Update Diane
4205raymond
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I was Westy's driver at the Point and Diane was the Dean's Secretary and Deans Office Administrator. One day she invited me for a cup of coffee and we will be married 59 years on Jan. 11th. Along the way we raised two beautiful children, Heather and Martin.
In '89 we drove across North America and saw first hand this beautiful country USA that we live in. Crossed the border at Fargo into Regina and across Canada. Up the Alaska Highway to the pipeline and Artic Circle. Along the way and back Diane knitted two sweaters and we never had a argument. She also wrote a diary of the whole trip.
Diane has been in the hospital for around ten days now and this afternoon we had a meeting with the internal medicine team. Chemo was always a no go and tonight they ruled out Radiation for the Atypical Carcinoma. In a few days Diane will come home and be in Hospice. We had a great Journey but Diane has come to the end of the Trail. It is in God's hands now.
I don't know what the future holds. It was always my dream to return to my Native Virginia with my sweetheart and finish out the remaining years of our lives in Fluvanna County.
Please keep fighting for our 2A. Tonight my heart is broken. -------------------------------------Ray
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You both have been and will continue to be in my prayers. A beautiful life well lived and loved. Hold her hand as she holds your heart. May the Lord carry you through her journey to be with Him.
Ray, you and Diane remain in our prayers.
Prayers
prayers from us
Praying for comfort for you and your family.
Prayers for God's comfort and peace for Diane, you and all involved...
Prayers for peace and comfort. Ros
Ray I don't really know you.... But I send you love and prayers. May our Dear Lord give you both strength and courage. And may the great Comforter and Defender give you peace 🌹♥️🙏
"Independence Now, Independence Forever."
John Adams
I know that there are no words that can sooth you at this time. Prayers sent from Tennessee.
Prayers for Diane, and you Ray.
Sounds like you two had a great life. I'm sorry to hear that it's coming to an end & you both will be in my prayers.
Prayers for you both Raymond, just remember it's not over until it's over so make the time remaining special. I'd also like to pray for the person who gave your post a "disagree", he/she really needs one also . Addition: glad to see someone stood up and it's now gone 👍️
"Never do wrong to make a friend----or to keep one".....Robert E. Lee
Ray, my heart goes out to both you and Diane. May God hold you close and give you strength for the tough days ahead.
Prayers for you both.
Prayers for all
Very sorry to hear that the doctors have no ability to help any longer and trust in the lord that you are both in good hands Ray. Prayers from Texas.
prayers for everyone
Our prayers for her and you
Prayers
Prayers from here Ray.
And fiery auto crashes
Some will die in hot pursuit
While sifting through my ashes
Some will fall in love with life
And drink it from a fountain
That is pouring like an avalanche
Coming down the mountain
Thinking of you guys, prayers to everyone.
So sad. Heart felt prayers sent from SC. Reading that got me a little teary eyed. I'm so sorry for both of you.
I just wanted to add that I have not stopped praying for you both...
Rachel
"Independence Now, Independence Forever."
John Adams
Prayers sent
And now it is back. Can't understand why anyone would do that. Brings back memories of when someone was harassing Ken. -------------------------------Ray
Yep, someone doesn't believe that Karma and the fiery pit exist but they do and they'll find out one day.
"Never do wrong to make a friend----or to keep one".....Robert E. Lee
I'd guess that the person responsible doesn't understand how that button is regarded by a lot of the members... it is possible the person just doesn't care for the sad news Ray and are trying in their own way to show they are not happy about the situation... I don't know their reason just thinking that they probably aren't trying to be mean... I could be totally wrong on my thoughts though. By the way, I was the one who removed it thinking it may have been a mistake, but it was restored either by the member or another moderator.
What Ruger said. I do not believe it was marked other than because of the sad face next to the disagree.
Lost my Sunshine in January -- after a 5-year fight with cancer she got fungal pneumonia and it was more than she could fight. She passed peacefully to a better place which has been a comfort to me as the day and months have passed.
Tell the stories of her life and she will live forever.
Peace to you and yours.
♥️🙏🌹
"Independence Now, Independence Forever."
John Adams
@4205raymond & @Wild Turkey I truly hope that someone is just clicking on the sad face & doesn't understand the disagree feature. Your situations are very sad & we support you. May our lost love ones live in our memories forever.
I always feel helpless in a thread like this. I, too, will offer up my prayers and well wishes, but sure wish there was something else I could do. When something breaks, I fix it. If it doesn't exist, and I have the capability, I build it. With things like this?
Stay strong, and if you need us we're all just a keyboard away.
Update: Diane was transported home today by the Life Support Ambulance around 4pm. The Hospice nurse was with us for about four hours. Diane is in the TV room in a hospital bed. She is as comfortable as possible and surrounded by love, her little dog Willie and my '37 Winchesters.
Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. -----------------------------Ray
Prayers continue for you both.
What Ruger said.
Continued prayers for you. Laugh and love as the hour grows closer. Take care of yourself so that you may cherish these days together.
12/11/2022 (pm) ---------I really can't do clean up on Diane at this point by myself. I usually do what i call one half clean up at night. If i have one aide to help me I can do it all. In the morning Hospice does a super job with two people.
My daughter Heather came down from Delaware County (over 2 hours) Sat to help me. We share the work and alternate holding Diane's hand.
Diane reduced her eating over two weeks ago and for four days she has eaten nothing. She has progressed to not taking her meds. not drinking, not taking her inhalers or nebulizer. We get a little moisture in her mouth with the little pink sponges. We tried crushing her meds with water but she rejects it. They are trying to get liquid form. They have bumped up her Morphine and decreased dose time interval.
Diane has been a giver and not a taker her whole life. She took care of her mother for ten years and her aunt for a couple of years. She was the hardest working Civil service worker I have ever known. She helped many of the Cadets at West Point get in the Med School Program. Many of them called her Mom.
My daughter has to return home tomorrow as she is a horse person and they require a lot of her time. I will be alone then and will have basically just you guys.
I hate this damn evil Monster Cancer and what it has done to my Sweetheart. -----------Ray
The good times, remember the good times ,,,,,,,,,, prayers ask.
Prayers continue.
Ditto this.
"Never do wrong to make a friend----or to keep one".....Robert E. Lee