little fireball.
The caption was, "Well, do I get some service, or do I cut them loose."
I don't remember ever being on one, so I guess that the Paper was trying to make a point that we needed to be on leashes! [:D]
She threatened to do it quite a few times , but never went through with it.
No, my behavior did NOT improve................[:D]
(Mom was pretty strict, but just didn't have the heart to leash me)
I remember I seen my mom so upset she could have bit a nail in half
for her sister to suggest using it ..
I would bet my aunt used the leash(s) on her kids , I only seen her a few times in my life when she would visit every 10 years or so
maybe a good thing [:D]
Oh yes I almost forgot they just need some counseling @ $100s/hr.
Just a leather belt that did all the talking when I screwed up!
Seeing little kids on leashes in this day and age doesn't really strike me as negative.
I remember seeing a neighbor who used to leash his cat,
Now that really cracked me up.[:D]
i agree on lack of discipline in many kids today, but it is not 100% effective on some children
I find it funny when some condemn others for parenting different than they do- the "Well I would never.." expert. Being a parent is tough no matter what your kids are like. Some kids are easy to raise and some take everything you've got, physically and emotionally, to deal with. Ideally we would be supporting and helping each other not running each other down. When I see a child on a leash I thank God that it isn't my child, and say a prayer for that parent to be able to deal with him.
I used a leash on one child when she was little, until she could understand consequences. Spanking doesn't do much good unless they know and understand why they are being spanked, and many 18 month-olds aren't capable of that. When I tried to spank my oldest son, he just looked at me like "what was that?" We had to find other ways to discipline him because I wasn't going to beat him senseless.
I think the instance that broke me ofbthis was when I was 4 or 5. It was at the harwinton fair in CT and we were walking around holding my parents hand. I let go for some reason and started doing something or another and when I looked up my parents were gone. If I remember right I wandered around for a bit looking for them when my dad walked up and picked me up. They had been watching me and when he figured I'd learned my lesson he ended it.
Inthis day and age. If I had youngens to watch over in a crowded place like a fair or such. I would probably have a harness and leash for them. Watching one at a time is easy (ish). Get more then that and at times your attention is devided and it only takes a second.
my oldest needed a leash, we where only a ride to the place he could escape and explore, the punishments never did matter to him , you cannot retrieve your wallet and pay for something with one hand, he was an artist at escaping, i would defy anyone that would claim different
I can guarantee of it you can pay for things one-handed... And do almost anything better to head person could be one handed if you really wanted too. My dearly departed Wife did an excellent job doing it.
And then back in the early 2000's I severed three my tenants in my hand and was unable to use my left hand (which is my strong hand) for about 11 months... You'll learn to do things one-handed when you really want too.
Ima Curmudgeon
Mom said she couldn't watch them drag for us, if we went under she would drag us in.
She was a normal, inquisitive, spunky little girl.
But some of you would say "Good thing she wasn't on a leash."