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quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
Myself,.....I would respect the wishes of my children, and her family, and let my anger go for a little while.
It's the last thing you will have to do concerning her.
I'm gonna gree with Marc on this...
Besides... Your sons will be continuing on with their lives after she's gone
And likely will consider this final act by you so huge in their future lives.
I have no idea what the issue was that caused your divorce... And have no reason to.
But, for you to take this final step of closure will benefit many and possibly yourself some day.
If I were you... I'd be there... But that's a decision you must make. Good luck.
quote:Originally posted by djh860
Good advice guys. I went and she looked terrible. I could hear her lungs gurgling with each breath. My sons would have been hurt if I didn't stop in to visit. Her family wanted me to be there and they placed that expectation on my boys.
Thank you
I apologize for not reading further down the thread...
IMO... You made a wise decision. Good man... Hope you still get moved. [;)]
You did good. The deed was for your children, not her. They will remember your honorable conduct and respect you for it for the rest of your life. Good job. You just set an example of how a real man behaves honorably that will influence your kids in their own later years.
I don't know what your relationship is/was with her family but personally f them for putting that expectation on your kids.
I don't have anything to do with my ex's family (and I liked them) and if me and my wife were to divorce I don't care how amicable it was I wouldn't have anything to do with them either.
Good for you. Your kids will always remember what you did and be proud of you for it. What a great example you have set for not just your kids but others as well.
You're a good man.
"Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you"
Support the children and do for them what they would like You to do. I would say that Your obligations end there. My best wishes to You and Your family
quote:Originally posted by andrewsw16
You did good. The deed was for your children, not her. They will remember your honorable conduct and respect you for it for the rest of your life. Good job. You just set an example of how a real man behaves honorably that will influence your kids in their own later years.
+1
"Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here." - William Shatner
quote:Originally posted by burchie
Not no, but Hell no, I do not know your background or history but the ties are now broken. There is no reason to open old wounds to appease others. Finish your move and dont look back.
My advice exactly.
That is exactly what my ex would want, to make me look responsible for her misery. Hell no.
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Myself,.....I would respect the wishes of my children, and her family, and let my anger go for a little while.
It's the last thing you will have to do concerning her.
I'm gonna gree with Marc on this...
Besides... Your sons will be continuing on with their lives after she's gone
And likely will consider this final act by you so huge in their future lives.
I have no idea what the issue was that caused your divorce... And have no reason to.
But, for you to take this final step of closure will benefit many and possibly yourself some day.
If I were you... I'd be there... But that's a decision you must make. Good luck.
Good advice guys. I went and she looked terrible. I could hear her lungs gurgling with each breath. My sons would have been hurt if I didn't stop in to visit. Her family wanted me to be there and they placed that expectation on my boys.
Thank you
I apologize for not reading further down the thread...
IMO... You made a wise decision. Good man... Hope you still get moved. [;)]
to your children and other survivors you want to be on good terms with.
I don't know what your relationship is/was with her family but personally f them for putting that expectation on your kids.
I don't have anything to do with my ex's family (and I liked them) and if me and my wife were to divorce I don't care how amicable it was I wouldn't have anything to do with them either.
The only way I would be at my ex's bedside for her last breath is if I was holding the pillow over her face
[:p]
BTW djh860 you're a better man than me. At least its done and you can move on with your life.
The only way I would be at my ex's bedside for her last breath is if I was holding the pillow over her face
+1
You're a good man.
You did good. The deed was for your children, not her. They will remember your honorable conduct and respect you for it for the rest of your life. Good job. You just set an example of how a real man behaves honorably that will influence your kids in their own later years.
+1
Not no, but Hell no, I do not know your background or history but the ties are now broken. There is no reason to open old wounds to appease others. Finish your move and dont look back.
My advice exactly.
That is exactly what my ex would want, to make me look responsible for her misery. Hell no.
Myself,.....I would respect the wishes of my children, and her family, and let my anger go for a little while.
It's the last thing you will have to do concerning her.
+1, unless I had remarried.