Strange phone call from my sister
Oakie
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I have two sisters. My one sister lives in Houston, and I talk to her weekly. My other sister, I haven't heard from in 39 years. I couldn't tell you if she was alive or dead, or where she lives. This morning around 9am, I get a phone call from my estranged sister.
Little background. When she was 18, she hocked all my moms jewelry, stole my parents credit cards and money from their gun store. She was a heroin addict. I wasn't privy to this info, until I was in my 30's. My parents told her to leave and never come back. I haven't heard from her since.
Anyway, seems she lived in Florida, California and a few other places. She has lived the last 20 years, about three miles from me. She supposedly turned her life around, has a great husband and two adult children. She wants to get together for coffee, and explain what she did. I forgave her a long time ago, and am definitely going to see her. She got my number through a mutual friend.
I called my parents to see what they had to say. Both my parents said, " Don't mention her name and we don't want to here anything about her". Okaaaay. Guess that is a sore subject. My mom was quick to change the subject.
I will go visit her, but not say anything to my other sister and parents. Hope this is not some ploy or something else. Oakie
What would you guys do????
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The prodigal has returned. Like 15:17
I would go, you said you forgave her.
I'd definitely meet, but I would keep my hand on my wallet and my head on a swivel. People do turn their lives around and I hope this is the case with her. Best of luck. Bob
This.
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
Proceed with caution!!!
Is she buying? Don
Addicts are master manipulators. You should be able to tell rather quickly what her situation is.
got a brother the same way oakie, he pulled a u-haul up to moms house as we were at a get together after her funeral. and cleaned it out. we had a few words and haven't seen him since only about a hour at the funeral, he had been gone 5-6 years before that. He is on his 8th wife we know of. My older sister worries about him and has tried to find him, and is allways asking me if I will ask any of his old friends if they know/hear from him. I won't , I figure he got all he could from us/mom and know won't have anything else todo with us. If he called I doubt I would talk to him, I know I wouldn't waste time to drive to see him.
Good luck with your sister, you are a better man than me. hope all works out for the best for everyone involved
I would go and follow the advice as already said.
My situation was just the opposite it was my brother who took my mothers home. My mother who would not say **it if you put it in her mouth. She never saw anything wrong with what my brother did even when she had to move to subsidized elderly housing and I paid for it every month and then having her move in with my family .
I had nothing to do with my brother or his family for 20 years. Then my brother got pancreatic cancer and I had to help him with chemo every week because that what I had to do for myself.
We did reconcile because I would not let him go without knowing that I did not hold what he did to our mother against him. My mother never ever said a bad word against anyone and would never approve if I had not supported my brother.
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Oakie, probably same as you. You are doing the best that you can with the hand you were dealt. --------------------------------Ray
One thing to add to my above reply. If in fact she was a heroin addict many years ago, she may have turned at least that part of her life around. Heroin addicts don't exactly have a long life expectancy. Hopefully if she cured that addiction she did the same for her character. Once again, best of luck. Bob
Yeah, this
Go and meet her. Her idea of turning her life around and yours might be wildly different though. I would be very curious as to how she lived three miles away from you and you never accidently ran into her in the last twenty years.
Yeah, that seems a little odd.
Can’t fault either of you for trying. Hopefully you can move forward.
I guess if it was me I would give her a shot. Nothing ventured nothing gained. If it goes beyond that take it slow. Trust is earned …
l hope this does not hurt your relationship with your folks……I will pray for your situation
Gone 39 years and has lived 3 miles away for the last 20 years. Curious that your mutual friend(s) kept it from you. Make sure someone is at your house when you go to meet her. She's probably passed by & checked it out and knows more about you than you think. Keep her at a distance and don't offer too much info about your life.
The big question is, WHY NOW ?
None of my business... but some people hold grudges until it's to late...
I hope it works out for you
And will add this post looks like more than a few of have something in common other than guns
My stories would fit right in and I will leave it there
I try and not think about or foucus on them . I got over the hate long ago but avoiding contact , well just say Out of sight out of mind works for me most days
Nothing more to say, all above, you will size it up within 10 minutes as an experienced "life person" should know.
Interested in how things go @Oakie ! Please let us know. I have an estranged brother in law that has been out of our lives for over 10 years. Really stupid reasons but life has its moments!
I would go visit her and see if the story checks out. Most junkies never recover, they wind up in the morgue.
Beware.
That is what I am afraid of. It always seems to come down to money or a favor. I'm willing to risk it, to find out what the intention is.
As long as you don't get sentimental all you’ll be investing is a little of your time. Recommend a neutral meeting site with witnesses.