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A friendship dillema, What do I do?
woodsrunner
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O.K. folks, How would you handle this situation? My wits end is approaching fast.
I have a friend I've known since 1984. He's a pretty good guy, but, a situation is developing in our friendship. This guy never got along with his mom, so when I bought the house he asked if he could rent or trade for the use of a portion of my barn. Fine at that point I had a bad knee and the doctor had forbidden the use of ladders. So rather than ask for money which I knew he didn't have, I told him he could come down and give me a days work a month. He's a pretty good electrician and well versed in building maintenance. Well from the start there were suggestions of tearing off the aluminum siding and painting the old wood. I said no because it's worth more to the next owner with aluminum or vinyl siding on it. The he wants to tear the unused chimney down. If I did I would have to find the correct color siding with the correct ammount of fading to cover the space up, so I said no. The chimney is sound and isn't about to fall, so I ain't fixing what ain't broke. Well as a result of my saying no to all his ideas on how I spend my money I hardly ever see the guy and then it's only to hear him complain about his wife. Now I'm not collecting any rent from the guy and I'm not getting any work out of him. I spent an hour today in freezing weather fixing a leaky flashing with cement that isn't going to bond because it's too cold. He was asked to fix this 4 months ago. I've got a facia board that fell in a windstorm 2 yrs ago, I haven't been able to get him to help fix it in all that time. Why? Because it butts against the chimney he feels should be torn down. Well the front of my house looks like hell because of it. Now all this up to this point I could live around, believe it or not. I'm not using that part of the barn. I can fix all but the facia myself because that's a 2 man job. Here's the part that's really getting me pi$$ed off. In march of 2002 he asked if he could park his car here long enough for him to get the new tires and exaust system off of it. He had just bought a truck but the parts would work on his wifes car, which was the same thing. I was smart enough to ask him how long it would be and he answered 2 weeks. Well this car is still in my driveway. His wife no longer has another car like it. I've been hounding him for months. He was on vacation all last week and promised to get it out. It's still there. His grandmother was in the hospital. Every time I ask this guy to get the car out or help fix something, he comes up with an excuse. I have a nieghbor complaining rightfully so. And if she complains to the villiage I'm gonna get nailed with a $100.00 fine for having an unregistered vehicle on my property.
All I know is he had five days counting saturday to have the junkyard come get it. He couldn't be at grandma's side 24/7, and every time I called his apartment he was "just getting ready to leave to go see grandma".
How in the world am I going to end this?? I'd call the junkyard myself, but it's locked I don't have keys or a title.
Woods
It's better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees.
I have a friend I've known since 1984. He's a pretty good guy, but, a situation is developing in our friendship. This guy never got along with his mom, so when I bought the house he asked if he could rent or trade for the use of a portion of my barn. Fine at that point I had a bad knee and the doctor had forbidden the use of ladders. So rather than ask for money which I knew he didn't have, I told him he could come down and give me a days work a month. He's a pretty good electrician and well versed in building maintenance. Well from the start there were suggestions of tearing off the aluminum siding and painting the old wood. I said no because it's worth more to the next owner with aluminum or vinyl siding on it. The he wants to tear the unused chimney down. If I did I would have to find the correct color siding with the correct ammount of fading to cover the space up, so I said no. The chimney is sound and isn't about to fall, so I ain't fixing what ain't broke. Well as a result of my saying no to all his ideas on how I spend my money I hardly ever see the guy and then it's only to hear him complain about his wife. Now I'm not collecting any rent from the guy and I'm not getting any work out of him. I spent an hour today in freezing weather fixing a leaky flashing with cement that isn't going to bond because it's too cold. He was asked to fix this 4 months ago. I've got a facia board that fell in a windstorm 2 yrs ago, I haven't been able to get him to help fix it in all that time. Why? Because it butts against the chimney he feels should be torn down. Well the front of my house looks like hell because of it. Now all this up to this point I could live around, believe it or not. I'm not using that part of the barn. I can fix all but the facia myself because that's a 2 man job. Here's the part that's really getting me pi$$ed off. In march of 2002 he asked if he could park his car here long enough for him to get the new tires and exaust system off of it. He had just bought a truck but the parts would work on his wifes car, which was the same thing. I was smart enough to ask him how long it would be and he answered 2 weeks. Well this car is still in my driveway. His wife no longer has another car like it. I've been hounding him for months. He was on vacation all last week and promised to get it out. It's still there. His grandmother was in the hospital. Every time I ask this guy to get the car out or help fix something, he comes up with an excuse. I have a nieghbor complaining rightfully so. And if she complains to the villiage I'm gonna get nailed with a $100.00 fine for having an unregistered vehicle on my property.
All I know is he had five days counting saturday to have the junkyard come get it. He couldn't be at grandma's side 24/7, and every time I called his apartment he was "just getting ready to leave to go see grandma".
How in the world am I going to end this?? I'd call the junkyard myself, but it's locked I don't have keys or a title.
Woods
It's better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees.
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God Bless America and...
NEVER Forget WACO
NEVER, EVER Forget 911
Bruce
By the way, he isn't your friend. Friends don't treat each other like he does. He's a user, leech, maggott..etc.
"If they won't give us good terms, come back and we'll fight it out."
-- Gen. James Longstreet
Clouder..
"With Friends like this you don't need enemies", comes to mind.
Oh by the way, the guy that owned the car.......was my SON.
Friends?? would not get away with it at all.
Friends come by to just say hi, shoot the breeze, and offer help.
Acquaintances come by, when they WANT something.
The gene pool needs chlorine.
Woods
It's better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees.
I would tell him, "this is what I need you to do, and this is when I need you to do it per our agreement."
If he didn't do it, I would tell him, "I need you to get you stuff out so I can make a new agreement with someone who will follow through."
No extra talk, no anger, just straight forward talk. I find it works best.
How you doin'!